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18 years ago
Hi there. I thought I would update this.
I am still in college. The classes are rather interesting. I'm learning quite a bit.
I do have a few ponderings, though, and I would like to hear your opinions on thse.
I have learned some more things besides those related to school. Some of the thing are ones I would like opinions on.
1. What should one do if one learns a lesson that should be shared, but don't want to speak of it?
I've learned a few things from people, but I don't want to talk about the events surrounding them for certain reasons. For instance, some of the events I said I wouln't talk about.
One, however, is from the fact that I have learned a lot from various people, journals, and art from FA, but the lessons I learned have often come from mature subjects. One in particular was a lesson I learned from a work of art that depicts sex. HOWEVER, the scene in particular wasn't about lust, but real love.
Should I talk about lessons I have learned that, while important, come from places that I either said I wouldn't speak of or are taboo?
Some I already have because I felt I should, but I felt bad mentioning them because I said I wouldn't.
2. I like helping people. Due to an experince, though, I realized I can't help all who I want.
So, how can I tell when I should get involved, or to let people settle matters themselves? The help I try to give is just being there for people, but I have stretched myself too far.
Should I try to help people? One thing I do NOT want to be is apathetic. That is something I never want to be.
What should I do?
3. In other news, I'm still single. I do wonder, though, if online dating is something to try. I notice quite a few people on FA are with others on FA. How did you meet, if you and your partner both have FA accounts, and did you meet online first or in real life first?
I hope my life will prove fruitful in the end. I don't want to be alone, but I also don't know if I will ever meet the right person, or even how to start.
I should end this journal soon, as my battery power is low.
Thank you all for everything. I appreciate it.
I wish you all well.
I am still in college. The classes are rather interesting. I'm learning quite a bit.
I do have a few ponderings, though, and I would like to hear your opinions on thse.
I have learned some more things besides those related to school. Some of the thing are ones I would like opinions on.
1. What should one do if one learns a lesson that should be shared, but don't want to speak of it?
I've learned a few things from people, but I don't want to talk about the events surrounding them for certain reasons. For instance, some of the events I said I wouln't talk about.
One, however, is from the fact that I have learned a lot from various people, journals, and art from FA, but the lessons I learned have often come from mature subjects. One in particular was a lesson I learned from a work of art that depicts sex. HOWEVER, the scene in particular wasn't about lust, but real love.
Should I talk about lessons I have learned that, while important, come from places that I either said I wouldn't speak of or are taboo?
Some I already have because I felt I should, but I felt bad mentioning them because I said I wouldn't.
2. I like helping people. Due to an experince, though, I realized I can't help all who I want.
So, how can I tell when I should get involved, or to let people settle matters themselves? The help I try to give is just being there for people, but I have stretched myself too far.
Should I try to help people? One thing I do NOT want to be is apathetic. That is something I never want to be.
What should I do?
3. In other news, I'm still single. I do wonder, though, if online dating is something to try. I notice quite a few people on FA are with others on FA. How did you meet, if you and your partner both have FA accounts, and did you meet online first or in real life first?
I hope my life will prove fruitful in the end. I don't want to be alone, but I also don't know if I will ever meet the right person, or even how to start.
I should end this journal soon, as my battery power is low.
Thank you all for everything. I appreciate it.
I wish you all well.
However, I do have a hope with some of these. The thing is, what if I want to thank someone for something when I said I wouldn't talk of that thing again?
If I really stick to not mentioning it, that also means I shouldn't even thank the person, because doing so would bring the event up.
One thing in mind I am truly thankful for, but I don't know if I should let the person know.
Thanks for the comment. I hope you are doing well.
2) Being there for people is great. But you need to do self maintenance. You are useless for helping people if you are stretched so thin you are going to burst into tears in the middle of trying to comfort someone. And if these people you are trying to help are just using you as someone to lean on and aren't responding with respect and/or genuine friendship, don't give them your time.
