Oh no... damn I dont even know where to begin to help =( What all happened???

A lot of people were irresponsible, is the short version.

omg...*hugs*

Don't give in or give up.

I just don't know what to even do. I don't even know what to hope for.

well you're not alone...I too am often lost in the darkness not knowing what to do or where to go. So i just take it one hour at a time.

Just don't let it build up. Years later, if you're still holding onto it, it will cause so much pain

Just hang in there. Don't stress about the future and don't worry about the past.

Even if you have to cry, just let it all out...do'nt hold back, just let it come.

Where are you location wise? I wish I could help but maybe someone nearby might take notice and be able to offer you shelter if you ever came to need it. I've seen a lot of people do very admirable things here despite how many make it sound. I know there would be someone with the will to help you and maybe even the ability.

Is there any way to make him file his taxes? If he has W2's and stuff you might be able to set him down and unfortunately baby him through it if he's really that demotivated. It's not the best consolation I can give but the loans can be deferred up to three times depending on the kind and that's three years of minimal hassle and nothing bad on your credit. Even after it takes months for them to do anything to start really troubling you and the damage is more reversible than they'd have you think.

Take care and chin up. Things may get better soon and I wish I could help you more.

I can't make him do his taxes - he's self employed. He has to inventory every work expense. :/

I'm in south central Kansas. I have a place to live, but that's pretty much all I've got going for me atm.

At least for now you have a roof, I've been without before and it was not a good situation to be in. I'm glad that you don't have to worry about that.

If you're making more money than he does at a minimum wage job... maybe it's time to take off the rose colored glasses and realize he's actually going to have to suck it up and get a steady job. This economy is not easy on independent business owners for the most part and they care less about whatever woes anyone may face. All this country and this government cares for is money. If he's not doing enough on his own, then he probably needs to start putting out job applications before he loses everything. I don't mean to sound critical but I'd like for you to be able to have a breath after this last year. I know I don't speak up much but I've followed your journals over the last year or so and they break my heart that I can't do anything to help. The only thing that makes it seemingly worse is the apathy of the people directly around you. I wish all the empathy in the world could make a difference over the internet but sometimes it simply isn't enough, the people around you should be there for you too.

He's a real estate agent. We've been living off savings for the last ten years or so. When they divorced, mom did a decent job of destroying his reputation (all of it was lies.) He's not exactly done much to try and drum up business, however. He doesn't...try. It's probably because he's feeling pretty hopeless too. My dad's an asshole, but he didn't used to be. I think he's sincerely angry with himself for not being able to provide for his family, and hurt. He loved my mom. They were talking about getting back together the last two years of her life, it turns out. Haha.

We've had the discussion that he needs to get a steady job. We've been round and around that issue. He says okay, he'll get one, and a year later he hasn't even applied for any. He's almost old enough to retire, so I think maybe he's hoping he can coast on savings until he can retire. He has some pensions coming.

If I lose the roof over my head, I can petition the trust that is holding mom's finances to pay for lodging for me, and it's likely they will. I'm... very grateful for that. Mom providing for me one last time, you know?

Real estate has been hitting a rough time for sure. Couple of people I used to call friends had parents in the real estate business. First thing to go was their salary only to be paid commission in a time when people are selling more than buying. I can sympathize with the hopelessness especially now that I can finally search for a job again to find out that the plea I took simply to do so has fucked my chances of getting anything. It takes a lot to knuckle down and do it, every time you fill out an application you have to worry that your reputation precedes you or something will hold you back. The incessant assurance that there is with every company that tells you that they're looking for anyone other than you to work for them is bad enough. I hope his pensions are enough and the savings will hold out if that's honestly what he's trying to do. Not recommended at all by any stretch of the imagination. In all honesty if you ever see anyone worrying that their retirement won't see them through and they have nothing to fall back on, a lot of them stopped trying and just kept hoping that what they had was enough. These days it is never truly enough.

I am glad that there may be a little glimmer of hope for you from her. I can't imagine being in your shoes. I've lost friends and loved ones to senseless violence and stupid accidents that could have been stopped but I still couldn't try to feel your loss. I wish you the best and a kind word to keep strong and keep moving.

whoa wtf. D: that fuckin sucks! D: i am so out of the loop here. your mom pasted away?! and your dad is being lazy? D: and friends are abandoning you? wtf! D:<

Pretty much.

If I had a place of my own, I'd totally come get you to let you stay with me until you could get on your feet. :<

Your dad is going to end up in some severe trouble before too much longer because of not doing those taxes :<

He has three years before he risks issues with the IRS.

That said, I make more income than him at my minimum wage job. I don't think they're too concerned.

that's terrible, my condolences. no matter how bad things are, there is always hope, you just have to look for it. maybe some of the fine people in the fandom can help, I would if I could, but I'm kind of stuck in my own situation. I may just be a string of word on a screen, but if you need an ear then I can help.

Thank you. That means a lot to me. I find that my internet friends are truer than my rl friends ever were.

I find that the people that care enough on the net, are the same kind of people who has gone through some difficult times and a have real understanding of what pain is. you are most welcome, and seriously if you feel the need to talk just ask.