Since when does you have a partner?

I've mentioned her a few times - she's Foxy the Nonfur, otherwise known as She Who Pays The Rent XD

I dun remember her lol.

lol

Tuna...

Ok; I've gotten to know ya a little through Wrongside; so I hope I'm not gonna step on any toes here; but I find your partner's comment to be extremely insensitive. You should have every right to show your pride any way you see fit; and a Tail is nothing to be ashamed of. The way the comment was said makes it a very direct snub; almost like "Oh ye Gawds; I am embarrassed to be around an open and honest Furry". Seriously; it's just ... I could rant and rant and rant here; but I will refrain.

I just think you should have the right to express yourself. Not to sound insulting or mean; but it's my firm belief that your partner should seriously chill out; restraining someone's Human Right of expression to save personal face just seems so very self-centered. It's just like saying "Oh Gawd! You like the (Insert Football Team Here); But I'm a (Rival Team's name) Fan; So I'm embarrassed to be seen around you wearing their colors/jersey."

I hate to say it, but I would find it kinda embarrassing to have *my* partner walking around town wearing a tail...
Unless I was wearing one too.
And we could get all our Furry friends to wear one.
Then I wouldn't be so embarrassed.

Now that I think of it, I'd be rather embarrassed if my significant other waved their religious texts in people's faces, or their political beliefs... I don't personally tell everyone I meet my religious, political, or sexual preferences etc.. Probably because I don't want to have people judge me based on those. I'd rather let them get to know me as a PERSON before that.
I know too many people who get pushy about what they believe in, to the point of alienating others who might be good to know even if they don't share all the same beliefs.
Maybe that's too tolerant? I don't know.

Well, the thing is, I asked if it was okay, and she said it was...but she seems to have changed her mind ^^"

Also, to take up your comparison to religion (only for comparison purposes - I don't consider the two things to be equal), I'd compare it more to a Jewish person wearing their kippah hat, or a Hindu their tilaka dot. It's simply an accessory that indicates my preferences. Your comparison to waving texts in people's faces would be closer to, say...if I began meowing and rubbing up against people.

What's funny is that I prefer a tail over wearing ears or an earhat, because it's much easier to ignore - if you're talking to someone, something on their head is *right there*, but a tail is completely out of view. If anything, I thought I was providing a decent compromise. Perhaps I should simply invest in some simple furry-art tshirts, since folks seem to not mind them as much.
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Maybe I'm too Puritanical? IDK, I got ribbed for wearing religious symbols. I know others who did too. Unless it was an "accepted" religious symbol, like a cross. I find it funny that I can wear a cross and even though it doesn't have the same meaning for me, it's accepted, but the moment I put on any other symbol, I get growled at.
Time to throw personal bias out the window, since my own "mate" has the same view that you do.
Not that I'm going to go full on fursuit (or scalesuit as the case may be) every day for the rest of my life... but maybe I should be more accepting of those that do.

Having been raised in the American South, I sympathize with you concerning the harshness of your surroundings...and I agree, I'm not ready for a suit myself (may never be)...

Hug?
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Aww. *hug*. American South. Yeah, my brother-in-law-or-close-enough was originally from Arkansas, so I know THAT attitude pretty well. (Equal Opportunity Offender, eh?) And being from a small western town that is about 3-6 years behind in most social and economic movement, it's pretty close.

Thank you ^^

Yeah - I approached her with my wanting to wear it and she said she was fine with it. I'm guessing that she either figured I was only joking, or she overestimated her tolerances, because when I actually put it on and started to walk outside to go shopping, she said the comment I quoted.

I'm not one who likes to make others uncomfortable, so I wouldn't have gotten my hopes up if she hadn't said it was okay before...I suppose I'm just feeling disappointed more than anything.
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I understand completely; man; you prefer cooperative compromise; rather than to step on people's toes: as I do. People with our kind of view tend to get stepped on ourselves more often than not. I understand that you wanted to wear the tail as a symbol.

On a brighter note; however... There is a kind of Furry symbol out there; to unify all furs and discreetly show off our support of the Fandom... It's even one I'D Readily wear ^^

Thank you for understanding =^^=

What symbol might this be?
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That'd be this:

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikiped...../dd/Pawphi.jpg > The Phipaw.

I'll include it's Wiki ^^ http://en.wikifur.com/wiki/PhiPaw

I've seen that around - might need to try and find a shirt or something with that on it.
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What? Tell your mate to suck it up for your sake. :P

Not like its gonna be every damn day. :P

Actually, I was considering wearing it daily ^^"

I suppose this is to be expected when furs hunt outside of the fandom XD

Well, you can hold back for now til your mate warms up to you.


So how about that Kiriban you won off me? Still haven't gotten a full image idea from you. :P

I suppose...but she's had years to warm up to it, so...yeah...
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I totally forgot! Is it bad that now, when I think of it, I see Aeris in dominatrix gear?
XD

Well, what kinds of steps have you made to being more public? Otherwise, just get her a bag/mask to wear so no one can identify her while you have your furry fun. :P


Oh dear. XD Note me your idea/intentions. ;P

That's right! Back to the closet with you! Find me those X-mas presents!

For some reason, all I can find back here is a Santa hat and a large bow...
;D

Keep an eye out for scratch marks, or skeletons hun.

If there are any, they're mine...
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Oh the shenanigans we could pursue with those...

Merry Christmas!
X3