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FCN and Rant
13 years ago
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So I have known this for a while, but I neglected to mention it on here because probably almost everyone who actually pays attention to my personal life knows this already: I will be at FCN. So... yeah. Woo.
Also, my mother has decided to demonstrate her obscene ignorance at my expense. In one fell swoop, she has decided:
1. Pansexuality does not exist. According to her, it is bullshit that someone can decide to have a relationship over emotional attachment rather than physical attraction. She says that she knows this for a fact because she is a "social scientist." Yeah, except her degree is in anthropology and is ~30 years old. i.e. she is not a psychologist and has precious little knowledge on the subject. And being married, you would think that she knows better.
2. All of my friends have no direction in life. Nevermind that pretty much every single one of them is making more progress than I am. Among my friends are two people going to the university for engineering degrees, one for sound design who already has some high-profile jobs, two more are advancing in their current jobs.... (It is almost as amusing as when she decided a couple of my friends were drug dealers because I caught the smell of cigarette smoke at a café.)
3. Because some of my friends are gay, I am automatically considering an alternative lifestyle. They are trying to "lead me down a path" of becoming gay. That is how it works, right? You can catch the gay from them! Oh, the nonsense.
That is not all of it, but those are the key points, I think. That is right; she actually made it worse than that. The bottom line is, I do not need to be around my parents. They have been nothing but an impediment for far too long, and of course they are always right, even in my areas of expertise. Ugh.
Now if you will excuse me, I need to blow some stuff up.
Also, my mother has decided to demonstrate her obscene ignorance at my expense. In one fell swoop, she has decided:
1. Pansexuality does not exist. According to her, it is bullshit that someone can decide to have a relationship over emotional attachment rather than physical attraction. She says that she knows this for a fact because she is a "social scientist." Yeah, except her degree is in anthropology and is ~30 years old. i.e. she is not a psychologist and has precious little knowledge on the subject. And being married, you would think that she knows better.
2. All of my friends have no direction in life. Nevermind that pretty much every single one of them is making more progress than I am. Among my friends are two people going to the university for engineering degrees, one for sound design who already has some high-profile jobs, two more are advancing in their current jobs.... (It is almost as amusing as when she decided a couple of my friends were drug dealers because I caught the smell of cigarette smoke at a café.)
3. Because some of my friends are gay, I am automatically considering an alternative lifestyle. They are trying to "lead me down a path" of becoming gay. That is how it works, right? You can catch the gay from them! Oh, the nonsense.
That is not all of it, but those are the key points, I think. That is right; she actually made it worse than that. The bottom line is, I do not need to be around my parents. They have been nothing but an impediment for far too long, and of course they are always right, even in my areas of expertise. Ugh.
Now if you will excuse me, I need to blow some stuff up.
She also asserted that I must prefer one gender over the other, and therefore I must be straight or gay. She has never acknowledged that there is bisexuality at all.
I apologize if that was unclear.
And yeah, that's stupid if she doesn't acknowledge bisexuality exists.
Now, the interesting part is why they arent huddled together as the same thing. Does bisexuality mean you are more inclined into a relationship if they are physically appealing? Can pansexuals become attracted to the personality of say, an animal?
Because the way its explained to me, the difference between the two is bisexuals are just shallow lol.
So based on what I have been presented with as far as pansexuality is concerned, both of the situations you suggest are possible. It is hardly rare for a relationship to begin around physical attraction and for an emotional bond to build up after that. I would question the latter because humans cannot communicate as well with animals as with other humans, but I recognize that it might be possible.