yoinked from  JournyeFox

I am a NINE on the enneagram-test. Not all of it applies to me, but some of it does:

How to Get Along with Me

• If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don't like expectations or pressure.

• I like to listen and to be of service, but don't take advantage of this.

• Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit. (Actually, I don't think I meander when I speak--I like to get to the point.)

• Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It's OK to nudge me gently and nonjudgmentally.

• Ask me questions to help me get clear.

• Tell me when you like how I look. I'm not averse to flattery. (I'm not so concerned about my appearance, but I do appreciate feedback on my accomplishments.)

• Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings.

• I like a good discussion but not a confrontation. (SOOOO TRUE!)

• Let me know you like what I've done or said.

• Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life.



What I Like About Being a NINE

• being nonjudgmental and accepting

• caring for and being concerned about others

• being able to relax and have a good time

• knowing that most people enjoy my company; I'm easy to be around

• my ability to see many different sides of an issue and to be a good mediator and facilitator

• my heightened awareness of sensations, aesthetics, and the here and now

• being able to go with the flow and feel one with the universe



What's Hard About Being a NINE

• being judged and misunderstood for being placid and/or indecisive

• being critical of myself for lacking initiative and discipline (also true)

• being too sensitive to criticism; taking every raised eyebrow and twitch of the mouth personally (Not so true--I'm not overly sensitive about eyebrow twitches and such, but I do take criticism personally, positive and negative. Doesn't mean I don't want feedback, though!)

• being confused about what I really want (not true. I know what I want in life.)

• caring too much about what others will think of me (Also not true. Most of the time I don't care what others think.)

• not being listened to or taken seriously



NINEs as Children Often

• feel ignored and that their wants, opinions, and feelings are unimportant

• tune out a lot, especially when others argue (VERY true--I don't like conflict)

• are "good" children: deny anger or keep it to themselves (only sometimes)



NINEs as Parents

• are supportive, kind, and warm

• are sometimes overly permissive or nondirective

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