{Comments from yours truly in french brackets}

6- The Questioner- aka The "Loyalist" {Viva la sistema!}

I am affectionate and skeptical. {True. . .}

Questioners are responsible {enh}, trustworthy{I AM?}, and value loyalty to family, friends, groups, and causes {THEY ARE ALL PERFECT, ALGREN-SAN!}. Their personalities range broadly from reserved and timid to outspoken and confrontative.



How to Get Along with Me

• Be direct and clear. {Helps.}

• Listen to me carefully. {WATCH for SNARK}

• Don't judge me for my anxiety. {PLEEEZE!!!}

• Work things through with me. {See above comment}

• Reassure me that everything is OK between us. {Ditto}

• Laugh and make jokes with me. {A priest, a minister, and a rabbi. . .}

• Gently push me toward new experiences. {Just a noodge}

• Try not to overreact to my overreacting. {No comment . . .}



What I Like About Being a SIX

• being committed and faithful to family and friends

• being responsible and hardworking

• being compassionate toward others

• having intellect and wit

• being a nonconformist {Wait, aren't I a loyalist?}

• confronting danger bravely

• being direct and assertive



What's Hard About Being a SIX

• the constant push and pull involved in trying to make up my mind {True.}

• procrastinating because of fear of failure; having little confidence in myself {Also True}

• fearing being abandoned or taken advantage of {PARANOIA!}

• exhausting myself by worrying and scanning for danger

• wishing I had a rule book at work so I could do everything right {If I had a nickel!}

• being too critical of myself when I haven't lived up to my expectations {YUP.}



SIXes as Children Often

• are friendly, likable, and dependable, and/or sarcastic, bossy, and stubborn {ALLA the above}

• are anxious and hypervigilant; anticipate danger {*nodnods*}

• form a team of "us against them" with a best friend or parent {Once or twice, usually against my poor dad. I regret this now.}

• look to groups or authorities to protect them and/or question authority and rebel {I rebelled by NOT rebelling.}

• are neglected or abused, come from unpredictable or alcoholic families, and/or take on the fearfulness of an overly anxious parent {Not that I can say . . .}



SIXes as Parents {I will comment more on this once I have cubs. . .}

• are often loving, nurturing, and have a strong sense of duty {do that anyway}

• are sometimes reluctant to give their children independence

• worry more than most that their children will get hurt

• sometimes have trouble saying no and setting boundaries {no problems there, buckaroo.}



Harper: San Francisco, 1994, 161 pages