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Herms as sexual objects.
14 years ago
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It's all thanks to this picture http://www.furaffinity.net/view/6285177/
I sometimes think about his subject, how some people will see a character on a chat room that has both a penis and a vagina, then instantly think she's a super-whore that will bang anyone who slings their dick out. The whole subject seems to scream 'gray area ahead'. I love sex online and I love the idea of being a herm and enjoying my body.. however that joy can quickly be stolen when someone treats me like a whore thinking I'm going to bang anything moving and do whatever toilet related fetish there is. Of course there is also those who won't go near you because you're a 'slut', which is just the reverse side of the same bloody coin.
There is a serious aspect about this, about some people choosing their persona to be a herm. Anyone with a stitch of personality loves the idea of sex and fun.. yes.. but I'ts not the only reason. My persona has evolved over time, each new form representing a change in my self. Why she's a herm now is getting grips on my gender-queerness, It wasn't for a lack of trying to fit in with the normal roles the world wanted of me. I *wanted* to feel normal and be accepted.. but when you're a fish all the lip flapping in the world isn't going to make you quack like a duck.. so to speak. The question came "where is my place?" My struggle to find an 'identity' mirrored my persona. In time I'll write out the story properly, but Janis story is one of abandonment and a struggle to find a place in a world that didn't even see her as a valid Gender.
I look at the picture posted at the start of this Journal and remember back to a terrible mistake I made in real life. I was alone and scared, just a young adult who left a Furry home to live in what I'll just call a half-way house for now. I was an outsider surrounded by street kids who would have eaten me for breakfast... One day someone came around who was something like me, a good speaker who convinced me to 'let loose'. He essentially talked me into having sex with him though I didn't love him. After the fact I just felt dirty, like a fell for the worst prank in all my life because after that his personality changed. I was just a quick fuck and nothing more. I look at Tyni's face in that picture and I remember that day. The feelings kina merge, the feeling of being a 'middle thing' some are just off-put by and also a toy to others.
I'll just say this, It may not be true for everyone, but Many herm players are far deeper wells than some gives us credit for. After you're done type fucking with one, perhaps you'd lie to talk to them and get their story.
I sometimes think about his subject, how some people will see a character on a chat room that has both a penis and a vagina, then instantly think she's a super-whore that will bang anyone who slings their dick out. The whole subject seems to scream 'gray area ahead'. I love sex online and I love the idea of being a herm and enjoying my body.. however that joy can quickly be stolen when someone treats me like a whore thinking I'm going to bang anything moving and do whatever toilet related fetish there is. Of course there is also those who won't go near you because you're a 'slut', which is just the reverse side of the same bloody coin.
There is a serious aspect about this, about some people choosing their persona to be a herm. Anyone with a stitch of personality loves the idea of sex and fun.. yes.. but I'ts not the only reason. My persona has evolved over time, each new form representing a change in my self. Why she's a herm now is getting grips on my gender-queerness, It wasn't for a lack of trying to fit in with the normal roles the world wanted of me. I *wanted* to feel normal and be accepted.. but when you're a fish all the lip flapping in the world isn't going to make you quack like a duck.. so to speak. The question came "where is my place?" My struggle to find an 'identity' mirrored my persona. In time I'll write out the story properly, but Janis story is one of abandonment and a struggle to find a place in a world that didn't even see her as a valid Gender.
I look at the picture posted at the start of this Journal and remember back to a terrible mistake I made in real life. I was alone and scared, just a young adult who left a Furry home to live in what I'll just call a half-way house for now. I was an outsider surrounded by street kids who would have eaten me for breakfast... One day someone came around who was something like me, a good speaker who convinced me to 'let loose'. He essentially talked me into having sex with him though I didn't love him. After the fact I just felt dirty, like a fell for the worst prank in all my life because after that his personality changed. I was just a quick fuck and nothing more. I look at Tyni's face in that picture and I remember that day. The feelings kina merge, the feeling of being a 'middle thing' some are just off-put by and also a toy to others.
I'll just say this, It may not be true for everyone, but Many herm players are far deeper wells than some gives us credit for. After you're done type fucking with one, perhaps you'd lie to talk to them and get their story.
Yyyyep. I feel like this a lot of the time myself. Often times people I meet (hell or already even know) seem to think I'm a sex-craved fool eager to either jump on them or vice versa.
One particularly great example of people instantly assuming a herm/trans character instantly meaning one's a slut is...
Someone basically started trying to get to know me with the usual crap, ya know, just emoting or whatever (and in the process actually being sort of a dick - more than usual) ... aaand to top it all off didn't know/didn't care to look that I actually do all my own art. He assumed I bought it all. 'cause that's what trannies do, right? Buy up all the commission slots we can and shoot our way to intarnet stardumb.
It was about that point I resolved to absolutely destroy every shred of him.
Anyway, it's fun being considered as merely a fetish instead of a person, I know. Doesn't help when the people propagating it outnumber those who don't a hundred to one.
¦:( My hatred is rekindled.
Of course it would help if those who play the part would not themselves go out of their way to set themselves up as sexual jungle gyms.
I just try to treat all people as actual people.. then go from there. Its the best way to do things, I have found.
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The ultimate catch-22. Comment on genuinely enjoyed parts that may be sexual and you're dismissed as merely sexualized. Comment and fail to mention anything and you run the risk of being berated by second parties who are interested, with thought or not. Say nothing and the picture dies a lonely little death. What do you say? Other than: Herms have a reputation that is undeserved in that no one deserves a reputation as an individual because of group perceptions and no group can be represented by single perceptions (Except where that is a necessary or sufficient or necessary and sufficient category for the group itself such as a notocord in a chordate.) Though by anecdote, herms are USED as highly sexualized because it is easy to represent them as such. And since they are not, in the sense being used, real, their "canon criteria" are largely a matter of common agreement. However, lately they aren't so much. The new trend is shemales, and sometimes very violet shemales at that.
It's from this crowd that the bad reputation comes from. Vew few people identify with hermaphrodite as a gender and it makes it harder for the rest of us.
I think I can sum it up like this, I enjoy sex and am a sexual being. Just focusing on the sex, however, is beside the point. Whatever the desire might be It's important to remember there is another person involved. I don't care if we are talking about a hard core bondage porn star or whatever, we just should never forget the individuals behind the names and titles we all use. Of course we have demeaned sex so badly that being inconsiderate outside married child-baring sex is a self fulfilling prophesy.
It ain't that this well done run dry, but it's just that some wells ain't for swimmin.
Yah just fetch a pail when ya need it.
Either way, that's pretty damn deep.
And if it's a movie quote, I ain't heard it before.