3)I met my fiancé online through a friend I had known for many years. Now we live together. BUT. ONLINE DATING IS DANGEROUS. Know that before you start. Talk for months before you meet someone, and get to know them as friends first, just like in the real world, because eventually it is going to progress there. If you give out a phone number, try to make it a cellphone instead of a land line. Preferably one of those rechargeable phones (I wish I had known this in my teens, I really do.) If they seem cool, and you want to meet them, meet them in a very public place, preferably with a couple of friends along. It'll scare off the creeps and reassure the ones who may be worried that you are a little too forward, and otherwise just make it into a nice casual setting. And if you are going to meet someone, don't listen if they want to go off somewhere alone and always carry a cellphone.
Firstly, I really don't think there's room for taboo on this site. ^_^ so I wouldn't let something like that stop me from sharing. If that's the only thing holding you back from saying something then just say it. If, on the other hand, you've made a promise not to speak of something, then you really shouldn't. Even if that person is likely to never see this site, it's still best to keep your word. Remember what you've learned, and if you see someone else who is in need of the lesson, you can give them advice without breaking a promise.
Second, I think all nice people have that happen from time to time. But there's a point when you have to think about your own well-being. If you spend so much of your energy/time/money helping others that you can't manage to really take care of yourself, then you have to pull back a little on the generosity. After all, you couldn't be any help to anybody if you stretch yourself so thin that you break, right? That doesn't mean you have to lock yourself into a dark room and refuse to offer a helping hand to anybody, just try to make sure you've still got a hand to help yourself.
Thirdly, yeah, the single life stinks. I know a lot of people have online long-distance relationships, and some people can make them work, but I never could. Well, actually I've never tried, but I just can't see myself being happy that way. I'm too much a hands-on person (not in a perverted way necessarily). I just think face-to-face interaction could never be replaced by a computer monitor, so if you do meet someone online, I think things would be easier if they were at least a reasonably short distance away--nothing you'd have to take two planes and a train to get to, anyway. To make more frequent visits more likely and minimize the moping lovesickness that seems to hang around. ^_^
2)Ask to help, first off. If they confide in you, then you can help. Second, don't nag about helping them (not ssaying you would, but it's still a general situation). Also, if they ask publicly for help or advice, then if you feel morally obligated to, help them.
3) My dilemma. I'm single as well (me male), and the thought of being with someone from here is an interesting idea. I just think, if you hit it off with someone, try, at least, to find out where the other lives, and perhaps, if money and time allows, meet. But a long distance relationship could work, if you can't see each other that way. Trust is the main thing you need in this situation.
I hope I've helped.
2) Unfortunately sometimes you have to pick and chooses who you can and can't help. Give yourself a break you can't help everyone. And sometimes just being there is more than enough. Whatever you do don't get so caught up in other peoples troubles that it becomes a burden on you, that wouldn't be good for anyone.
3) Not sure about this one as I've never done any online dating myself but I know that you should probably try to meet nice people wherever you can in real life or other wise. When the right person comes into your life you might not even need to find them, they might find you.
I hope this helps. Later. :)
2) Hmm...Well you can help them by cheering them up, like Timrilkunand Wolvenghost keeps cheering me up when Im down.^^! All you can do is be there for them and cheer them up, dont try solving their problems for them, insted help their problems along with them. Just dont take responsibility for everything.^^
3) Well, what I think is they accidentally met each other in the fur conventions or maybe they planned to go there, but they know each other through the net or maybe their in the same country. Those are some of the posiblities.^^!
Hope that I helped you out.^^! ;)
2) Can't help you there. Some things people need to learn for themselves. I grew so much from last year, but during last year I had older friends watching me and knowing that I'd have to find out some things for myself, the hard way. It's just something that comes with age, I guess. (for the record, there's no way I'm much older than you, if older at all).
3) Dating is overrated. Seriously. I can't imagine dating someone from FurAffinity unless I had talked online with them for years first.