I don't use manmade drugs for anything d: but I suppose... antidepressants

antidepressants? that is a big step to go. Once was forced to take some myself and gosh, lol, what an experience, worse than alcohol and dope *uuuh am I allowed to say that here in public without worried mummy's throwing loo-paper at me ?? * in combination D:

Yeah, I'm not a fan of pharmaceuticals... man-made drugs can be dangerous and uncomfortable. All natural stuff is much better.

Time is really the only thing that cures a broken heart, and it varies how much time it takes from person to person, eventually though, it hurts less until really you just have a memory of the hurt, but don't actually feel it completely.

keep as busy as you can around other people who care for you, also find out what you enjoyed before you became entangled with someone else.


I'm still trying to figure out what it is I enjoy, I'm attempting to take my own advice.

time heals all wounds it is said but-letting said time go down the drain is-it is not easy. I find sleeping very pleasing as-well, if you sleep, you don't wonder what happened, you stop asking why it happened and what went wrong. Those are the questions, I guess, one can't ever stop asking and there will hardly ever be a satisfying answer ._.

keeping busy sounds like a plan, better than drowning in negative feelings I guess^^ the trouble is, a whole world was built around just one person and it vanishes from one day to the other. I like you am still trying to figure out but-havn't come to a conclusion eihter, art is a key but not THE key :( what happened to you if I may ask?

I've been there, it's so hard to dentangle your mind when it has been wrapped around being devoted to someone else.

That's why you need to rediscover who -you- are singular. There were things you liked before this person, try to work through the pain and do something you can feel good about, Whether it is volunteering at an animal shelter/sanctuary, visiting some pretty places or whatever it is you might enjoy.

Most of what has caused broken hearts for me, were just the result of my own doing. Striving to make things work with incompatible personality types who were also just not really interested in me. I was too stubborn to recognize that my feeling like I was 'doing all the work' to keep us together, meant that the other person didn't really want to be in a relationship with me, even if I was getting 'mixed signals' which really only meant they also didn't want to be alone.

hehe i feel you there i do the same thing as you but i also convey my feelings through my poems and such. even though most of the time im happy heh

I wish I could write ;____; it helps bringing words and thoughts on paper-IF you have a certain gift which...well, I for myself lack a hundred percent, but rly admire ppl who are able to write a WHOLE poem due to one feeling *__*

aww its not that hard.. just think of one thing like you have said up there and boom you can have a thought about it. heh its actually in you you just have to find it ^^

Speaking from personal experience... Prozac.

But I've been off mine for a while; ain't needed it since I took my complaints to their respective sources.

now if only I knew, what Prozac is^^" (sorreh, my english/polish?!/russian???) fails a little every now and then xD

It's a man-made antidepressant; as has been stated earlier, however, it's a drastic step, and it wasn't much help to me.

Much better to let my anger burn when it needs to, and then sleep it off.

Still dealing with one. Still not whole.

The only thing you can do is wait till it stops hurting. Watch funny movies even if you don't want to. Be around close friends. Play an intense videogame. Keep busy. You will still hurt for awhile but these things help. They help me anyway.

Pills are un-natural...man made
I'll stick to the magic juana-plant C:

Not having a dig or anything. From what you described, those drugs don't cure the problem. And most of them don't really cure the symptoms. They just cover it up. Same as putting on a poker-face isn't it?

So how do you cure any pain? Either find out the real cause of the problem and do something about it. Or do nothing, ignore it and hope it goes away.

Never easy. Never a quick fix.

Regards.

If it's the kind of pain that comes from a problem that you can actually fix, then fix it. If it's the kind that just takes time...

Distract your mind and exhaust your body. Preferably do both of these at the same time, so that by the time you're left just sitting with your own thoughts at the end of the day, you're too physically tired to think too much and torture yourself, and can just zone out with a movie or book or idle chatter with friends.

When the weather's good, I like riding my bicycle above all other things. When the weather's bad, I play with my dog and play the ukulele, or do pushups. Cooking large, elaborate meals is also good too, especially if it's a recipe I've never made before and so have to fill my mind with the task at hand, and then at the end of it there's that base primal comfort of eating good hot food. ...I also chain-smoke sometimes when the hurt is really bad, but can't keep that up for long (and wouldn't want to).

