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Something I fail to understand
14 years ago
Well, this may be a bit rantish, but that's better than all the other depressive shit I've been posting in my last few journals, yes?
Things have been going unusually well for me during the past few days, nothing particularly special other than a really fun Halloween party, but quite a bit better than usual daily trudge. Anyways, I have a facebook(no, you can't have the name). The only reason I have this thing any more is just to troll my friends on it, and have an easy messeging system when I don't feel like bothering with an actual messenger. I forewarn everyone of this before I add them. One particular person I added on there, who happened to be female, apparently didn't like what I had to say on a status update, so she simply removed me. That's fine, I'm not losing any sleep over it; I had no interest in this person at all, adding them was more of a social courtesy than anything else.
Now, just last evening, I was hanging out with some friends of mine and casually mentioned what happened as we were all sitting around chatting and whatnot since the story had some vague relevence to the topic at hand. One of them said "Dude, you can't do that.." my response to which, was "Why not? You know all I do is troll on there." He responded with "Because she's a girl." .....What?
Did I miss a memo somewhere that females are now exempt from being trolled simply for having non-male bits between their legs? The conversation changed topic shortly after that to avoid any butthurtedness, but I couldn't help but get to thinking. Why should a person be treated any differently simply based on their gender? I fail to understand this concept or come up with a logical reason behind it. I'm well aware of the old fashioned way of thinking, that females are supposedly some delicate princess types that you have to treat special, but isn't this day and age supposed to be focused upon equality between genders, religions, sexualities, nationalities, cultures, and everything else? This may be only my perspective, but the belief that a certain gender is inherently entitled to a pass from exposure to a certain social behavior is directly contradictary of the belief in equality, which bothers the fuck out of me to no end. It may just be a difference in my view of people and my friend's, but the idea that I'm supposed to be inherently nicer to someone or refrain from my usual line of thinking around them based on nothing more than the fact that their anatomy is of the opposite gender is archaic, backwards, and a bit insulting.
I find it insulting because that implies that all women, until proven otherwise, are automatically better than I am just because I'm a male and they aren't. It's just a step away from being called a second-class citizen, in my opinion. I'm not going to attempt to talk my friend out of his line of thinking, since that would just create conflict. I just find myself strongly disagreeing with him on this particular point of view. He's entitled to his view and can treat people any way he likes, but that won't keep me from disagreeing with it. It also won't stop me from being a bit irked when it arises in conversation or action in my presence, but I can bite my tongue and deal with it.
If you have commentary or other opinions, don't feel discouraged about posting them here. I welcome the challenge of discussion. I'd also like to apologize if that jumble of words up there doesn't make any sense to you.
Things have been going unusually well for me during the past few days, nothing particularly special other than a really fun Halloween party, but quite a bit better than usual daily trudge. Anyways, I have a facebook(no, you can't have the name). The only reason I have this thing any more is just to troll my friends on it, and have an easy messeging system when I don't feel like bothering with an actual messenger. I forewarn everyone of this before I add them. One particular person I added on there, who happened to be female, apparently didn't like what I had to say on a status update, so she simply removed me. That's fine, I'm not losing any sleep over it; I had no interest in this person at all, adding them was more of a social courtesy than anything else.
Now, just last evening, I was hanging out with some friends of mine and casually mentioned what happened as we were all sitting around chatting and whatnot since the story had some vague relevence to the topic at hand. One of them said "Dude, you can't do that.." my response to which, was "Why not? You know all I do is troll on there." He responded with "Because she's a girl." .....What?
Did I miss a memo somewhere that females are now exempt from being trolled simply for having non-male bits between their legs? The conversation changed topic shortly after that to avoid any butthurtedness, but I couldn't help but get to thinking. Why should a person be treated any differently simply based on their gender? I fail to understand this concept or come up with a logical reason behind it. I'm well aware of the old fashioned way of thinking, that females are supposedly some delicate princess types that you have to treat special, but isn't this day and age supposed to be focused upon equality between genders, religions, sexualities, nationalities, cultures, and everything else? This may be only my perspective, but the belief that a certain gender is inherently entitled to a pass from exposure to a certain social behavior is directly contradictary of the belief in equality, which bothers the fuck out of me to no end. It may just be a difference in my view of people and my friend's, but the idea that I'm supposed to be inherently nicer to someone or refrain from my usual line of thinking around them based on nothing more than the fact that their anatomy is of the opposite gender is archaic, backwards, and a bit insulting.
I find it insulting because that implies that all women, until proven otherwise, are automatically better than I am just because I'm a male and they aren't. It's just a step away from being called a second-class citizen, in my opinion. I'm not going to attempt to talk my friend out of his line of thinking, since that would just create conflict. I just find myself strongly disagreeing with him on this particular point of view. He's entitled to his view and can treat people any way he likes, but that won't keep me from disagreeing with it. It also won't stop me from being a bit irked when it arises in conversation or action in my presence, but I can bite my tongue and deal with it.
If you have commentary or other opinions, don't feel discouraged about posting them here. I welcome the challenge of discussion. I'd also like to apologize if that jumble of words up there doesn't make any sense to you.
On a side note, I'm honestly a bit glad that the person on FB removed me. I was sick of reading updates about her fucking baby.
Dude its the same reasons why we cant really tell them the truth about anything not bc there better than us, but bc you can't tell then yeah you look fat in that or that perfume stinks without incurring any wrath or vindictive acts.
Its more chivalrous (an art that has all but died in this generation) to respect the bearers of our children. Itsa scruple thats been instilled that we take care of the female population by our ancestors.
However, I dont agree with CTs friend, because of a few reasons. Women in this generation need to recieve the same treatment as men, because our social standing has decided humans are humans. What chromosomes you have is no reason to keep you out of the army, or refuse to hire you for work. It IS sexist. There are always exceptions I guess, but for the most part, this is an opinion I use daily.