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Proper closure
14 years ago
General
Albaster, I wish we could talk. Calmly, civilly, respectfully. And I know that's not going to happen unless you are willing. I need to put our old friendship to rest, and find some peaceful closure between us. I have some questions, and I want to bury the hatchet. I want to know what happened to my old friend, and why you did some of the things you did, without there being any yelling or vitriol involved. And I don't want you feeling afraid, guilted, or anything like that. I wanted to be a good and loyal friend to you, and I wanted us to remain good friends, but I don't want to perpetuate a friendship if its net result is that you are miserable. I would rather us be non-friends who have no more problems stemming from our friendship hanging over either of us.
I hope this is a reasonable request. If you can agree to this, and are willing to speak with me, please contact one of our mutual friends, so we can arrange some means of mutual two-way contact.
I hope this is a reasonable request. If you can agree to this, and are willing to speak with me, please contact one of our mutual friends, so we can arrange some means of mutual two-way contact.
The situation I'm trying to avoid, are the factors that caused each of us to put each other on block in the first place. I would like to speak with him, but only if there is civility.
There is much of what happened that I still don't understand, and continues to cause me stress on a daily basis, because we had more often been such good and congenial friends prior - we had become such good friends that it was hard ever imagining not being his friend. So the abrupt ending and unexplained blocking, followed by all that unexpected rage and yelling months later, was the worst way I could have ever imagined the friendship ending.
As my mother observed, I did love him - platonically, as a really, really good friend. I still do, and I would like to like a proper, respectful, hatchet-burying end to the friendship, so that I can move on without the daily hurt and scalding every time something unexpectedly reminds me of him. I'm filled with good and happy memories, and they contrast painfully with how it all derailed. I want to know much. Honest questions, honest answers. Peacefully.