got it off  mandakatt
"I do everything the right way"


Perfectionists are realistic, conscientious, and principled.

They strive to live up to their high ideals.



How to Get Along with Me

• Take your share of the responsibility so I don't end up with all the work.

• Acknowledge my achievements.

• I'm hard on myself. Reassure me that I'm fine the way I am.

• Tell me that you value my advice.

• Be fair and considerate, as I am.

• Apologize if you have been unthoughtful. It will help me to forgive.

• Gently encourage me to lighten up and to laugh at myself when I get uptight, but hear my worries first.



What I Like About Being a ONE

• being self-disciplined and able to accomplish a great deal

• working hard to make the world a better place

• having high standards and ethics; not compromising myself

• being reasonable, responsible, and dedicated in everything I do

• being able to put facts together, coming to good understandings, and figuring out wise solutions

• being the best I can be and bringing out the best in other people



What's Hard About Being a ONE

• being disappointed with myself or others when my expectations are not met

• feeling burdened by too much responsibility

• thinking that what I do is never good enough

• not being appreciated for what I do for people

• being upset because others aren't trying as hard as I am

• obsessing about what I did or what I should do

• being tense, anxious, and taking things too seriously



ONEs as Children Often

• criticize themselves in anticipation of criticism from others

• refrain from doing things that they think might not come out perfect

• focus on living up to the expectations of their parents and teachers

• are very responsible; may assume the role of parent

• hold back negative emotions ("good children aren't angry")



ONEs as Parents

• teach their children responsibility and strong moral values

• are consistent and fair

• discipline firmly