Oh maaaaaaaan :O

That is romantic, but if he was as bad as you say he was in the past, well...

I do believe people can change, depending on the situations. Maybe he has changed, indeed, and for the better? Only you will be able to judge that.

BUT. If what your /heart/ is saying is that you are still harboring (or, in your case, rekindling) those lost feelings yet you are also really confused about it, I won't say nip-it-in-the-bud, but I will say to at the very minimum, if you decide to tread the waters, at least do it a little cautiously. Some may be able to change, but I also acknowledge that some people just can't.

Hopefully, your feelings will work out and you'll know what to do.

All my luck to ya, dude *hug*

He used me, yet I kept crawling back. Until I finally wised up and at the last time he broke my trust, that was the end.

When we met, he was a wonderful, happy, caring guy. But when we hit some problems, he started seeing someone else, while still playing with my heart. The other guy turned him into a complete ass who thought he was better than everyone else.

I'd actually started writing a story based on our timeline. But I was so obsessed with Kingdom Hearts at the time, so it incorporated. [But that's neither here, nor there..]

I fell into the worst depression I could ever feel. And I forced myself to get over who I remembered he was. When I hung out with him, and spoke with him over the phone, he seemed like the happy, kind, caring guy he used to be, and that opened up every wound. When we ran arronds for his work, he handled everything and talked to his boss. He seemed so much more responsible and mature.

My heart is falling back for him, but every fiber of my brain says I musn't.

Ffffffu....

Ah, god damnit dude...That...that just sucks...so, so much...I'm so sorry you went through that...

If that's the case, I advise to not see him again...as tough as that may be...

I've never felt that kind of attachment to anybody, so I have no true grasp of the feelings you had for him, but if he hurt you in such a way, putting yourself in the position where his charms could possibly start reeling you back in probably isn't the best thing for you.

Is he going to be visiting for a while?

UNBELIEVABLY LONG RANT, DON'T READ IF YOU DON'T WANT TO

He was actually the first boyfriend that I ever had, and when we first started going out, it was so perfect. [I don't mean to be a Debbie Downer (I hate that bitch, haha), but it's the true stroy] Every part of my life to that point had been nothing but depression. My family split up, I was picked on and beaten up at school becuase I liked guys, my mom [who was like my best friend] started to hate me becuase of my sexuality, I realized every good memory I had about my dad was alcohol enduced [on his part]. And my so called "best friend" had taken forceful advantage of me, when i confessed my preference.

I just moved to near SanDiego, and I knew few people. I made new, better friends. When I met him, we were practicing for being in a friend of mine's Quince. When I asked [I'll call him YKW "You Know Who"] him out, i knew he was straight, but as shy and selfconcious as i was, i felt this gut feeling to ask him, even if he turned me down. I asked, and he let me down so sweetly and kindly. He even called me brave for admitting myself and he was glad for me. I was so perfectly happy after that.

He ended up needing a place to crash, and by some odd miracle, my parents allowed him. The next day, my parents took us out to breakfast and a movie [they have NEVER been kind to my friends]. We played the nervous game and he was nervous at all, but instead we ended up kissing and i asked him out. Him moved all the way out to where i did in order to go to school with me. Everyday we'd see eachother and be with eachother, doing naughty things we shouldn't in the bathrooms, haha.

Everything since that had been so unbelievably perfect. It was like a fairytale, and i had NEVER been so happy and so in love. Then we hit problems and it all fell apart horribly. I nearly committed suicide, but my mom caught me. I went to therapy and all, but it never helped. I had to get over it alone. But we still had on and off flings. No matter how bad he got, i still loved him.

So yea, long story short [too late], he was the perfect guy. It was like I was meant to meet him, and I could even see us beeing together for years, but that other guy turned him against everyone. Me, his own friends, even his own family. Then he started getting into drugs. It completely broke me to peices.

He has his a car now, and three jobs. He just got his own place, and he wants me to move in with him. If i don't, he wants to hang out everytime he doesn't have work. So yeah, he's going to be visiting A LOT.

I read this and I...don't really know what to say, to be completely honest.

I'm so sorry for all you've been through, that's just...terrible. I'm speechless...

As for the current situation, it's surprising to me that he asked you to move in with him so suddenly! Did ask you just today?

And if seeing him brings any sort of hard feelings, even subtle, maybe you should talk to him about all that had happened, clear the air? I'm not sure what that might stir up, or even if it really needs to, but I've been in a situation where trying to go back to a relationship after it's already been damaged, and pretending like nothing happened, is a really, really bad thing to do (and in my case, it ended up destroying the relationship in the end, when it just couldn't taken anymore).

