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A difficult choice
15 years ago
Well I usually don't like to post drama on my journal, but I guess in this case it's a choice I have to make because of a situation that isn't good no matter what I do.
A friend of mine received some bad news about his health. For the sake of privacy and also to try and avoid backlash and people taking sides I'm going to keep it anonymous. Events in his life as of late caused him to have a lot of grief and despair. Because of it he hasn't been doing too good health wise. Along with this there is a person with him that also causes him untold grief. They are incredibly possessive of him, trying to keep him away from the world with lies of how everybody but her is a sick, twisted, thieving, STD ridden slut that only wants sex and to hurt and steal. And every time he tried to reach out to people this person will yell, scream, hit and throw a major fit the likes of which reminds me of a 2 year old brat that's incredibly spoiled.
The amazing thing is that even though all this my friend still keeps them around because of the fear that losing this person would be bad because they wouldn't be around anymore. It's my friends fear of loss that keeps them around, even though the person is ultimately making them miserable and stressed, probably adding to his already declining condition. Despite my best efforts it's not enough for my friend to let them go and find more people more supportive of him or even loving in a way I'll never be able to fulfill. And to top it all off this person also knows of me, hates me a lot, and has made several attempts to try and remove me from my friends life citing reasons such as me being an STD ridden fag whore that is only after my friends game. (I won't deny I'm a whore, but I do have my standards :3 )
Anyway, after carefully thinking about all of this I've decided the best thing to do is to just stay out of the way for now. Having me and this person fighting can only be adding to the pain that my friend is feeling, and I don't want to add to the pain. Sadly I know withdrawing like this might also cause him pain, but it's the only thing I can do to try and minimize the damage for now. I hope my friend understands why I'm doing this, and I keep hoping he will get better.
A friend of mine received some bad news about his health. For the sake of privacy and also to try and avoid backlash and people taking sides I'm going to keep it anonymous. Events in his life as of late caused him to have a lot of grief and despair. Because of it he hasn't been doing too good health wise. Along with this there is a person with him that also causes him untold grief. They are incredibly possessive of him, trying to keep him away from the world with lies of how everybody but her is a sick, twisted, thieving, STD ridden slut that only wants sex and to hurt and steal. And every time he tried to reach out to people this person will yell, scream, hit and throw a major fit the likes of which reminds me of a 2 year old brat that's incredibly spoiled.
The amazing thing is that even though all this my friend still keeps them around because of the fear that losing this person would be bad because they wouldn't be around anymore. It's my friends fear of loss that keeps them around, even though the person is ultimately making them miserable and stressed, probably adding to his already declining condition. Despite my best efforts it's not enough for my friend to let them go and find more people more supportive of him or even loving in a way I'll never be able to fulfill. And to top it all off this person also knows of me, hates me a lot, and has made several attempts to try and remove me from my friends life citing reasons such as me being an STD ridden fag whore that is only after my friends game. (I won't deny I'm a whore, but I do have my standards :3 )
Anyway, after carefully thinking about all of this I've decided the best thing to do is to just stay out of the way for now. Having me and this person fighting can only be adding to the pain that my friend is feeling, and I don't want to add to the pain. Sadly I know withdrawing like this might also cause him pain, but it's the only thing I can do to try and minimize the damage for now. I hope my friend understands why I'm doing this, and I keep hoping he will get better.
Sadly, some people don't want to be helped. They prefer to live how they do, and block out every bit of help, if this might change their view of the world.
At least this is what I am reading from this journal.
The best thing to do, is what you did. Stay out of the way. But if he returns to you and will ask for help - don't deny it.
Hope all goes well *hugs*
That is what I am here for <3