1) if i was a girl in RL, then yes, i got a friend of mine who makes me wanna be a girl >:3
2)nope, it's their opinion, so :3
3) sex goes in the love, yes, it is an option really, not obligatory... except for me [LOL i was joking xD]

1.) Would YOU engage in sex with someone who is either a casual date or friend? Why or why not? I've considered it, but I highly doubt I'd do it. Too many jealousy issues. If I actually felt I loved them? Maybe after talking with my fiance. But I wouldn't take something like that lightly. I'd put a lot of thought into it.
2.) Do you feel differently about people who behave opposite of answer #1? I don't approve, but it really isn't my business. I'm not in a relationship with them, therefore they're welcome to do as they like. I'd only care if we were dating and they were doing that. xD
3.) Sex and love - two different things that go together well or one in the same? They go together, but are not the same thing. You can have a relationship without sex (I have friends in such relationships, and they're quite happy), but you can't have a relationship without some extent of love.

1. no its just against me really mostly because i am in a dedicated serious relationship. but before i was in said relationship i did partake every once inawhile and never truely was comfortalble about it.
2. no to each his own, hell i let my BF partake with a male friend i know is safe simply because i cant give him what i dont have and he does want ( a cock)
3. personally i think they are two different things that go together hand in hand. sex within a relationship can help grow a stronger bond since the two bodies are joining together.

1) Yes I would
2) Nope
3) To me you can have sex with someone just for the pleasure of it and not love them. You can love someone and never have sex with them. but then again to each person its different.

1) I think I might, If everyone was clear on what they want out of it.
2) No, let them live as they wish.
3) I'd say they're two different things but at the same time they can be dependent on each other...

1. A casual date? No. Friends are a tentative maybe. I have trust issues. It's not easy for me to open myself up to just anyone, especially like that.

2. It's one thing to be openminded about sex, but I am uncomfortable with people who seem willing to sleep with ANYTHING and damn the consequences.

3. Two different things that go well together. You can have sex without love. Rape is violent, forced sex. Relationships require some level of love to actually succeed. It doesn't have to be sex-level love, but there must be a mutual connection of some sort, or it just won't work.

1. no cause i thats just who i am i have to love the person to have sex with them
2. no cause its there own choice and i will not jugde them by there choice
3. i think it depends on how the person see's it i see it as they are the same thing sexis something you do with a loved such as your mate and no one else in my opion

I don't normally answer these types of things because my opinions can sometimes be hypocritical... but here it goes.

1) I would. BUT I would also have a boundary of "You are my friend and a release of pent up emotions that I can't get from my significant other because he's halfway around the world" I've gone into 'openly sexual' friendships and had that person fall for me, when all I'm feeling is 'unf' towards them.

2) No I do not. I respect decisions set by other people. If a friend had a boyfriend/girlfriend whom they were 100% loyal to, I wouldn't pressure them into going against the rules they've set for themselves.

3) Sex and Love are DEFINITELY two different roller-coasters. I have had casual sex with someone who is a friend that I didn't necessarily 'love'. I've also had 'loving and meaningful' sex with my significant other that strengthens the mental and emotional bond that we share. It's all about how we choose to define those terms with other people.



My two cents D:

I'm into casual sex with a few select partners who I trust. Since I'm not a jealous person and neither are they, it works out.

Not really. Each person has their own view on this.

Separate things. They're peanut butter and jelly, but you don't have to have 'em both for a good sandwich.

1.) Would YOU engage in sex with someone who is either a casual date or friend? Why or why not?

Yes, but only if i was single, and if it was a mutual decision because we both needed the other person at that given time, i would make sure that it was only sex and the person didn't want more. once i have sex with a friend, i don't really like getting into a relationship afterwards, since i usually make my partner wait 1-4 months before having sex with them in a relationship. it would just mess up how i am in the relationship if i did that.

2.) Do you feel differently about people who behave opposite of answer #1?
No, i understand their reasons for feeling that way as well.

3.) Sex and love - two different things that go together well or one in the same?

Completely Different. You can lust after someone and not love them, You can also love someone deeply, but not be interested in sex with them.

HOWEVER that said, i do feel like sex with someone you love, can make a relationship much more powerful, and deeply connect you to someone's inner feelings.

So in short, sex isn't related to love, but it can magnify things when both are felt toward a single infividual.

1.) Would YOU engage in sex with someone who is either a casual date or friend? Why or why not?
Casual Date, no. Friends, generally a yes unless it would mess too much with the friendship. For the friends there are some boundaries that need to be set so no one gets hurt or no one gets the wrong idea.

2.) Do you feel differently about people who behave opposite of answer #1?
Not at all.


3.) Sex and love - two different things that go together well or one in the same?
They go together well but do not necessarily have to be together in order for there to be a wonderful loving relationship. Nor does a casual sexual relationship have to end in love.

Personally, I've been backing off on having sex with friends recently because I DO want more than that. I want someone who will be there for me at the end of the day, who will love me despite everything. I want him to want my company, to love me for the sake of loving me, to want to give me his time. "Some say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one..."

