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amyth
So I recently finished my summer classes for college (woot! no more worrying about finals) and in one of my classes (Communication) we learned about 6 different love types. I actually ended up having to do a skit in front of the class with a few others about them and that got me interested..
Anyways, the six types are as follows:
1. Eros Love. Eros lovers tend to emphasize romantic relationships, physical beauty, desire, and physical attraction. Relationships based on eros love tend to fizzle quickly, because these types of lovers can’t maintain this high level of passion. An eros lover’s approach to a healthy romantic relationship involves an intense focus on the emotional aspects of love, including finding different ways to express love.
2. Pragma Love. Pragma lovers are rational and practical – and so is their approach to romance and healthy relationships. This type of lover decides to love someone who best fits their requirements and meets their needs. Pragma lovers assess potential partners for appropriate education levels, professions, income, social status, common interests, parent potential, and material possessions. A pragma lover’s approach to a healthy romantic relationship doesn’t focus on the emotional aspects of love.
3. Storge Love. Storge lovers focus on friendship to build a healthy relationship. This style of love usually begins with a strong friendship, which eventually develops into feelings of romantic love and intimacy. The sexual aspect of storge love tends to be less important than the friendship aspect (making the approach to romance a lower priority). A storge lover’s approach to a healthy romantic relationship focuses on caring, compassion, and heart-to-heart discussions.
4. Agape Love. Agape lovers are known for their selfless love or brotherly love. Agape love is also know as “divine love” because it’s self-sacrificing and altruistic love. An agape lover’s approach to a healthy relationship focuses on giving without any expectations or strings attached. Agape love is best suited for the love of God, saints and martyrs because healthy romantic relationships require a balance of giving and receiving (not just giving, as an agape lover would tend to do).
5. Ludus Love. Ludus lovers tend to be game players in romance. Ludus lovers are addicted to the excitement of forming a romantic relationship, and aren’t as enthralled by building a healthy long-term marriage. A ludus lover’s approach to a healthy romantic relationship involves the thrill of the chase and the thrill of new romance, not the work of building a long-term commitment.
6. Mania Love. Remember Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction? She was a manic lover: possessive, dependent, jealous, and controlling. These are signs of addictive relationships -- not healthy romantic love! A manic lover’s approach to a “healthy” romantic relationship focuses on turmoil, extreme reactions, and even obsession. Mania love can involve threats, stalking, or worse.
Personally for me I'd say I am influenced the most by pragmatic, storgic and manic love. (as much as I hate to admit that last one >.>... I'm really jealous and possessive :/ ) But I have a strong tendency to fall for my 'best friends' so to speak and I really look for practicality and long term or even marriage potential in partners. Plus, I'm pretty compassionate and caring towards my partners (when I'm getting what I want :x ) and value companionship above all else basically. I want a best friend.. sex and romance is just a happy consequence :)
Though.. Of course all the love types are relevant to all of us to an extent, but those I feel represent mine the best or most strongly.
How about you guys though? After looking at these 6 types which do you feel best represent your love style or 'type'?
I'd love to hear your thoughts :3
amythSo I recently finished my summer classes for college (woot! no more worrying about finals) and in one of my classes (Communication) we learned about 6 different love types. I actually ended up having to do a skit in front of the class with a few others about them and that got me interested..
Anyways, the six types are as follows:
1. Eros Love. Eros lovers tend to emphasize romantic relationships, physical beauty, desire, and physical attraction. Relationships based on eros love tend to fizzle quickly, because these types of lovers can’t maintain this high level of passion. An eros lover’s approach to a healthy romantic relationship involves an intense focus on the emotional aspects of love, including finding different ways to express love.
2. Pragma Love. Pragma lovers are rational and practical – and so is their approach to romance and healthy relationships. This type of lover decides to love someone who best fits their requirements and meets their needs. Pragma lovers assess potential partners for appropriate education levels, professions, income, social status, common interests, parent potential, and material possessions. A pragma lover’s approach to a healthy romantic relationship doesn’t focus on the emotional aspects of love.
3. Storge Love. Storge lovers focus on friendship to build a healthy relationship. This style of love usually begins with a strong friendship, which eventually develops into feelings of romantic love and intimacy. The sexual aspect of storge love tends to be less important than the friendship aspect (making the approach to romance a lower priority). A storge lover’s approach to a healthy romantic relationship focuses on caring, compassion, and heart-to-heart discussions.
4. Agape Love. Agape lovers are known for their selfless love or brotherly love. Agape love is also know as “divine love” because it’s self-sacrificing and altruistic love. An agape lover’s approach to a healthy relationship focuses on giving without any expectations or strings attached. Agape love is best suited for the love of God, saints and martyrs because healthy romantic relationships require a balance of giving and receiving (not just giving, as an agape lover would tend to do).
5. Ludus Love. Ludus lovers tend to be game players in romance. Ludus lovers are addicted to the excitement of forming a romantic relationship, and aren’t as enthralled by building a healthy long-term marriage. A ludus lover’s approach to a healthy romantic relationship involves the thrill of the chase and the thrill of new romance, not the work of building a long-term commitment.
6. Mania Love. Remember Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction? She was a manic lover: possessive, dependent, jealous, and controlling. These are signs of addictive relationships -- not healthy romantic love! A manic lover’s approach to a “healthy” romantic relationship focuses on turmoil, extreme reactions, and even obsession. Mania love can involve threats, stalking, or worse.
Personally for me I'd say I am influenced the most by pragmatic, storgic and manic love. (as much as I hate to admit that last one >.>... I'm really jealous and possessive :/ ) But I have a strong tendency to fall for my 'best friends' so to speak and I really look for practicality and long term or even marriage potential in partners. Plus, I'm pretty compassionate and caring towards my partners (when I'm getting what I want :x ) and value companionship above all else basically. I want a best friend.. sex and romance is just a happy consequence :)
Though.. Of course all the love types are relevant to all of us to an extent, but those I feel represent mine the best or most strongly.
How about you guys though? After looking at these 6 types which do you feel best represent your love style or 'type'?
I'd love to hear your thoughts :3
JunkBox
~junkbox
Not having been in any serious relationships (which is unusual at my age!) I can't say for sure. I like both Storge and Pragma.
Ryua
~ryua
I'm definately Pragma and Storge. I don't do obsessive or intense love really. I don't get obsessed... and the one time I did let myself get silly over a person, it ended badly because she wanted something completely different than what I did. Of course, there is a healthy dose of Eros, which is why I let go of that girl. She wouldn't give any physical passion, which I think is extremely important.
