So, why is it that most men can't cuddle with a woman without trying to turn it sexual? I tried to get my husband to cuddle with me, after having a horrific nightmare (read previous journal for details) only to be told that if I wanted to cuddle, I'd have to "put out". Well, not in those words, his words were less acceptable to putting out in public view, in my opinion. This is ALWAYS the case, no matter how bad I'm feeling physically, or when I just need emotional support. I DON'T GET IT! WHY!? Why can't I just get to snuggle up to someone who cares about me, without there having to be sex????? That's what I miss about my son growing up. He used to cuddle with me watching tv when he was a little boy, and of course, now he won't cuddle either. What's the big deal? Just because I'm mom doesn't mean I don't have bad days where I could use snuggle time too! I hate feeling like I have to keep everything bottled up, and can't show that I'm a human being who needs affection and love too, without there having to be something sexual in it, or eww - it's mom, so I can't snuggle with her anymore, cause I'm all grown up - (and no, son, I didn't mean that to be an attack, I'm just venting, cause I'm upset). Anyway, I hope someone can enlighten me on this subject, because I sure could use someone who isn't too close give me an opinion. Mainly because the ones closest to me don't give opinions, or when they do (read husband), they are usually selfish and hurtful to me. Why can't I just get what I need for a change, instead of always having to be what someone else wants or needs??????