1) Nope, not really my thing.
2) Not at all, I fully support people consensually doing whatever they like.
3) Two different things that go very well together.

1.) Would YOU engage in sex with someone who is either a casual date or friend? Why or why not?
No...I'm just a very monogamous person. I feel that sex is something 'special' between to people, something that requires a lot of trust.
2.) Do you feel differently about people who behave opposite of answer #1?
A little, but mostly out of confusion I think.
3.) Sex and love - two different things that go together well or one in the same?
Two seperate things that go together well. Would I have sex with someone I don't trust and aren't comfortable with? No, but I know not everyone is the same. Also, on some level, I can't fully and completely trust someone until I have sex with them.

1.) Would YOU engage in sex with someone who is either a casual date or friend? Why or why not? No, because I AM in a committed relationship (i.e. married)
2.) Do you feel differently about people who behave opposite of answer #1? It depends on the person. If I feel differently about them for that, then I am probably also going to feel differently about them for a lot of other things too.
3.) Sex and love - two different things that go together well or one in the same? I can love many people, many different ways, but I can only have sex with one person who I also have to love. So, they're different, but they still have to go together to for me.

1) Yes, actually, because... Well, see my answer to #3. Would still have to be someone I knew and trusted, at least.
2) Not particularly. I'm cool with it as long as they don't get up in my face and scream about how I'm going to hell or anything.
3) Two separate things, and while they do go well together, they don't absolutely HAVE to go together. Otherwise familial relations would be very, very different.

On a somewhat related note, I have to admit I'm a little creeped out by religious fundamentalists (typically the screaming anti-gay ones) who seem to think that love is about NOTHING but who is boinking who. Honestly, it gives the impression that they see marriage as nothing but an elaborate form of masturbation.

1- I HAVE but only whilst single... It's not really something I can do easily since I get attached to people... It's sort of my rebound-tactic... With a mutual understanding of course.

2- To each his/her own. I don't feel strongly on it one way or the other- though I guess I definitely have a problem with it if it's cheating.

3- They are definitely two different things, though when you're in a love relationship with someone it does HELP that there's sex lol... Though you can NOT be in love with someone and still have sex with them- or not be having sex but be in love...

Yep.

to 1 : A casual date maybe a friend no. A casual is meant to meet new faces in my opinion and sex with a friend can destroy these friendship easily.
to 2 : No everbody has their right to made their own decisions and can think and answer on their own, I have my point, they have their point
to 3 : Love is beautiful and with sex it gets only better. Sex without love can be like work sometimes it´s good sometimes it sucks

1.) Would YOU engage in sex with someone who is either a casual date or friend? Why or why not?
- It depends on the friend/date. Some people are "Oh HELL YES," other people not so much.

2.) Do you feel differently about people who behave opposite of answer #1?
- Not at all. It all depends on how you're wired, so *shrugs* Doesn't bother me, as long as they don't hold me to their standards.

3.) Sex and love - two different things that go together well or one in the same?
- A bit of both. I'd have to love someone to some degree in order to trust them enough to have sex with them.

1.) Would YOU engage in sex with someone who is either a casual date or friend?
Nope. I actually waited until marriage to do so with my mate, for both religious reasons, and because I knew that I didn't want to go so far with someone I wasn't sure of, I was too insecure to be able to handle the idea at the time of giving myself to anyone else.
2.) Do you feel differently about people who behave opposite of answer #1?
Sometimes, it really depends on the person and their reasons, I try not to judge.
3.) Sex and love - two different things that go together well or one in the same?
I admittedly dislike the idea of loveless sex, it feels like it's cheapening such a wonderful experience, but to each their own.

1. Casual date? No. I'd probably do some foreplay and such, but actual sex, no. Friend? Yes. I only tend to have friends whom I believe I can trust and if there's mutual attraction and trust...why not? As long as both parties are upfront that it is what it is (just sex), then it can be quite fun and even a great way to learn stuff you wouldn't know otherwise.

2. No. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and I'm mature enough to know that not everyone views things the same way---life experiences and personality differences mean they have an opinion that, for them, works.

3. Two different things, but they tend to go hand in hand. Sex, being as intimate of an act as it is, does strengthen feelings or bonds with the people we engage in it with. Trouble only seems to happen when one party reads too much into the act of sex with someone else, rather than taking it for what it is.

1.) Would YOU engage in sex with someone who is either a casual date or friend? Why or why not?
Hmm...afraid not. I was raised in a family where sex was a big deal and after a bad experience I'm not going to have sex with just any casual date or about 99% of the people who I call friend.

2.) Do you feel differently about people who behave opposite of answer #1?
I admit I find myself a bit confused by people who are willing to be intimate so casually, but as long as it's safe, sane, and consensual I'll try not to judge.

3.) Sex and love - two different things that go together well or one in the same?
Well I'd say they're different but imho sex should only happen after love but maybe I'm just old fashioned like that.

