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15 years ago
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bond /b'ɒnd/
Synonyms:
noun: tie, link, obligation, debenture
bonds plural, 3rd person present; bonding present participle; bonded past tense, past participle
A bond between people is a strong feeling of friendship, love, or shared beliefs and experiences that unites them. N-COUNT
The experience created a very special bond between us. + 'between'
...the bond that linked them.
But.. what is a bond, really? And what determines how strong one is, or how long it will last for?
If a bond is broken... is it gone forever? And if a bond is supposed to be a strong feeling... how can it be said to have been broken at all? Feelings can change i guess but, not easily... or at least, they shouldn't right?
Does the place where a bond is made effect how strong the relationship is and will be? The internet is a great and wonderful invention. It allows all sorts of people with different beliefs and backgrounds to come together and meet and share ideas. But if you never meet the person... can you ever really know them? Can you truly form bonds between people so far away?
It seems when people get close to one another over the internet, it's easier to sever ties than it would be if they were together in person, In real life. But even though it's on the internet, the people accessing and communicating are real are they not? Real thoughts.. real feelings... real words... so why aren't the bonds real?
Maybe, bonds through the internet can't be held together because they were never meant to be formed? Even if the people behind the words are real, is there really any way to tell if the words are as well? If people only get close to you for things such as being bored, or horny, or superficial purposes, the person being targeted would never know. The feelings of friendship or more... would they be real? Can a true bond be one sided?
I think about that, and i cant help but think yes. Even "in real life" people can admire someone, or even fall in love with someone, and the other may never reciprocate the feelings... or even know the exist. But a thought is left lingering in the back of my mind.. is that right? Isn't that cruel? For one person to put forth so much effort and heart into forming a bond, and for the other to reply with false emotions or to ignore it completely.
Perhaps the question shouldn't be, what is a bond, but rather... why do people people create bonds, even when they don't really care? Or why do people lie? How can someone who you have grown to trust and have strong feelings of friendship or love keep such big secrets from you, and then completely stop all contact with you? Even if there is a fight, or a disagreement, or things that come up that take up time... the bonds between a person shouldn't be broken so easily if they were sewn with true and sincere emotions.
People can go months and even years without seeing each other, but when they finally do it can be as if the time separated was nothing but an instant and they can pick up where they left off. True that friends can become enemies, but why? There's usually a big ordeal, if something trivial comes between them after a while it blows over and they're friends again right? So the bonds are never really broken.. however if someone simply doesn't want to speak to you ever again one day, how can you say that they ever were your friend to begin with?
Maybe it's just me. Am i the only one who accepts people for who and what they are, and wishes to form bonds between anyone who has a heart? I feel like i get taken advantage of, and not taken seriously because im so kind. I have so many friends it just makes me think... are these bonds real? And if not, who's the one creating the false ties.. myself for ignoring peoples flaws and considering a person i have a few friendly chats with a friend... or they who reciprocate those feelings....
Just lost in thoughts.. it probably doesn't make much sense but... "since when do feelings have to make sense?"
Synonyms:
noun: tie, link, obligation, debenture
bonds plural, 3rd person present; bonding present participle; bonded past tense, past participle
A bond between people is a strong feeling of friendship, love, or shared beliefs and experiences that unites them. N-COUNT
The experience created a very special bond between us. + 'between'
...the bond that linked them.
But.. what is a bond, really? And what determines how strong one is, or how long it will last for?
If a bond is broken... is it gone forever? And if a bond is supposed to be a strong feeling... how can it be said to have been broken at all? Feelings can change i guess but, not easily... or at least, they shouldn't right?
Does the place where a bond is made effect how strong the relationship is and will be? The internet is a great and wonderful invention. It allows all sorts of people with different beliefs and backgrounds to come together and meet and share ideas. But if you never meet the person... can you ever really know them? Can you truly form bonds between people so far away?
It seems when people get close to one another over the internet, it's easier to sever ties than it would be if they were together in person, In real life. But even though it's on the internet, the people accessing and communicating are real are they not? Real thoughts.. real feelings... real words... so why aren't the bonds real?
Maybe, bonds through the internet can't be held together because they were never meant to be formed? Even if the people behind the words are real, is there really any way to tell if the words are as well? If people only get close to you for things such as being bored, or horny, or superficial purposes, the person being targeted would never know. The feelings of friendship or more... would they be real? Can a true bond be one sided?
I think about that, and i cant help but think yes. Even "in real life" people can admire someone, or even fall in love with someone, and the other may never reciprocate the feelings... or even know the exist. But a thought is left lingering in the back of my mind.. is that right? Isn't that cruel? For one person to put forth so much effort and heart into forming a bond, and for the other to reply with false emotions or to ignore it completely.
Perhaps the question shouldn't be, what is a bond, but rather... why do people people create bonds, even when they don't really care? Or why do people lie? How can someone who you have grown to trust and have strong feelings of friendship or love keep such big secrets from you, and then completely stop all contact with you? Even if there is a fight, or a disagreement, or things that come up that take up time... the bonds between a person shouldn't be broken so easily if they were sewn with true and sincere emotions.
People can go months and even years without seeing each other, but when they finally do it can be as if the time separated was nothing but an instant and they can pick up where they left off. True that friends can become enemies, but why? There's usually a big ordeal, if something trivial comes between them after a while it blows over and they're friends again right? So the bonds are never really broken.. however if someone simply doesn't want to speak to you ever again one day, how can you say that they ever were your friend to begin with?
Maybe it's just me. Am i the only one who accepts people for who and what they are, and wishes to form bonds between anyone who has a heart? I feel like i get taken advantage of, and not taken seriously because im so kind. I have so many friends it just makes me think... are these bonds real? And if not, who's the one creating the false ties.. myself for ignoring peoples flaws and considering a person i have a few friendly chats with a friend... or they who reciprocate those feelings....
Just lost in thoughts.. it probably doesn't make much sense but... "since when do feelings have to make sense?"
and thats how i feel too, but it just hurts sometimes and confuses me how others can just think of it as nothing >_<
I do believe some bonds may last forever, and others may weaken, or strengthen overtime. It's common for a bond to be broken, even If we're not sure why... But I do believe each bond we make or lose makes us into who we are... and throughout life we will keep forming new bonds and each one will ether make us stronger, weaker, or bitter.
I never really build close bonds with people.. with me it takes time and trust. I just can't open up to someone if they don't feel the same way I do, because I like to build lasting bonds with my friends and keep them close to my heart.. even if it may lead to me getting hurt in the end, but I learn from it and hopefully become stronger.
Sorry! I'm just talking about nothing really. lol :3