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Ups and downs in Brevard.
14 years ago
So...
I know I've been pretty quiet lately, but there's been good reason. Over the last 6 months I've been having to deal with some real craziness and that's left me with my hands full. It's also been both a great boon and a great burden. I guess we'll start back in March....
About a week after Mothers day in March, my boyfriend's mother calls and tells him that his grandmother is in very poor health and not expected to live much longer. She asks him to come and live at his grandmother's house to help take care of her. This is a pretty bad time for us, but she is distraught and because we do care for his grandmother and want to help Xan goes to live with her.
The expectation was that this would be a week or two at the most and then Xan would come home again, but that isn't how it worked out. Fast forward 2 months.... It's now May, I've been living alone in the apartment in Apopka for the last 2 months trying to find work and Xan is still over in Brevard at his grandmothers. For a while we were hoping that his grandmother might recover, but she didn't. Her health takes a turn for the worse and late in May, she passes on. Xan calls me around 11am and says he'll be home later after things get tied up there, then we'd head back over in a week for the funeral. Then our lives would get back to normal. That didn't happen.
It turns out his mother had asked him to stay there and help with taking care of things till after the funeral. But I was then asked if I wanted to come over and spend a little time with Xan, I'd barely seen him in 2 months so I jumped at the chance. I ended up being asked to stay and help with the funeral as well, so I was going to end up spending a week or so, then we would both be going back to Apopka. That didn't happen either.
The funeral came and went. I was gald I got to be a part of it honestly because I thought rather highly of Xan's grandparents, and I wasn't at his grandfather's funeral. Anyway at this point we're asked to stay on at the grandparents house for a little bit, just to take care of things. Having a little bit of free time for the first time since I had been in Brevard, I decide to see what the work situation over here is. To my surprise after a scant 3 days of looking I not only land a job for myself, but also for Xan! While this is happening Xan's aunt Terry is waffling over weather or not she wants to buy the grandparent's house, and Xan and I are in a situation of having work in Brevard, but an apartment in Apopka. Then Xan's mother asks that we stay there to keep the house lived in until she can sell it. Xan's parents offered to let him use their spare car for work and I mentioned renting the house for a while, perhaps eventually buying it if Terry wasn't interested in it and since we now needed somewhere to live in Brevard county.
So I started working, Xan and his parents started getting the spare car ready and things appear to be going well. Xan and I talk with his mother about renting the house if Terry doesn't want it. She says she would do that for a while till she decides to sell the house. Based on this, both of us working and the end of our current lease in Apopka coming at the end of June we don't reup our lease. It wouldn't have been practical for us to do so anyway with our work in Brevard. So at this point we're moved into the old grandparents house, under the auspice that we're going to be renting it, and both be working with Xan using his parents spare car. We've gone from being unemployed in a small apartment in Apopka, to both employed, living in a nice little house with a pool on the beach! Sound to good to be true? Turns out it was...
Terry decided that she didn't want the house. Xan's parents, Xan, and I decided that we would pay the power and water bills here, and stay here till we could start renting the place fully. Xan and I moved our stuff out of the old apartment and into the house, and things went smoothly for about a week.
Xan interviewed about 4 days after I did so he ended up with a start date a week later than I did. He was going to be full time just like I am and between the two of us we would have been able to afford things with little problem. But a couple days before he was supposed to start Xan's parents started getting dodgy about the car and deciding just a day before he was supposed to start that he couldn't use it. I spent the next two weeks trying to keep Xan's spot open while we tried to work out something between him and his parents for the car, before they decided to sell it to us. But by the time we did get the car though it was too late and Xan got pushed into a "reserve driver" position. In this position he got no hours unless someone else called in.
This is where things started to crumble because with half the income, we couldn't afford to rent the house, we could barely afford to keep up with the bills we had between trying to take care of bills from the apartment and our bills here. At this point, Xan's parents decided we couldn't afford to rent the house, and started trying to sell it again. While still holding us responsible for the power and water bills at the house. So not only was Xan not working because they went back on the car, but we were being held to paying the bills that we agreed to as part of getting to rent the house. And because we no longer had an apartment to go back to we were now stuck pretty much having to do it. They fucked around till Xan all but lost his job and then reniged on letting us rent the house when it was their fault our finances were now crippled.