I agree. But as I said, he seems like he was when I'd first met him. He's extremely nervous and it's like anytime I mention our past, it hurts him. I'd frequently gotten that same feeling, and I know how that kind of position feels. And it's like you said, pretending nothing happened destroys the relationship. That's what we'd always done before. And we end up back where we started, angry at eachother.

I want to be his friend, even if I feel like I'd like more.. But if he does try to make any move, I'm just going to tell him the truth. I don't hold a grudge against him for all that's happened, but I'll never see him quite the same, you know?

And he asked me to move in about less than a week since he first contacted me. I'm planning to leave home, and live out on my own, and I want to go out of state. When he heard the news, he told me to come live with him. Anytime I mention wanting to leave my house, he offers me to move in. And the thing is, I want to. But that's because I can't STAND being here and I'm that desperate to leave.

Ahhh I see, I see...

Well, I can understand wanting to remain friends. And yeah, I can totally understand the changes thing.

OH okay, yeah I was totally thinking it was like, he came to visit you and *knockknock* "Hi, nice to see you again...by the way, wanna move in?" That's something a friend of mine would pull, heh heh. Do you have any optional plans on living out on your own if you didn't move in with him?

Agh, and sorry my constant questions. I'm sounding like a mother hen, durrrr.

Hahaha No problem-o Cx

If I go out on my own, I'll either live with a friend, move back to LA with my grandparents, or move to Oregon with distant family. I personally want to take a risky adventure and go across the states, looking for anyone who'll have me. I don't really care what happens to me, I just want out. That's how desperate I've become!

If he and I can reach an understanding and we don't start dating again, but still stay friends.. I'm definately taking him up on his offer.

Bwahaha! My grandparents live in LA too! X'D We go down to visit them every Thanksgiving and go to Disneyrand CX

BUT RISKS ARE...ARE RISKS! Stranger Danger and all that DB

TOTALY NOT BEING A WORRYWORT but you should take the safest possible, move in with him before you go on RISKY ADVENTURES NUUU ; O;

BAHAHAHA! xD

Moving in with him is a risky adventure!

And I know the whole "stranger danger" stuff!
But I would risk that to GET OUT OF HERE!
UNT MINE GODS! I VANT OOT!

At least it would be a risky adventure you'd be somewhat familiar with! XD

Hello stranger sir you need help finding your lost puppy alright I'll help oh he ran into the back of this van you say alright lemme just hop right in heE-OH GOD THERE IS NO PUPPY IN HERE.

WHAT ARE YOU GONNA DO WITH ME MISTER?! D:

~I'm gonna cook ya and eat ya! ARGH!~

Oh, that's all? I recommend oaky seasonings, and fresh herbs... If you marinate the sauces just right, the taste would be much more---

GET

IN

MAH

BELLAY~

UNBELIEBABLY LONG RANT, DON'T READ IF YOU DON'T WANT TO

He was actually the first boyfriend that I ever had, and when we first started going out, it was so perfect. [I don't mean to be a Debbie Downer (I hate that bitch, haha), but it's the true stroy] Every part of my life to that point had been nothing but depression. My family split up, I was picked on and beaten up at school becuase I liked guys, my mom [who was like my best friend] started to hate me becuase of my sexuality, I realized every good memory I had about my dad was alcohol enduced [on his part]. And my so called "best friend" had taken forceful advantage of me, when i confessed my preference.

I just moved to near SanDiego, and I knew few people. I made new, better friends. When I met him, we were practicing for being in a friend of mine's Quince. When I asked [I'll call him YKW "You Know Who"] him out, i knew he was straight, but as shy and selfconcious as i was, i felt this gut feeling to ask him, even if he turned me down. I asked, and he let me down so sweetly and kindly. He even called me brave for admitting myself and he was glad for me. I was so perfectly happy after that.

He ended up needing a place to crash, and by some odd miracle, my parents allowed him. The next day, my parents took us out to breakfast and a movie [they have NEVER been kind to my friends]. We played the nervous game and he was nervous at all, but instead we ended up kissing and i asked him out. Him moved all the way out to where i did in order to go to school with me. Everyday we'd see eachother and be with eachother, doing naughty things we shouldn't in the bathrooms, haha.

Everything since that had been so unbelievably perfect. It was like a fairytale, and i had NEVER been so happy and so in love. Then we hit problems and it all fell apart horribly. I nearly committed suicide, but my mom caught me. I went to therapy and all, but it never helped. I had to get over it alone. But we still had on and off flings. No matter how bad he got, i still loved him.

So yea, long story short [too late], he was the perfect guy. It was like I was meant to meet him, and I could even see us beeing together for years, but that other guy turned him against everyone. Me, his own friends, even his own family. Then he started getting into drugs. It completely broke me to peices.

He has his a car now, and three jobs. He just got his own place, and he wants me to move in with him. If i don't, he wants to hang out everytime he doesn't have work. So yeah, he's going to be visiting A LOT.