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Rejection
14 years ago
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This was one of the most painful things to happen in my life. As you can see, it was over a year and a half ago, so here's what I'm wondering- Have I changed sufficiently since then? Should I use a newly-found opportunity to try and contact this person, and perhaps ask for a second chance?
I mean, at first I certainly thought that if I was on my best behavior for long enough, she would eventually drop her grudge and say something that would make me not-blocked anymore. But how long is eventually, and how do you know if you never try again? How do you know she hasn't just forgotten about the whole thing? It doesn't hurt as much when you're doing the rejecting, could be easy to forget about such a thing.
The one other thing I wonder is this: Do the other two even know that this happened at all? 'Cause they've still been nice to me this whole time... If they do know, it sounds as though it was an issue that the three of them were talking about, and this person was just the only one to have the balls to say anything. If they DON'T know, as in this person was kind of speaking for all three of them with an opinion that perhaps only she had, should it ever at any point be brought to their attention, and if so, how? Would it be reasonable for them to vouch for a change in my character? (If they didn't like it in the first place, on par with their friend here)
EDIT: I've gone and just left a simple message on their steam homepage. "Happy holidays, (name removed). Best of wishes for the new year." Hopefully that's not too bad.
EDIT 2: I went and checked back on it, and my message had been deleted.
This was one of the most painful things to happen in my life. As you can see, it was over a year and a half ago, so here's what I'm wondering- Have I changed sufficiently since then? Should I use a newly-found opportunity to try and contact this person, and perhaps ask for a second chance?
I mean, at first I certainly thought that if I was on my best behavior for long enough, she would eventually drop her grudge and say something that would make me not-blocked anymore. But how long is eventually, and how do you know if you never try again? How do you know she hasn't just forgotten about the whole thing? It doesn't hurt as much when you're doing the rejecting, could be easy to forget about such a thing.
The one other thing I wonder is this: Do the other two even know that this happened at all? 'Cause they've still been nice to me this whole time... If they do know, it sounds as though it was an issue that the three of them were talking about, and this person was just the only one to have the balls to say anything. If they DON'T know, as in this person was kind of speaking for all three of them with an opinion that perhaps only she had, should it ever at any point be brought to their attention, and if so, how? Would it be reasonable for them to vouch for a change in my character? (If they didn't like it in the first place, on par with their friend here)
EDIT: I've gone and just left a simple message on their steam homepage. "Happy holidays, (name removed). Best of wishes for the new year." Hopefully that's not too bad.
EDIT 2: I went and checked back on it, and my message had been deleted.
I think what you did, with the small "Happy Holidays" message is good. If I were in your situation, I wouldn't say anything else to that person unless they respond to that, and even then I would keep what I say very minimal in length and light in content. It sounds like this person doesn't want to hear from you, despite any change in your character or how much time may have passed. If you tried up front to ask for a second chance, they'd probably think to themselves "Oh great, here we go again" or something, and immediately hold a negative impression of you. In short, talking to them is just a dead end it seems.
As for the other two, maybe you should bring up this past conversation with them. Again, if it were me, I'd ask those two up front if they actually like talking to me, or if I'm bothering them, and then tell them about that past conversation and try to have a discussion about it. If they seemed surprised or confused why it was even brought up, then just tell them you wanted to make sure you weren't being intrusive without knowing. If it turns out they've been uncomfortable talking to you the whole time, just apologize and let them know you had the wrong impression, I suppose.
Don't know if that helps or not, but that's what I've got to say. Good luck with this.
Now, as to the other two: If you've pulled back, been less "clingy", not pestering or anything, I don't see what they have to complain about. Be civil with them, but I wouldn't try to get close. If they had a problem with you, demonstrating they you are a rational, mature person with show them that they were wrong. And if they didn't have a problem, they will mostly likely come after you asking "What's up? Where have you been?"
I wouldn't bring up the conversation you had with (name removed) unless they ask for specifics.
And happy holidays.
Checkerbelly? Hey, it could catch on…
But, This sounds oh so similar to a situation I had just recently with a local fur. I would recommend not bothering with this person any more... They come off as they don't want you around :<....
You can talk through email or YIM about this if you want. I'll listen ;).