I do my best for the next 2 months to keep up with the bills, maintinance, and trying to put a little bit away to try and get a place before the house we're in is sold from under us. Being the only one working this doesn't go well, the bills don't always get paid on time and I can't save anything up because it's all gone pretty much the day I get paid. Since we had the second car and it is more fuel efficient than my 240SX, I end up driving it (2002 Hyundai Accent), for work. After almost 2 months one of the other workers where I'm working wants to step down and be a reserve driver, and I'm able to get Xan put into that slot! Finally! I have us both working again! I think to myself that the struggle is over! Now we'll be able to put away money to rent somewhere to live and get out of the grandparents house before it's sold! I'm elated... for 2 days.
Just 2 days after we both start working, the transmission goes out of the Hyundai, and estimates for it's repair range around $1,200. I had managed to save up about $100... not even close. I tried to get a loan, but I haven't been at this job long enough. I'm looking for other ways to get this problem resoved and get the car back on the road, but it's going to be hard with us again down to one person working. Along with this, someone has offered to buy the house we're in. If they confirm that offer with a payment, we need to be out of here asap. (Not that we don't already want out of here all things concidered).
So this is where we stand right now. Xan is working, I'm trying to get a transmission in our second car so I can go back to work, and not only is the clock ticking to get the car fixed so I can get working agian but the countdown till someone else owns this house is running. This is it, if I can fix the car, we'll both be working / able to afford a place / doing alright, if I can't we'll be right back to square one, out of work and homeless. I'm doing everything I can to prevent the latter.
There you go, what I've been doing for the last 6 months. I'm still hopeful that I can fix things. Wish us luck, we're going to need it.
About a week after Mothers day in March, my boyfriend's mother calls and tells him that his grandmother is in very poor health and not expected to live much longer. She asks him to come and live at his grandmother's house to help take care of her. This is a pretty bad time for us, but she is distraught and because we do care for his grandmother and want to help Xan goes to live with her.
The expectation was that this would be a week or two at the most and then Xan would come home again, but that isn't how it worked out. Fast forward 2 months.... It's now May, I've been living alone in the apartment in Apopka for the last 2 months trying to find work and Xan is still over in Brevard at his grandmothers. For a while we were hoping that his grandmother might recover, but she didn't. Her health takes a turn for the worse and late in May, she passes on. Xan calls me around 11am and says he'll be home later after things get tied up there, then we'd head back over in a week for the funeral. Then our lives would get back to normal. That didn't happen.
It turns out his mother had asked him to stay there and help with taking care of things till after the funeral. But I was then asked if I wanted to come over and spend a little time with Xan, I'd barely seen him in 2 months so I jumped at the chance. I ended up being asked to stay and help with the funeral as well, so I was going to end up spending a week or so, then we would both be going back to Apopka. That didn't happen either.
The funeral came and went. I was gald I got to be a part of it honestly because I thought rather highly of Xan's grandparents, and I wasn't at his grandfather's funeral. Anyway at this point we're asked to stay on at the grandparents house for a little bit, just to take care of things. Having a little bit of free time for the first time since I had been in Brevard, I decide to see what the work situation over here is. To my surprise after a scant 3 days of looking I not only land a job for myself, but also for Xan! While this is happening Xan's aunt Terry is waffling over weather or not she wants to buy the grandparent's house, and Xan and I are in a situation of having work in Brevard, but an apartment in Apopka. Then Xan's mother asks that we stay there to keep the house lived in until she can sell it. Xan's parents offered to let him use their spare car for work and I mentioned renting the house for a while, perhaps eventually buying it if Terry wasn't interested in it and since we now needed somewhere to live in Brevard county.
