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Coming out at Work
15 years ago
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So I told my supervisor today that I am going to be transitioning (I'm still shaking) I trust him a great deal and I told him even before I got moved over to his team I was going to talk to him exclusively about it as he is the only one i trust. I was so audibly choked up talking to him. For the time I was talking to him I had perfected my feminine voice as a result of sheer terror XD I told him that I was going to transition and I wanted to tell him as he is my supervisor and I didn't want it to cause any problems at work at one point I audibly choked, it was a disgusting noise as my throat closed over but I opened it back up and finished. He looked at me fron his chair, his fingers interlaced and his voice rose in a feminine way and he said how great it was and that he was thrilled to hear it and he understood my concern as the idea of "transgender" is foreign on the small island I reside on. I then told him it felt like I was coming out to my parents of something, myself now panting for air. He just smiled at me and said "been there" and told me how people in the company look at him strangely too and he made no big deal of the whole affair.
After the talk he said if I EVER needed to talk with him be it at work or out of work to call him and he handed me a sticky note with his phone number on it and his name written in an elegant scrawl which even I could not come close to.
I proceeded to thank him and stagger into the bathroom having a massive panick attack and almost losing my lunch so to speak. I was delighted but my body was on overload and needed to destress...what a "break" that was OMG
So I came out at work and it went good. Better than I could imagine... I am truly lucky alot of Trans people aren't as fortunate as me and my sheer joy also comes with great sadness for all those who aren't as fortunate as me. I doubt I will ever call his number, I wish I could but I hate imposing or calling someone when I am in wreck mode but nevertheless I will cherish that piece of paper forever.
Next mission is parents. ^_^
After the talk he said if I EVER needed to talk with him be it at work or out of work to call him and he handed me a sticky note with his phone number on it and his name written in an elegant scrawl which even I could not come close to.
I proceeded to thank him and stagger into the bathroom having a massive panick attack and almost losing my lunch so to speak. I was delighted but my body was on overload and needed to destress...what a "break" that was OMG
So I came out at work and it went good. Better than I could imagine... I am truly lucky alot of Trans people aren't as fortunate as me and my sheer joy also comes with great sadness for all those who aren't as fortunate as me. I doubt I will ever call his number, I wish I could but I hate imposing or calling someone when I am in wreck mode but nevertheless I will cherish that piece of paper forever.
Next mission is parents. ^_^
Wish I had it from my parents... I'm always being told to grow up and that they'll all but disown me if I ever "came out of the closet."
Good thing they don't know I'm bi.
I can understand my family being upset because to them it's like I'm going away and they lose their son and me. They don't understand that I am still me and I have to be gentle and understanding of they're feelings and guide them through it. However parents intolerant of homosexuality need to get with it, I mean HELLO History class here? Greeks? Romans? ANY CULTURE EVER! DX
Hatred is not a right, it's not even a priviledge. Hatred and intolerance are unholy abominations.
Did you actually hack?
Build upon that confidence that "I've done it once, i can do it again" and be steadfast in your confidence that you can do it, you can tell the people that really matter to you. Trust me when i tell you that those that kick up the biggest fuss about it and refuse to talk to you were never your friends to begin with, (personal experiance) those that you can call TRUE friends will be the ones that tell you they are behind you and are happy that you are heading towards being happy yourself :)
Family, on the other hand, totally different matter :P its always the one you least expect to be understanding always is the most understanding!
*huggles* Congrats on the first step and i echo the sentiments on this page, its nice to see you have someone close at work that understands your decisions and will be there to help you :)
I am extremely grateful that I have so much support on here and from local friends/furs Really now all that's left is family and then I'm out fully. It's so exciting! Thank you for your kind words and I will bare them in mind through this whole process. You are very wise