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SOMEONE TEACH ME TO BE SOCIAL > <
15 years ago
I really really REALLY have problems with other people. It's not that I dislike you, or that I don't want to talk to you, it's just not in my nature to be social.
It's really bothering me at the moment, earlier today I went to a page of one of my watchers, I looked at their art and I wanted to give encouragement and praise them for their work, however, my unsociable nature made it impossible for me to word it without coming off as rude or condescending. Should it be this hard to say "Nice Job" to someone? It was apparently incredibly difficult for me, because after 2 minutes of sitting in front of the chat box, I gave up.
I need that magical power everyone else has, to be friendly with everyone, and overlook the quality of work in favor of seeing effort and progress, so that I may be more sociable, likable, and be able to cheer on those artists who's determination to improve I applaud.
I'll admit it, I'm a snob for quality, and usually, I find that most of the people I come across are just reeeaaaaalllyyy not good at drawing, yet. Considering I hate my own drawings and want to improve really badly, that means a good number of people's art I also do not appreciate.
If you watch me, and you draw, I've probably stopped by your page at one time or another with the intent of wishing you luck, or congratulating you on progress or something like that, but then gave up when my brain fails and I can't think of something nice to write.
How do you people do this, how do you be friendly and say nice things when you don't really think it. > <
It's really bothering me at the moment, earlier today I went to a page of one of my watchers, I looked at their art and I wanted to give encouragement and praise them for their work, however, my unsociable nature made it impossible for me to word it without coming off as rude or condescending. Should it be this hard to say "Nice Job" to someone? It was apparently incredibly difficult for me, because after 2 minutes of sitting in front of the chat box, I gave up.
I need that magical power everyone else has, to be friendly with everyone, and overlook the quality of work in favor of seeing effort and progress, so that I may be more sociable, likable, and be able to cheer on those artists who's determination to improve I applaud.
I'll admit it, I'm a snob for quality, and usually, I find that most of the people I come across are just reeeaaaaalllyyy not good at drawing, yet. Considering I hate my own drawings and want to improve really badly, that means a good number of people's art I also do not appreciate.
If you watch me, and you draw, I've probably stopped by your page at one time or another with the intent of wishing you luck, or congratulating you on progress or something like that, but then gave up when my brain fails and I can't think of something nice to write.
How do you people do this, how do you be friendly and say nice things when you don't really think it. > <
and it's quite simple, just be yourself
let your heart speak, then rather your brain. ;p
Myself is a easily irritable narcissist, who hates to lose, always thinks he's right, and ignores people if he doesn't like them.
Myself also does not like to be touched, does not like loud noises, and is startled easily.
My heart is blunt, and says things regardless of whether i intend to or not. My heart is rude (truthful but still rude) and doesn't care who it insults in the process of speaking its mind.
I can't be me, I have to lie and put on a fake face or I'm hopeless with other people - 3 -
I think you can manage.. Sooner or later, you'll feel right at home.
It takes some time to adjust. It's highly worth it.
I never had the social issues before, I was actually quite the RP-er when i was younger and just starting out, giving scritches and pets and all that jazz.
It'll be almost like going backwards, devolving to a period before sillyness didn't cause me to cringe.
Not impossible though I guess.
I used to be a careless RP furry, perfectly happy leading the pirate ship in chat, cavorting in promiscuous ways with people I've never met face to face.
But now... the thought of doing that just disgusts my sensibilities.
Crude humor kills my soul.
Also I never curse, unless I say damn, but damn isn't a curse in my book > >
At least I know, even if I never speak to you, if I have a problem, I can at least expect help from those who are faithful.
Air High Five.
Cause if you touch me I'll bite you. I mean it.
I was 5 I think. I bit her, so she bit me back, never tried to bite her again. Lol
Judo huh? I'm not familiar with that particular martial art, there's so many that I can't really differentiate the difference between them all @ @
I got a yellow belt in karate D: like, when i was 8. BEAT THAT
i dont take judo actually XD
I take shaolin kenp: the stuff the shaolin monks use :D