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15 years ago
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This isn't someting i am expecting anyone to read, I just need to vent it so I don't go do something stupid and tear someone a new one, cause I really don't want to sink to that level about this....but I am so hurt and angry.....So its just friendship drama below.
UGH! I am so freaking angry at a so-called friend of mine, and maybe a lot at myself as well. Long story short its been a rocky friendship since highschool, we lost touch for a few years, she comes back with a baby and we became friends again. She ends up dating this real douchebag, who doesn't shower and would probably trade her for a video game if he had the chance. He would constantly break up with her and threathen it to keep her in line, and everytime he did I would come running to comfort her and take her out. But after so many times of this happening, and this one time of her being really upset and balling and us having this long conversation about it and her agreeing with me...then calling him when i am in the bathroom. I wasn't going to drop everything for it when it started happening every week. I could never make plans with her either, she'd either 'forget' or ditch me for him, so I left that ball in her court to. Well anyways, its a tuesday afternoon she messages me saying they broke up, again, she wants to go out to this bar I hate to see some wannabe hip hop artist that is 30 dollars to get in. I told her this wasn't really my thing, nor did I have the money tos pare but we could figure out something else or do something later on in the week. Low and behold she guilts me like she oh so loves to do and I am getting a lil p.o.ed. She brings up how I never make plans, so I bring up how she never keeps them. She brings up she listens to my problems (Yeah actually no cause I never have a chance to say my problems) and I don't listen to hers. And I said your only problem is you keep going back to him. She gets all pissed off, swears, rants and calls me a bad friend and pulls out of my life. I was upset but she was such a little....well yeah, her attitude kinda cushioned the fall of a bad friendship, it had obviously been building up to this for me and I was prepaired. Sad but prepaired...so I moved on.
She started contactign me agian, saying she was sorry and missed me and she wanted to hang out. Meanwhile she had starte dhanging out with this girl who....well, let me break it down. Two kids she lost custody of, baby daddies seperate. Will actually ditch her friends at her house when she had to kids so they'd be forced to babysit and she can go out drinking. Posts pictures of herself with dildos and in 'suggestive' poses. She's a real winner. Really I don't actualyl know when she is sober either. HEr life revolves around whens the next time she will get drunk.....So my friend has started going out every weekend, leaving her kid at home or ditching her on friends. Even tried to get me to babysit for free so she could go out drinking. I always told her I'd babysit but not for her to go party when she did it the night before as well.
Anyways after many I miss yous and lets hang out messages, which was contacting me more then she used to I finally decided to give her another chance, made plans for yesterday. She tells me at the beginign of the week income assitance is giving her issues and not giving her her cheque so she may not have money to go out....tells me thurs its certain she has no monmey. I jut say ok...but if you've ever been on income assitance, they don't just cut you off, specially when you have a kid....So I figured it was a lie.
Also then, theirs facebook. I heard a comedian once say you can't lie as long as your on facebook. That new friend of hers I was talking about posts how shes going out friday...and my friend posts she coming..the my friend asks this girl if she wants to go out sat, which she replies she'll be broke, which my friend replies, i will PAY for you.
Its taking all my bloody energy to keep from being like WTF...do you think I can't read? Or do you not realise that friend of yours doesn't hide her facebook so I can see it all. Why do I never listen tomy gut that said she's going to ditch you. People keep telling me you just gave her a chance and she blew it...but shes also draggng me through the mud and acting liek I was born yesterday in not noticing shes still going out though she said to me she has no money to...
Sometimes I wish i was just a pety person so I could just sink to that level and tear her a new one.
UGH! I am so freaking angry at a so-called friend of mine, and maybe a lot at myself as well. Long story short its been a rocky friendship since highschool, we lost touch for a few years, she comes back with a baby and we became friends again. She ends up dating this real douchebag, who doesn't shower and would probably trade her for a video game if he had the chance. He would constantly break up with her and threathen it to keep her in line, and everytime he did I would come running to comfort her and take her out. But after so many times of this happening, and this one time of her being really upset and balling and us having this long conversation about it and her agreeing with me...then calling him when i am in the bathroom. I wasn't going to drop everything for it when it started happening every week. I could never make plans with her either, she'd either 'forget' or ditch me for him, so I left that ball in her court to. Well anyways, its a tuesday afternoon she messages me saying they broke up, again, she wants to go out to this bar I hate to see some wannabe hip hop artist that is 30 dollars to get in. I told her this wasn't really my thing, nor did I have the money tos pare but we could figure out something else or do something later on in the week. Low and behold she guilts me like she oh so loves to do and I am getting a lil p.o.ed. She brings up how I never make plans, so I bring up how she never keeps them. She brings up she listens to my problems (Yeah actually no cause I never have a chance to say my problems) and I don't listen to hers. And I said your only problem is you keep going back to him. She gets all pissed off, swears, rants and calls me a bad friend and pulls out of my life. I was upset but she was such a little....well yeah, her attitude kinda cushioned the fall of a bad friendship, it had obviously been building up to this for me and I was prepaired. Sad but prepaired...so I moved on.
