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13 years ago
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I've had quite a few people here, on twitter, and IRL ask me as to my disappearance on instant messenger programs like AIM/YIM/etc. I haven't been on lately as they've become insanely frustrating as I don't want to upset people. However it seems not being on also is upsetting a few of my friends.....
Okay, so let me get a few things off my chest and this is not directed at anyone in particular. I'm sorry if this hurts anyone's feeling as this is not the intention as I do not ever like, nor want to be nasty.
Here is my usual messenger program goings on:
*logs in, usually after work and a few things and I'm a little tired already*
*program not even finishing loading and suddenly I have five buddy pounces opening windows......*
*my brain disregards all of them thinking they're pop-up ads and I'm irritated as I haven't even gotten to see who is on yet*
*finally see who is on and try to chat with a few people.....*
*have a few without pounces say hi and want to chat and I don't mind, though now have 20+ tabs going.....*
*try having fun and keeping up with everyone, though paying attention to anyone that has anything in serious need of advice*
*half the windows it has been a couple minutes to respond to and now begin either getting depressed thinking I'm trying to actively ignore them or are getting angry and saying I'm being rude as hell*
*another fourth of the windows have about fifty lines from someone going "you there?"*
*and a few scant people are responding at 150+ wpm typing and expect instant replies*
*I get stuck now ditching someone in need or spreading myself over every other window who will all be miserable and angry as I'm responsive but slow*
......... *then logs in next time invis to ten pokes and anyone I try chatting with chiding me for being invis....*
Erf...... Guys I really do want to chat with people but I really need you to understand I'm all over the place when I am on. It really does take me time to respond, and I am not pissed at you or trying to say you don't mean anything to me if I do not reply for a couple minutes. So here goes....
I want to be on AIM/YIM/etc, but if you want me on there, you have to be willing to be patient with me replying and know it is like a big party room but I'm not able to have a martini with you all at once. It sucks and makes me miserable to feel that way but that is how it is. Also, if you have something to notify you of people being online.... don't add a buddy pounce pleaaaaaaaase. I have yet to know anyone who doesn't use them, but likes receiving one. Just wait a sec for someone to get their bearings as they often load before the program is done. Also, don't yell at me for not being on more. Asking, sure that's okay and this post is the explanation, but don't be nasty about it. Don't think any of you here fall under that, but I have experienced it in the past.
So, I'll try to be on more once people have had a chance to read this. I'm sorry I don't show up more there, but it makes me miserable and I need help from all of you if I am to go on it. Thanks for your patience and sorry I've been absent. :(
Okay, so let me get a few things off my chest and this is not directed at anyone in particular. I'm sorry if this hurts anyone's feeling as this is not the intention as I do not ever like, nor want to be nasty.
Here is my usual messenger program goings on:
*logs in, usually after work and a few things and I'm a little tired already*
*program not even finishing loading and suddenly I have five buddy pounces opening windows......*
*my brain disregards all of them thinking they're pop-up ads and I'm irritated as I haven't even gotten to see who is on yet*
*finally see who is on and try to chat with a few people.....*
*have a few without pounces say hi and want to chat and I don't mind, though now have 20+ tabs going.....*
*try having fun and keeping up with everyone, though paying attention to anyone that has anything in serious need of advice*
*half the windows it has been a couple minutes to respond to and now begin either getting depressed thinking I'm trying to actively ignore them or are getting angry and saying I'm being rude as hell*
*another fourth of the windows have about fifty lines from someone going "you there?"*
*and a few scant people are responding at 150+ wpm typing and expect instant replies*
*I get stuck now ditching someone in need or spreading myself over every other window who will all be miserable and angry as I'm responsive but slow*
......... *then logs in next time invis to ten pokes and anyone I try chatting with chiding me for being invis....*
Erf...... Guys I really do want to chat with people but I really need you to understand I'm all over the place when I am on. It really does take me time to respond, and I am not pissed at you or trying to say you don't mean anything to me if I do not reply for a couple minutes. So here goes....
I want to be on AIM/YIM/etc, but if you want me on there, you have to be willing to be patient with me replying and know it is like a big party room but I'm not able to have a martini with you all at once. It sucks and makes me miserable to feel that way but that is how it is. Also, if you have something to notify you of people being online.... don't add a buddy pounce pleaaaaaaaase. I have yet to know anyone who doesn't use them, but likes receiving one. Just wait a sec for someone to get their bearings as they often load before the program is done. Also, don't yell at me for not being on more. Asking, sure that's okay and this post is the explanation, but don't be nasty about it. Don't think any of you here fall under that, but I have experienced it in the past.
So, I'll try to be on more once people have had a chance to read this. I'm sorry I don't show up more there, but it makes me miserable and I need help from all of you if I am to go on it. Thanks for your patience and sorry I've been absent. :(
Don't worry about "not having the same name" as people can rename you to whatever they wish on their AIM/Trillian/whatever client. :)
Or get twitter and be social and see all the events and hassling you're missing! :D *is being bad*
I was trying to explain a similar thing to someone we both know the other day and, yeah. It's soooo hard to manage different people's expectations on something like IM networks. x.@ There's no easy solution!
Personally, I don't mind the waits. I'm online 24/7 (oh to work in IM!) and I explain to people that I probably won't respond from 8am to 8pm Pacific time unless it's important or I know they're patient. And it took a while but folks have gotten used to my copy + paste reply explaining this. S'no biggie. Those who care understand either way :3
Life goes on!
Then again I usually only have about three people IMing me, not including the bots. >_>