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Oh, bi the way...
18 years ago
I don't think sexual preferences are genetic or hereditary. You might say that it's influenced by how a person is raised, but I think it's a choice. The dumbest argument against this is "Why would someone be gay on purpose? Why would they choose to be hated and outcast and persecuted?". You may as well say "Why would a person choose to be Christian, Atheists will hate them!", or for that matter, "Why would a person choose to be Atheist, Christians will hate them!".
I think all people are "naturally bi". As in, I think everyone is capable of finding guys and/or girls attractive if they wanted to and capable of loving physical contact with whomever they want to give consent to. It's up to the individual to decide what kind of people they are attracted to, therefore, describing it as "sexual preference" is the perfect way to describe it IMHO. I find that it parallels with food preferences. People are naturally omnivorous, but some people decide to be vegetarians, you see? The main difference, though, is that for food, allowing for anything is the social norm and those who choose to only have a certain type (like plant matter) are the deviants, whereas for sexual attraction, the social norm is choosing only one category, the opposite sex, and anything else is deviant. Your parents could have raised you vegetarian, but you might choose not to be once no longer control you as much, and likewise you might be raised straight. Vice versa for gay guys with girls.
But being straight is the "cool" thing to do, and life as a school-age person is run greatly by what's "cool". Doing anything not stereotypically straight is as bad of an offense as admitting that you like a certain band that isn't popular anymore. Pretty much everyone in high-school is "School-house straight". They say they're straight, practice a straight life-style, and even honestly enjoy being straight, but once they're freed from the school-house setting, they're finally free to consider other things. And I do mean "consider", being straight might be right up your alley, but whenever you see someone of the same gender who's attractive, there's no more reason to stifle yourself, admit it. You're still straight, you still prefer girls, but since you no longer have to worry about keeping a tough guy attitude, you shouldn't feel like vomiting when some androgynous type reveals to be a dude.
I think all people are "naturally bi". As in, I think everyone is capable of finding guys and/or girls attractive if they wanted to and capable of loving physical contact with whomever they want to give consent to. It's up to the individual to decide what kind of people they are attracted to, therefore, describing it as "sexual preference" is the perfect way to describe it IMHO. I find that it parallels with food preferences. People are naturally omnivorous, but some people decide to be vegetarians, you see? The main difference, though, is that for food, allowing for anything is the social norm and those who choose to only have a certain type (like plant matter) are the deviants, whereas for sexual attraction, the social norm is choosing only one category, the opposite sex, and anything else is deviant. Your parents could have raised you vegetarian, but you might choose not to be once no longer control you as much, and likewise you might be raised straight. Vice versa for gay guys with girls.
But being straight is the "cool" thing to do, and life as a school-age person is run greatly by what's "cool". Doing anything not stereotypically straight is as bad of an offense as admitting that you like a certain band that isn't popular anymore. Pretty much everyone in high-school is "School-house straight". They say they're straight, practice a straight life-style, and even honestly enjoy being straight, but once they're freed from the school-house setting, they're finally free to consider other things. And I do mean "consider", being straight might be right up your alley, but whenever you see someone of the same gender who's attractive, there's no more reason to stifle yourself, admit it. You're still straight, you still prefer girls, but since you no longer have to worry about keeping a tough guy attitude, you shouldn't feel like vomiting when some androgynous type reveals to be a dude.