She started contactign me agian, saying she was sorry and missed me and she wanted to hang out. Meanwhile she had starte dhanging out with this girl who....well, let me break it down. Two kids she lost custody of, baby daddies seperate. Will actually ditch her friends at her house when she had to kids so they'd be forced to babysit and she can go out drinking. Posts pictures of herself with dildos and in 'suggestive' poses. She's a real winner. Really I don't actualyl know when she is sober either. HEr life revolves around whens the next time she will get drunk.....So my friend has started going out every weekend, leaving her kid at home or ditching her on friends. Even tried to get me to babysit for free so she could go out drinking. I always told her I'd babysit but not for her to go party when she did it the night before as well.
Anyways after many I miss yous and lets hang out messages, which was contacting me more then she used to I finally decided to give her another chance, made plans for yesterday. She tells me at the beginign of the week income assitance is giving her issues and not giving her her cheque so she may not have money to go out....tells me thurs its certain she has no monmey. I jut say ok...but if you've ever been on income assitance, they don't just cut you off, specially when you have a kid....So I figured it was a lie.
Also then, theirs facebook. I heard a comedian once say you can't lie as long as your on facebook. That new friend of hers I was talking about posts how shes going out friday...and my friend posts she coming..the my friend asks this girl if she wants to go out sat, which she replies she'll be broke, which my friend replies, i will PAY for you.
Its taking all my bloody energy to keep from being like WTF...do you think I can't read? Or do you not realise that friend of yours doesn't hide her facebook so I can see it all. Why do I never listen tomy gut that said she's going to ditch you. People keep telling me you just gave her a chance and she blew it...but shes also draggng me through the mud and acting liek I was born yesterday in not noticing shes still going out though she said to me she has no money to...
Sometimes I wish i was just a pety person so I could just sink to that level and tear her a new one.
She dated trashy guys, would meet people on Facebook and Myspace and knock boots with them totally unprotected and never hear from them again, met a new guy that's an angry drunk and he drinks a lot. He knocked her up cause she's retarded and didn't wanna be on birthcontrol or wear protection (they moved in before they found out and had only been together for 2 months), so she would always come crying to me when he shoved her or drank too much and got mean, yadda yadda. I told he to leave him (along with everyone else) and she kept saying she would, but didn't.
It got to the point I couldn't stand to be around people that make sure horrible choices anymore, all it did is drag me down! So I finally stopped speaking to her, stopped replying to texts, and banned her from being around functions in the friend group being everyone finally realized she was just using them too.
Ugh yeah, people suck HARDCORE, all I can say is this chick probably wont' ever change and she's going to continue to try and guilt you into things. Best bet, ditch her like a bad habit, you don't need 'FRIENDS' like that.
Also, you tearing her a new one doesn't make you a petty person at all, sometimes people don't realize they fucked up or you're upset unless you bluntly scream it into their ear. Regardless, hope things improve and chin up. Realize it is HER loss, not your's.
I've dealt with these people before, and I used to have a heart, but now I just tell them to fuck off since I was tired of being everyone's go to gal and then over stressing with their + mine own problems(and I had enough of my own to full 4 people's lives, but I don't go around telling people about them...because hey...they're MY problems, not others.) Not only that, but I was robbed of 900$ by one of them that I was saving for Driver's ED(I don't believe in my parents paying for shit that affects my life) and a car for when I got my license. Lets just say it hasn't happened yet because of that. >:/
For that, I don't help people anymore unless I'm certain they actually need the help. Most people these days don't need it and will use anyone who has any source of compassion.
But it's always good to see the truth though and know when to not trust someone.
When she was with him, her friends were totally abandoned until she needed a shoulder to cry on. It got really tiresome. So yeah, I understand how you feel. You might feel bad for ditching her, but people like that are users and she doesn't seem to be genuinely interested in you as a person at all. Her and that other chick seem to be two peas in a pod so it's no wonder theyre hanging out so much.
She was like that before, she's like that now ... and she's going to be like that in the future.
Make your decision as you please, but for what it's worth, I believe you can find better friends.