oh goodness, i'm so sorry...

Awww I don't really know what to say except giving a big hug and even though we never met or talked before if you need someone I'll be here even though I am a stranger.

All I can say is that if it was caught in time, she'll be alright. I feel for what you're going through, it's not easy, I know.

Just keep a smile on your face cause you smile shell smile too and nothings more beautiful and uplifting as a mothers smile aswell it shows her you are strong!

In times I've faced scary things that I can't control I can tell you what works for me. Most importantly do not let yourself get stagnant and stew in it. In the times I broke away and did nothing or drink etc I found myself more obcessively thinking about it all. Best thing you can do is work on something, anything to keep your mind focused. It can be art, new video game, cleaning, hobbies, projects or anything. With something to work on your mind doesn't spiral into that horrible question of "what if" and making progress through whatever the work is gives you a small sense of success and progression.

My mother had breast cancer.

She's doing great now. :)

Don't worry about it, and don't freak out. This isn't a death sentence, it's just potentially troubling.

The most important advice I can possibly give your mother, no fooling is this: STAY AWAY FROM YOUR FAVORITE FOODS. /Everything/ is going to taste like windex while you're on chemotherapy. Sucks. So don't eat anything you normally take great pleasure in eating, because it's going to always hold that terrible taste in your mind. Mashed potatoes can be your friend, as can saltines. Just eat/drink bland stuff, and try to keep it simple.

And most importantly, make sure you give her lots of hugs. Shes' gonna need 'em. But she'll get through it!

BTW, if you have any questions about it and stuff, toss me a note. I'll try to answer them to the best of my ability.

Don't worry about the bad and focus on the getting better. Dear ol mom needs the support of her family and that's what you should be trying to centralize on. If you let yourself be brought down by this then it will only make her sink as well.

I agree with Drayk on this.

I agree with this, you need to stay strong for your mother. Imagen how she feels if you feel like this - take her out and make her happy. Just anything to take her mind off it, walk in the park?

But stay strong for her, she needs you more than ever now.

I hope that it's in it's early stages and that it's still treatable. It's hard to stay positive, and it's ok to be sad, and it's certainly ok to cry. Just as it's ok to seek support from your friends and family on your bad days, and you'll be the same for your family and friends.

I'm going through something similar, and all you can do is take one day at a time.

Much loves to you, your mum and the rest of your family

My mom is a 35 year survivor of breast cancer.

Your mom's odds are better now.

It's ok to be scared at a time like this, but you've got friends out there to help you through this.

My grandmother needs to go in for a "lumpectomy" as my mother put it, soon. They aren't certain yet if it's cancerous growths or benign, but knowing a love might even be inflicted with cancer is never easy. My younger cousin had Lymphoma several years ago (he luckily came through it with flying colors), but last year I lost my aunt to her battle with liver cancer.

I know the feeling of helplessness that comes with news like this, but just know there's always hope on the horizon.

My mom fought cancer late last year. She won. There is always hope.

I know the feeling my friend my mother had breast cancer. I hope everything goes well. I do know that smiling is a great way to keep each other uplifted. You have my prayers and hopes.......and of course my hugs!

:( *huggles*

I'm sorry for the diagnosis and hope your mom makes a full and speedy recovery. Hang in there.

I don't have much in the way of advice to offer you but please know my thoughts are with you! I know everything will be okay so just take a deep breath and try to keep positive.

Oh man! D: I really wish the best for you and your mom, I hope she can get through this okay! ;w;

In the short time I have been alive I have faced death many a time. Your mother will undoubtedly be absolutely fine unless it is her time to go. What sucks, and is also a blessing, is not knowing when we will be called. Remember to think positively and keep your hopes up. God(Or deity of choice) has an odd way of testing us when we least expect.

The best thing you can do is tell yourself "this is how things are and I'm going to deal with them the best I can every day" and then each day that you deal with it better and have more hope you'll feel better knowing you are doing your best and you are there for her. If anything, always be by her side and be supportive.

<3

I'm sorry you are going through this, and I'm sorry your mom is suffering. Did they catch it early enough to give her a good chance at least? ):

I understand where you're at, honey.

My dad recently got diagonsed with small cell carcinoma, a VERY aggressive form of lung cancer. It crushed my world and I was depressed about it for the longest, especially since the median survival is 8 to 13 months for those in the extensive stage like him. We were all trying to stay positive, but I know first hand it can be so hard

However, there was alway that tiny percent chance some can overcome that survival rate, and my dad is one of the lucky few. After chemo-treatments, most of the cancer has shrunk down, the lump that was on his throat completely disappeared, and the doctor says that even though the cancer can't go in full remission, it's gone into partial, which is better than not at all.

Like others have said, this is not a death sentence. It's greatly troubling, but there is hope. Treatments and medication have come a long way from what they use to be. My dad has his few bad days with nausea and being fatigued, but for the most part, he's doing really great so long as he's taking his pills and watching his diet :)

As far as advice goes, just be sure to avoid cooking/preparing foods that are strong in spices or have overpowering smells. As much as it sucks, bland food and drinks will be the best thing for her stomach's digestion. Coffee will also be a no-no while she's going through treatments.

Just keep smiling and be there for her the best you can =) There are no promises, but keep your chin up high and just have faith.

The best thing you can do is take it one day at a time, and try to stay positive.

It sucks, and it seems like things won't pull up, but, trust me, they always do, one way or another.

So chin up, keep smiling, find reasons to laugh, and live life to the fullest

I went through this last year with my aunt. I know you already said that you know should be positive, but like you said this something you can never really be prepared for. Even if you just have to put on a mask and pretend, any amount of strength you can present for her will help her so much.
I wish you both the best in this.

