Make him disappear or something. Some of that could have been excused....Ordering movies though? That took conscious thought to do that. And multiple button pressing. Tell him to get the hell out.

^^^^

This.

He may be your husband's friend, but he's dragging you guys down. Your financial situation and your concerns should come before some "friend" who's basically become a disrespectful leech. I know what it's like to have a roommate milk the pity card for months just because they lost their job. If he's an adult, it's not your responsibility to play nanny for him. If he has time to watch movies, he has time to go job hunting.

<3 all my best wishes to you right now.

I can't say anything as I am a 'leech' because my job doesn't pay enough. Though I do empathize with you; there are no easy answers though perhaps you should have a serious heart yo heart with him.

After my wife and I split, I moved back in with my family.
I was depressed as hell, suicidal and just generally not in a good way.
My parents took care of me but after about a month or so, I started busting my ass looking for a job.
I've got one, I've had it since June and even though I don't make enough I do what I can to help around the house.

I know what it's like being a leech, I know what it's like having a leech and I know how hard it is to tell them to gtfo.
It's not THAT hard to find a job... I don't care where you live, there is always somewhere that is hiring.

....one question though...
How the hell is he affording drugs if he doesn't have any money?

kusatsu,
There's helping people, and then there's being a welcome mat and being used. From your vivid description it sounds quite plainly to me that he's using you both as a welcome mat. He's there because he doesn't have a job right? then he should be getting off his ass and looking for a job instead of playing video games all day, getting stoned, whatever. he should also in some way contribute to your household if he is going to stay there any length of time (housework, sharing foodstamps etcetra) You also don't need a drug user in your home either because if he gets busted you could very well get busted along with him as well and I don't need to to tell you how bad that'd be now ne?
You need to have a serious and frank discussion with your husband as this can be a detriment to your marriage and relationship if not dealt with swiftly. Your mate needs to be looking out for you first, then himself then anyone else. Don't get me wrong, helping others is good you often get good karma out of that and get help later on down the road in return, but seriously if he's getting a roof over his head he should be humble, polite, and respectful of your household and not be such an ass.
For those that end up in a bad way I can sympathize with them as I been there many times mostly due to mistakes made by my mother in the past prior to me leaving home, and situations outside of my control when I left college and know it's not easy and always good when someone helps you. But when someone helps you for cripe's sake show some respect and gratitude. Don't pull them down with you. I was in a similar situation, had no job and no place to go and my grandparents helped me out. What did I do? I looked for work, helped around the house, sold some of my possessions to help with the bills. I didn't sit on my ass, I didn't play games all day. I did what I could to get back on my feet. Now while my current job doesn't pay enough for me to live on my own, I pay my fair share of the rent and bills and chip in as needed for food, car care etc.

I'm sure your mate cares for his friend, but his friend needs to be a friend and not drag you both down. be firm with the guy, make it plain as day what he needs to do. if he does it great, if not well life's a bitch and then you die. Life has no time for lazy whiners, one has to get up and get a move on or one will drown in the sea of chaos that is living.

I'd call the police and have him removed. then swear out a restraining order against him so he cannot come back.

I've had "friends" like that, and you are FAR better off without him

D'aww, I feel special now.

I really do hope that things improve for you, tho. There is absolutely NO reason whatsoever that you and your hubs should be putting up with his mooching arse, or for your hubs to not be putting his foot down. Leeching roommates suuuuuuuck. D:

wow what a moocher

RAUS KAMERAD

Oh, I remember having that problem before. The best thing to do it to give him an ultimatum. Either you contribute to this household, or you can start looking for somewhere else to stay. Seriously, I really don't like people that do that. He could at least do something around the house, but he just sounds like a couch-bum.

Here's hoping things go a little better for you all.

It seems that the only way to make this go away is to let your husband know exactly where you stand on this (if you haven't already, that is). That this is how his "friend" decides to show his appreciation for your generosity, I do not believe that he is a friend that is worth having around. You need to cut your losses, quite litterelly, and let him fend for himself. If he can afford to get his lazy ass high, then he has plenty of funds available to get real food for himself and start being an adult. Maybe go shopping with him once, have him buy supplies with his food stamps (just to show that it CAN be done), then let him know that is the last help he is getting from you.

It really sucks that you guys are in this jam, and I wish you the best in getting out of it. *hugs from us both*