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How do you find Mr. Right?
19 years ago
Just a silly little question, but how does one go about finding the person they want to spend the rest of their life with? How does one find someone they are interested in who is interested in them back? *Sighs*
I know this is angsty (God I'm Emo!) but bear with me and think about this. I live in Flagstaff, Arizona. There are not a lot of furs anywhere near my area. Most of the time when I date regular folk they usually get wierded out by the fact that I draw furry porn. So either I have to find a person with a really really open mind, or I have to find another fur.
Well, sounds simple until you think about it. There are no furs in my area. Heck there aren't even that many in this entire state. Of those I have to try and find one who is single, likes me, and is willing to date me. I know of one. A great guy I met a long while back. Thing is I don't think he likes me. Plus he doesn't live in the same city as me.
*Whimpers*
So what do I do. I want to start dating, but to do so kinda takes two... I can't handle a long distance online relationship. For me, that isn't real. Someone can say they hug you or say they are kissing away your tears, but typing it and actually having someone do it are completely different. I am greedy and need the real thing.
I'm just kind of starting to think I'll never find it. I feel like I'll never find someone who likes me that I can be with.
There are few people I'd even really consider dating at all. One the guy I mentioned earlier (Mmmmm badger) a wolf who lives in Alaska who is honestly one of the nicest guys I've ever talked to. A cat in Phoenix who although recently single I can't really pursue due to stupid reasons.... And.... Oh and a Folf in Texas who is the ex of a friend of mine. Yeah... That is all the furs I can even consider dating, and I dont' think any of them would consider dating me.
At least not seriously anyways....
So how do I find Mr. Goodfur? Or is this one of those things were I'm supposed to just sit, be patient, and hope Mr. Good Fur finds me? Cause, I've been patient for a long while. I let my heart be broken.
It's my turn. I desserve a chance. Don't I?
I know this is angsty (God I'm Emo!) but bear with me and think about this. I live in Flagstaff, Arizona. There are not a lot of furs anywhere near my area. Most of the time when I date regular folk they usually get wierded out by the fact that I draw furry porn. So either I have to find a person with a really really open mind, or I have to find another fur.
Well, sounds simple until you think about it. There are no furs in my area. Heck there aren't even that many in this entire state. Of those I have to try and find one who is single, likes me, and is willing to date me. I know of one. A great guy I met a long while back. Thing is I don't think he likes me. Plus he doesn't live in the same city as me.
*Whimpers*
So what do I do. I want to start dating, but to do so kinda takes two... I can't handle a long distance online relationship. For me, that isn't real. Someone can say they hug you or say they are kissing away your tears, but typing it and actually having someone do it are completely different. I am greedy and need the real thing.
I'm just kind of starting to think I'll never find it. I feel like I'll never find someone who likes me that I can be with.
There are few people I'd even really consider dating at all. One the guy I mentioned earlier (Mmmmm badger) a wolf who lives in Alaska who is honestly one of the nicest guys I've ever talked to. A cat in Phoenix who although recently single I can't really pursue due to stupid reasons.... And.... Oh and a Folf in Texas who is the ex of a friend of mine. Yeah... That is all the furs I can even consider dating, and I dont' think any of them would consider dating me.
At least not seriously anyways....
So how do I find Mr. Goodfur? Or is this one of those things were I'm supposed to just sit, be patient, and hope Mr. Good Fur finds me? Cause, I've been patient for a long while. I let my heart be broken.
It's my turn. I desserve a chance. Don't I?
personally, I then think you need to try and be happy. if you are looking for a BF thinking that it will make you happy, take away all your problems, trust me, it doesn't work that way. I've been there.
Stop looking.
First off, it's because one of the great laws of chance are taking effect here: the less you want it, the more it comes to you. The furry artists who seek no fame but merely fun become well-known, while those who constantly aim for it get none. Same thing with love; if you stop looking, it will come to you.
Ceasing your search also yields the added benefit of lifting the weight of that dreaded thought, that you might possibly NEVER find that one guy. Because, given your current residential situation, there's a very fat chance you'll find somebody who's willing to give you a chance. If you simply give up, you no longer have to worry.
And giving up is NOT a bad thing, because once that weight is lifted, you suddenly have more mental energy to dedicate yourself to other things. This is important if you're not satisfied with your station in life; giving up the search means you now have more energy to focus on yourself and your own personal growth. Got a career goal? Got some personal goals, like losing weight? Is there a purpose in life you're seeking? You can't dedicate 100% into those things if you worry about finding somebody to love. This will give you a better opportunity to grow and become a better person, a stronger individual... hopefully, an individual who's able to support himself and any potential committed lovers.
Just speaking from personal experience, anyway. I'm not searching for that special guy or girl, because there are too many things I must do for myself to feel happy... which makes me terrible boyfriend material. Once I've done everything I need to do for myself, then satisfaction in life comes... and that's when I can finally dedicate my time in someone else's love and care.
Some food for thought.
The second guy, I moved away from (not my choice). I'm currently happily single, and not looking for love at all.
The way I see it, if you aim for JUST furries, you're going to have a very limited choice in people, but if it's that important to you...anyone who dates and loves you, furry or not, should love you for yourself, and accept that you draw furry porn. Simple as that. Don't limit yourself to the fandom, but if they openly mock you and call you a pervert for drawing porn, then they aren't your match.
I have to agree, stop looking. You can't make the right person come along, it's just going to happen. :)
You're 20. Spending the rest of your life with somebody at your age isn't exactly likely to happen unless you plan on dying within three years. Age 20 you should be thinking of having a good time with people ( not just one ) and living life. Dumping time into one person or one IDEA of a person is a waste and will leave you in more pain.
Mr Right is an idea, an icon, a myth. Like all dreams, completely intangible. Nobody is perfect, and 'love' makes us blind to many truthes. Love does funny things to people. I gave up my search for it many moons ago. In its stead, I enjoy the experiences that I'm allowed when I'm not trying to convince myself that 'love' and 'perfection' exist.
But, then again, I'm made of cynicism.