In my opinion, don't give up! As many have said its something that can be beaten. Either way although, cherish the time and do your best not to feel down.

oh no ;.; *Hugs you tight* I'll keep my prayers open to her, and hope she gets better ;.;

Hoping that your mother gets well.

Here for you if you need it... *hugs tight*

best wishes, blue. cancer is hard to deal with, for the patient and their family. my father developed cancer when i was five and he was only expected to live a year or so after diagnosis, but he's still kicking today. just stay hopeful :)

I am so sorry Blue...
I wish your mother the best and i hope that it can be dealt with. My heart goes out to you *hugs*.
I'm sure your mother is scared too. Just be there with her as much as you can be. Being positive is a hard thing to do in situations like these. But do your best. It'll make a world of difference for both you and your mom if you can smile once in a while. But just be there for her. Talk to eachother about it, get your feelings out. *hugs again*

I'm terribly sorry to hear about what both you and your mom are going through. You both are in my prayers.

*hugs* Try to be strong. It's not an automatic death sentence anymore. She can survive. You can help her. It'll be okay.

There's no right way to handle something like this, and there's no way to be prepared for it.

Just be there. If she has the spirit to walk against breast cancer, then she has enough fight in her to make it through. Don't let her forget it, either <3.

You've got my support, too.

<3 Just be there for your mum and let your friends be there for you. Hope for the best and do what you can to make it.

Is there anything that we, the Users of Fur Affinity, can do to help?

*sends hugs*
i know is had my sister went thru cancer to there alot of feeling of being helpless the best thing to do is to be strong for your mom and stay positvied when times get hard she will need it and think of the good things dont dull on the scary.and when it get to much for you its okay to cry it out calm yourself and do it again, there is no easy way to deal with it but keep smiling it will help your mom and in return help you,

I'll be keeping you both in my thoughts much love for the both of ya

I'm sorry to hear that, rrf :<

I send you a nice warm hug :3

It can be treated, and lived through, My family has seen this happen before. Many of us know your pain~

I'm sorry to hear that, but know that you two can beat this. My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer around the same time I was diagnosed with lymphoma, and the most important thing is to be able to support each other. She'll need someone to lean on- her friends, her family. Support her, and together you can all get through this.

My uncle was diagnosed with Stage 2 Esophageal cancer last year. Since my biological dad ran out on me, I look up to my uncle like my father figure. He is still not the same, and his condition goes up and down a lot on a daily basis. So I know first hand what it is like to have a family member that has been diagnosed with Cancer.

It hit all of us hard when we heard he had cancer. I don't think anyone could possibly prepare themselves fully for that news. Depending on the stage cancer isn't always a death sentence anymore, but seeing someone go through the treatment is a difficult thing. There are times you feel so hopeless because there is nothing you can really do to make that person's suffering go away. Though you have to try to be the strong one because that person relies on you the most.

I wish I could give you some advice on how to cope, but I don't know the answer either. And I know that breast cancer is extremely hard on a woman no matter the stage.

Though I can't give you advice on how to cope, I can tell you that your mom is going to need your love and support now more than ever. Just do your best to be there for your mom through everything that she will need to go through. It is going to be difficult to see, and there are days that you are going to feel your lowest... but that is when you need to be your strongest. You seem like a strong person, even if you doubt it right now it will be present when you need it most.

Hang in there. *hugs*

Like many are saying, breast cancer is very treatable caught early. Reading about it and the actual statistics involved might help with the fear a little.

The key is believing you can get through it.

*Hugs* I wish the both of you the best. :)

You know where I am; never hesitate to come to me if you need to for anything, it's absolutely alright to do so-- always.

You're my best friend and I love the shit out of you. And no matter what happens, everything is going to end up okay. <3

Oh wow Blue...I'm really sorry to hear that. Don't have any advice that hasn't been said... *Hugs*

This is really rough news, and you're doing well to handle it if you're able to get a message out to us little peoples in the fandom. I want to say every thing turns out alright, but I can't know that. What I can know is that if you ever need anyone to talk to, a shoulder to lean on, or someone to keep you close, I, and many others in the fandom are here for you as much as you may need. *offers hugs*

Um, I dont know what its like to go through this, but just know You and your mom will be in my prayers. Just stay strong and keep your chin up Blue.

Oncology treatments have improved since my mom was diagnosed with Breast Cancer about 20 years ago. It's life changing, yes. But it's not a death sentence. My mom made it, and so can yours.

Wow, you do have alot of comments.

First of all anyone who says you should be positive has probably never had to deal with this shit, or they are an eternal optomist. My mom was diagnosed with a brain tumor when i was 21, and to say I was not scared shitless would be untrue. Still, she survived, and although things could have gone much better than they did, the human brain is a tricky thing anyway.

The point I was trying to make, badly, is that there is hope, there are options, and although this has knocked you for one hell of a loop (understandably) you need to take a step back, take a deep breath, (probably get a hug, becuase you need one right now) and try to look at the situation from an outside view (much easier said than done). Have the done a biopsy yet? Is it malignant or benign? Is it treatable? What will treatment involve?

I understand that you are scared, I understand you are worried about your mom, all of that makes sense. And as much as I am gonna sound like a bitch for saying it, you need to be strong for her, becuase I am also sure she is scared too and needs as much support as you can give. That and sometimes pretending to be strong for someone else helps us to really be that way. Strange but true. If you need someone to talk to, or just vent to I am always around. Gails therapy hut is always open for business. Virtual hugs at you.