So I started working, Xan and his parents started getting the spare car ready and things appear to be going well. Xan and I talk with his mother about renting the house if Terry doesn't want it. She says she would do that for a while till she decides to sell the house. Based on this, both of us working and the end of our current lease in Apopka coming at the end of June we don't reup our lease. It wouldn't have been practical for us to do so anyway with our work in Brevard. So at this point we're moved into the old grandparents house, under the auspice that we're going to be renting it, and both be working with Xan using his parents spare car. We've gone from being unemployed in a small apartment in Apopka, to both employed, living in a nice little house with a pool on the beach! Sound to good to be true? Turns out it was...
Terry decided that she didn't want the house. Xan's parents, Xan, and I decided that we would pay the power and water bills here, and stay here till we could start renting the place fully. Xan and I moved our stuff out of the old apartment and into the house, and things went smoothly for about a week.
Xan interviewed about 4 days after I did so he ended up with a start date a week later than I did. He was going to be full time just like I am and between the two of us we would have been able to afford things with little problem. But a couple days before he was supposed to start Xan's parents started getting dodgy about the car and deciding just a day before he was supposed to start that he couldn't use it. I spent the next two weeks trying to keep Xan's spot open while we tried to work out something between him and his parents for the car, before they decided to sell it to us. But by the time we did get the car though it was too late and Xan got pushed into a "reserve driver" position. In this position he got no hours unless someone else called in.
This is where things started to crumble because with half the income, we couldn't afford to rent the house, we could barely afford to keep up with the bills we had between trying to take care of bills from the apartment and our bills here. At this point, Xan's parents decided we couldn't afford to rent the house, and started trying to sell it again. While still holding us responsible for the power and water bills at the house. So not only was Xan not working because they went back on the car, but we were being held to paying the bills that we agreed to as part of getting to rent the house. And because we no longer had an apartment to go back to we were now stuck pretty much having to do it. They fucked around till Xan all but lost his job and then reniged on letting us rent the house when it was their fault our finances were now crippled.
I do my best for the next 2 months to keep up with the bills, maintinance, and trying to put a little bit away to try and get a place before the house we're in is sold from under us. Being the only one working this doesn't go well, the bills don't always get paid on time and I can't save anything up because it's all gone pretty much the day I get paid. Since we had the second car and it is more fuel efficient than my 240SX, I end up driving it (2002 Hyundai Accent), for work. After almost 2 months one of the other workers where I'm working wants to step down and be a reserve driver, and I'm able to get Xan put into that slot! Finally! I have us both working again! I think to myself that the struggle is over! Now we'll be able to put away money to rent somewhere to live and get out of the grandparents house before it's sold! I'm elated... for 2 days.
Just 2 days after we both start working, the transmission goes out of the Hyundai, and estimates for it's repair range around $1,200. I had managed to save up about $100... not even close. I tried to get a loan, but I haven't been at this job long enough. I'm looking for other ways to get this problem resoved and get the car back on the road, but it's going to be hard with us again down to one person working. Along with this, someone has offered to buy the house we're in. If they confirm that offer with a payment, we need to be out of here asap. (Not that we don't already want out of here all things concidered).
So this is where we stand right now. Xan is working, I'm trying to get a transmission in our second car so I can go back to work, and not only is the clock ticking to get the car fixed so I can get working agian but the countdown till someone else owns this house is running. This is it, if I can fix the car, we'll both be working / able to afford a place / doing alright, if I can't we'll be right back to square one, out of work and homeless. I'm doing everything I can to prevent the latter.
There you go, what I've been doing for the last 6 months. I'm still hopeful that I can fix things. Wish us luck, we're going to need it.
dotter
~dotter
...wow... That is epic suckage. I wish you both the best of luck! Is there some way I can help? (short of loaning you $1,200, as I'm mainly broke myself)
XoaGray
~xoagray
OP
I'm not really sure. I've tried getting a loan from my bank, but I haven't been at my job long enough to do that. mascot won't give me a cash advance large enough to help. I'm currently at a loss as well.
