That, or go out with guys. Some of them are less vindictive.

Lol

Not funny.

There was a lot of damage!

Maybe I need to explain myself

Your point of the journal was that being single is easier and cheaper. Then the first comment was someone saying to just date other guys. It seemed funny to me

And that was supposed to be a reply to your reply

OH. right right. :p

lol sorry. Bad mood today.

oh i'll bet you're in a bad mood after those 2

Amen. A-fucking-men.

Also, dating guys isn't much better than dating the gals; men are just as much psycho as women are.

I don't mind being single right now, but I'm also 23. :P However, I don't think I'll mind being single at 30 either, but we'll see. :P

haha, hope you haven't had too much trouble.

TL/DR for below: Relationships are best "on demand" or "pay per view." Lifetime contracts are for the birds.

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I've been single 53 years. I also have had to move back in with my mom because of lapses in employment a few times in my life, as well as not moving out for the first time until like 25.

Having friends I could just call and visit with has been plenty satisfying for much of my life, but I had to change that circle at 36 when I moved from San Diego to Las Vegas, and again to Reno, then to Silicon Valley. Each time, it's been a bit narrower and narrower circle.

Now I live in El Paso, Texas - and haven't made friends with anyone since moving here in 2002. I may ultimately meet a fur or two in our west side, some 25 miles away - not exactly conducive to easy, casual friendship.

Romance doesn't sprout well when friendships are so difficult. Typically, romance comes from friendship networks, or other social circles (of which I have none).

I have an emptiness inside, and I think most people do - but I think this is our organism's self awareness. We are aware of how separated we are in thought, disconnected from one another, knowing that there is nobody else in the world who sees through our eyes, feels our feelings, thinks our thoughts, values our values, wants what we want - in exactly our way. This I feel is why a concept of God is so appealing, for it creates a being who can see our innermost self and know these things about us. And as well a body of scripture or dogma so we can standardize this belief and ways so we at least can believe each of us is at heart the same person.

Co-dependence is at the core of a lot of bad relationships I've heard about. It's necessary to find out if and why you may have codependency issues, and try to resolve them, so toxic relationships aren't something you get into. This perhaps is the chief issue of denial that when allowed to continue, leads to these sorts of stories again and again.

How, why, when, where, and who become these toxic personalities are matters for clinical psychologists. Detecting them early usually isn't too hard to do. You must always stick up for yourself and never allow yourself to accept harm, emotional or physical, simply because you feel you deserve it, or can't find any better in the world. As someone who has at times suffered great depressive loneliness, I can tell you being alone is infinitely better than being in a toxic relationship. At least you have your health and property.

If you have problems with reasons to live with loneliness and suicidal thoughts, please see itgetsbetter.org or similar websites. I can't personally talk a person out of this, as I am not a trained counselor and prefer people use the hotlines and help systems in place for assistance with these situations.

Generally speaking, long-term relationships are a commitment that people (hetero and non) do not take anywhere as seriously as they should these days, judging from 50% divorce rates. Commitment is a promise with utmost sincerity. Something you have every intention to keep without exception. I don't know what it means to our generation when this definition has a 50% reliability factor in practice. No wonder politicians' promises are so empty. No wonder we suspect the worst of each other these days. No wonder we always are calculating in our heads just how badly the other person can screw us over when a stranger offers us a deal or asks us for a favor.

Of course, drugs and other crimes committed our of desperation and just plain viciousness account for our distrust of others. This also adds to just how hard it is (or definitely should be) to give a person our heart - the trust implicit in inviting them to live in our home, in becoming domestic with them, in entering into a long-term relationship leading up to and including marriage. (*cough* where legal.)

Yet still it's necessary to have background checks on people you want to live out your life with. Too many case files could've never been opened if only people did this. Or if people never opened insurance policies, or allowed such to be written by never entering into marriage or domestic partnerships.

So yes, there's a lot of dangers in domestic partnerships (mostly hetero, but not solely). In these relationships, men and women become victims, not equally but not so disparately. When you get away from murders however, I think it is still more common for females to be victimized in hetero relationships by males. The battered wife is still lots more common than it being the husband such a victimized case, in terms of sheer numbers and severity of abuse over length of time.

Well I've been single and I seem to get lonely. The novelty of having the entire bed to yourself wears off when you realise you've been having sex with yourself for the past few years...

We can have sex alone with ourselves together.