Sometimes also I just need to take some time to "wallow" in it, but before I start I always set a time limit - say, just for Friday, or just for two hours, or just during lunch - and let myself be as miserable as I have to be, until I reach the time limit, and then get back to distracting myself again.

Healing will come eventually. Personally I prefer to suffer as little as possible in the meantime.

Pills never seem to make anything better without making something worse >< just cheer yourself up and have fun. It's the only true cure for anything. And don't hold it in, it only makes what you're worrying about worse, just deal with it and be happy, whether it music, movies, friends. They fix everything. :3

Now that is the answer of someone who's not familiar with clinical depression. :)

Which is what happens when someone naturally exuberant, who has a happy home life, plenty of money, the world's loveliest dog, a healthy diet, lots of exercise, and good friends, falls into a pit of profound, hideous, inexplicable, soul-destroying misery, and can't climb out until someone puts them on a course of citalopram tablets.

The more of your life you can spend without understanding this comment, the happier and more pleased I will be for you. :)

Unfortunately the pain never really goes away. Once you experience an emotional pain so vast that it actually physically hurts, it changes you on a base level. Then you have to decide what to do with it. You can lock yourself up and try to hide away your fears and your hurt and let the pain tear you down...or...you can get back up and go do the things that you fear and that make you hurt. Learn to open yourself to new things, new people. Learn to love again, to fill that broken part of yourself with new experiences until its full. It will always hurt and you will always remember the pain but by allowing yourself to heal from something so painful rather than letting it drown you, you will become a much stronger person.

Keep busy, volunteer/work, travel, and very importantly try to develop some new routines to accomplish things you'd otherwise be too busy spending time with your significant other to do. Also, talking to people (anyone, like us, with this) is very helpful, gotta find some sort of social scaffolding.

When me and my girlfriend of 5+ years broke up (high school through college pretty much) I really felt what you mean about that whole world built around that person. A couple of things helped me through that, first I began hiking somewhere new every week. That helped me physically feel good about myself, gave good time to think and often gave you a quick social boost with a fellow solitary stranger.

After that, I sought out old friends and my brother, I actually moved from the apartment I was still living with my ex in to a new place with my practically ex-communicado best high school friend. That combined with eventually a new job (zookeeping) re-developed my social skills and confidence.

Did I ever forget her though? No.
Does it ever completely stop hurting? No

But you eventually find love again, and the old relationship eventually fades more and more in to a series of good memories and lessons from bad ones. It hurts when you actually do love the person you find yourself leaving, but everything has to be mutual, if you can't find love that flows both ways strongly then you ought to just keep hunting.

Just my 2cents from personal experience, could vary for you

I've found the same as you, denying my feelings only compounds them. And Rum helps, trust me, I've gone through a lot of it recently.

I'm not sure I can be considered one of the awesome crowd yet, but maybe someday.

Heh: I see your own banner at the foot of this page. :)

No... no pills for a broken heart. The pills are for a completely different kind of pain. The broken heart you just have to live with. In time, I guess, it makes you wiser with your own heart and gentler with other people's.

Apart from that, I like ebryn's advice.

Good luck. You seem pretty awesome too -- warm-hearted and nice and obviously fond of pit-bulls. *wag* Something tells me you'll be okay.

Taking med's is always a question of self-esteeming... if you don't need'em, you shouldn't take'em. Always try to get aalong without....
And a broken heart is cured best by an open heart that listens to you ;)

"The result was worse than an epic fail"

If you hold everything in, an explosion might occur. It is better to let out one bullet at a time.

P.S. I've been battling clinical depression for 18 years, the doc put me on mucho meds. I took myself off them because they lead to a sense of false happiness. If you have a sense of false happiness then you will never find true happiness. One of the methods to a quick pick me up is Smile Therapy. Look in the mirror and smile... a forced one. It's bound to either A) crack you up or B) get a little giggle. If you only get a little giggle, upgrade to stupid and funny faces. You'll be in a good mood in no time. Everyone battles depression sometime in their life, whether mild or severe, clinical, seasonal or situational. Just remember to keep your chin up... and smile even when you feel like shit and don't feel like it.