1. More likely than not no, but I have played with others (no penetration) before my current relationship and have no personal qualms with doing S&M with others provided both parties know what they're doing. Mostly it is a fear of sexually transmitted disease but also loyalty as I lost my virginity to my three and have no real desire to pursue sex outside the relationship.
2. No to each their own.
3. They're two different things IMO. You can have sex without love and love without sex. However it is always a good idea to keep in mind the risk of falling for or finding out someone is falling for you can happen with casual sex.

1: No. Not even a romantic one. That has to wait until marriage.
2: Slightly. It doesn't really bother me much, as I know other people have their choices, but it means I should keep an eye on them all the same.
3: I'd find it hard to decide between the two just yet.

1.) Would YOU engage in sex with someone who is either a casual date or friend? Why or why not?
Casual: No. I can't do casual sex. It's not how my brain is wired.
A friend: Only if it's two specific people. Otherwise, no interest.

2.) Do you feel differently about people who behave opposite of answer #1?
As long as I don't catch their STDs, I could care less.

3.) Sex and love - two different things that go together well or one in the same?
They're closely related, but have some independence from each other in my head.

To me
1.) Would YOU engage in sex with someone who is either a casual date or friend? Why or why not?
Yes, because like alot of things (im not picking on any one here) religion has been around so long they even if you dont believe, have still affected how you live or how others act around you. Hell theres familys that dont even believe but still celebrate christmas whats that tell you? Before religion became a big thing and in nature sex isnt just to "breed" and produce children, example, dolphins have sex to MAKE friends, yes MAKE friends, I personaly feel thats the natural way, sure there is a risk of pregnancy but that can be prevented or taken care of by a day after pill or something, if I fuck you, you get pregnant and dont want it ill pay for the day after pill, abortion or what ever path you chose to go down thats not child support.
2.) Do you feel differently about people who behave opposite of answer #1?
Not a bit, They are free to see things how ever they want, as long as their not trying to force their beliefs on me I personaly just dont give a shit what they do with their lifes.
3.) Sex and love - two different things that go together well or one in the same?
Meh this is kind of a hard one for me, sence iv never technicaly been in love with any one that wasnt a crush I cant say. alot of what I hear though its 5050, some people stop putting out once their hitched, others have sex more often once their hitched which makes me believe it depends on the couple and their beliefs.

To me
1.) Would YOU engage in sex with someone who is either a casual date or friend? Why or why not?
Yes, because like alot of things (im not picking on any one here) religion has been around so long they even if you dont believe, have still affected how you live or how others act around you. Hell theres familys that dont even believe but still celebrate christmas whats that tell you? Before religion became a big thing and in nature sex isnt just to "breed" and produce children, example, dolphins have sex to MAKE friends, yes MAKE friends, I personaly feel thats the natural way, sure there is a risk of pregnancy but that can be prevented or taken care of by a day after pill or something, if I fuck you, you get pregnant and dont want it ill pay for the day after pill, abortion or what ever path you chose to go down thats not child support.
2.) Do you feel differently about people who behave opposite of answer #1?
Not a bit, They are free to see things how ever they want, as long as their not trying to force their beliefs on me I personaly just dont give a shit what they do with their lifes.
3.) Sex and love - two different things that go together well or one in the same?
Meh this is kind of a hard one for me, sence iv never technicaly been in love with any one that wasnt a crush I cant say. alot of what I hear though its 5050, some people stop putting out once their hitched, others have sex more often once their hitched which makes me believe it depends on the couple and their beliefs.

1. Yes
2. No
3. They can exist separately of course, personally though, anyone I am intimate with, I feel much more loving toward afterward. So I guess for me they are inseparable.

1. No. Why? First of all, it goes against what I raised myself to believe and feel. I'm not religious, but I strongly believe sex and all physical intimacy should be kept in a relationship, with a person whom you truly love. Intimacy is something very important to me in a relationship as well. Second, I have trust issues. And, third, I have low self-esteem so things would be awkward.
2. In general, yes, I do feel differently about them. I am willing to reconsider my feelings once I know the whys and background of the person.
3. They are definitely not one in the same. It's possible to love someone and not have sex with them, and people quite often fall victim to lust, or in other words, sex just for the feeling. However, they do go amazingly well together.

Man, I'm behind on my journals, but I wanna answer this anyways. :p

1.) No, I personally wouldn't. Then again, me and my husband were also some of those old fashioned, wait until married types. I view sex as a very intimate act. I wouldn't do it with just anyone.

2.) While I don't agree with them, I don't think much differently. I would just advise them otherwise as that way can cause some trouble.

3.) No, I don't think sex and love are the same thing. I know that people separate them. You can have loveless sex and love without going to sex. For me, personally, sex comes from love. It's a way of showing my love to my husband as well as satisfying needs. It's a gift that is only for him.

Now, I think I should mention that I do not see "dedicated relationship" as getting married, per say. Too many get "married" without really being married. And some can't get married despite having the commitment for whatever reason. I believe that I was married before getting that sheet of paper that says I was. In those cases, I'm all for having sex. Although I think that this is rarely than believed.

The emotional element is just as potent (and more important) as the sexual one, since you'd be...stimulated on a deeper level than mere physical reflex.