...I- I still don't even have a fursona. does this make me a failure as a furry?

You aren't a failure. It is hard for somepeople to find something that is just right for them. Take my friend for example, he's had about eight or so, and I expect more from him. Right now, I am experimenting to see if I can function as something other than my panther. So take your time, because it is always a hard thing to do.

/snort