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15 years ago
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A recent round of drama here reminded me of some that had occurred in the past and then later when some friends posted about friendships in general it really got me to thinking. This post isn't really about anything that has gone on here. Most all of the stuff here has been none of my business and I've generally kept quiet about and intend to continue to do so. However, what it all made me think about is how we define who is or isn't a friend, what the term friend means to people and do you really ever know who will or won't have your back when the shit hits the fan.
Over the years I've seen people come and go from my life for various reasons. Recently someone who I've known for a VERY long time but haven't talked to in like forever removed me from their LJ friends list. It was odd since we were so close at one time and even odder still that I seemed to be singled out for removal on a journal that has not seen a new post in a year or so. It reminded me of what some of my friends have written. You can't just assume that if you were friends 5 years ago that you are friends now and you have to actually work at maintaining a friendship instead of letting it sit on the sidelines to be picked back up when it suits you.
Something else that also holds true is you can't just assume you will be friends with or get along with someone just because you both are furries. It's not an instant ticket to friendship. I've had a few people come and go simply because after an initial getting to know each other a little phase one or both of us realized that we had very little in common and don't see eye to eye. Damn. Writing that reminded me of people who have tried to judge me based solely on my religious views, politics, views on life issues, perceived racism, etc. Then again I understand it too since often we only see very little of the people we interact with on the interwebs. If you never see someone face to face then often all you have to judge them on is what they write and that can often be a minuscule part of what makes that person tick.
LOL. I'm not sure where I was going with this post and it probably comes across as me just rambling but that's ok too. Sometimes it's nice to just write and get some things off your mind.
Oh yeah, now I remember. The point was to me and that I need to make a more conscious effort to maintain and cultivate friendships instead of just assuming things are ok.
Storm
Over the years I've seen people come and go from my life for various reasons. Recently someone who I've known for a VERY long time but haven't talked to in like forever removed me from their LJ friends list. It was odd since we were so close at one time and even odder still that I seemed to be singled out for removal on a journal that has not seen a new post in a year or so. It reminded me of what some of my friends have written. You can't just assume that if you were friends 5 years ago that you are friends now and you have to actually work at maintaining a friendship instead of letting it sit on the sidelines to be picked back up when it suits you.
Something else that also holds true is you can't just assume you will be friends with or get along with someone just because you both are furries. It's not an instant ticket to friendship. I've had a few people come and go simply because after an initial getting to know each other a little phase one or both of us realized that we had very little in common and don't see eye to eye. Damn. Writing that reminded me of people who have tried to judge me based solely on my religious views, politics, views on life issues, perceived racism, etc. Then again I understand it too since often we only see very little of the people we interact with on the interwebs. If you never see someone face to face then often all you have to judge them on is what they write and that can often be a minuscule part of what makes that person tick.
LOL. I'm not sure where I was going with this post and it probably comes across as me just rambling but that's ok too. Sometimes it's nice to just write and get some things off your mind.
Oh yeah, now I remember. The point was to me and that I need to make a more conscious effort to maintain and cultivate friendships instead of just assuming things are ok.
Storm
