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A little torn...
14 years ago
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I'm confused. A month or two ago, I got into a hissy fit with a friend of mine over his choice in females, since the particular female he was involved with went a little off the deep end at the time. I've cut myself off from contacting them for a while now and I hear from some mutual friends that the two of them are doing better.
Here's my dilemma:
We all used to be part of a local furry group that would hang out the regular. After the big debacle, everyone kinda went their own way. Since everyone's kinda gotten over the event, I feel like I'm the third wheel, more so than when I first moved here to wichita falls. The other day everyone got together like we used to, but feeling as uncomfortable as I do about socializing with the two individuals, I was being kinda reserved. At this point, seeing as how they seem to be doing much better than before, do I swallow my pride and try and make amends or what? The logical answer is obvious, seeing as how the real reason for our excommunication was petty, trivial and extremely childish, but I guess my guilt is really what is keeping me from approaching these two particular individuals...
Thoughts?
Here's my dilemma:
We all used to be part of a local furry group that would hang out the regular. After the big debacle, everyone kinda went their own way. Since everyone's kinda gotten over the event, I feel like I'm the third wheel, more so than when I first moved here to wichita falls. The other day everyone got together like we used to, but feeling as uncomfortable as I do about socializing with the two individuals, I was being kinda reserved. At this point, seeing as how they seem to be doing much better than before, do I swallow my pride and try and make amends or what? The logical answer is obvious, seeing as how the real reason for our excommunication was petty, trivial and extremely childish, but I guess my guilt is really what is keeping me from approaching these two particular individuals...
Thoughts?
Like I said, the logical answer is obvious. Its pride/guilt/embarrassment (one of the three, I'm not sure which) that keeps me from dealing with it.
I can't really say what I would do as I don't know this person as there are some people that depending what started it all, I don't give a "2nd chance". Go with what you feel is right.
My biggest advice would be to talk with your friend first. Kinda let him know how you feel, but do it in a way that won't start anything. This way you two can discuss the issue as friends and maybe come to a decision on your part better. Holding back and staying reserved will not fix things any more than they already are, it's you who has to make the first move at attempting to bridge the gap.