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17 years ago
Don't get riled. It's a joke title. And that's actually part of the problem I've been considering. I was listening to a recent furry podcast, I didn't know such a thing existed beyond 2 the ranting gryphon but I like to try new things, and found two things that really irked me conceptually. First of all who exactly discerned what the personalities of different anthros was? Admittedly, as a wolf, I assert some thoughts and emotions to be properly wolfish but in the grander scheme I play a Norse wolf and that influences perceptions. The kind of gung-ho over the hill and through the woods chainsaw wielding horror action adventure lifestyle I enjoy may not be the cup of tea for someone else. Likewise I think it just as improper to impart behaviors on anthros by species just as it would be improper to imply behavior schemes based on race among humans.
Which brings me to the second thing: Furry and gayness. Now I'm bi and people that know me will know that yes, if I met someone I felt strongly about and we were consenting, I'd want some sweet man candy. However, in other regards I'm functionally heterosexual. Women are beautiful and sexy and if they got a brain to go with it I just want to love them to bits. The important part here is I keep it to myself. It's really none of your business nor do you care if I like fudge or not, but I find there's this perception that most furries are gay almost to the point that something is wrong with you if you're furry and not gay; like we're going to stalk down and rape female straight furries in ravenning gangs or something.
Now admittedly many a fur might have some poor social skills, but that's from the total of all furs not just straight ones! Now could it be that the preponderance of gay furry lit and content is because it's a subject that makes us uncomfortable so we've dilluted its effect by exposure? Seems likely. But that's no reason to screw the pooch, as it were, and let it run rampantly out of control. Furries have sex. That's all that needs to be said. Now for a quality piece like Carpe Diem or Circles maybe homosexuality has a contextual signifigince, but does it really matter in my daily living and should people be putting a value on it for me? More importantly, if people think homosexuality is so desperately vital as an expression, what does that say about them? It's all well and good to point fingers and talk about balance, but if I'm the one being egaltarian in the situation, does that not by definition mean the opposing point is being unreasonable?
Ah well, time to get back to my gay old time here in RL.
Which brings me to the second thing: Furry and gayness. Now I'm bi and people that know me will know that yes, if I met someone I felt strongly about and we were consenting, I'd want some sweet man candy. However, in other regards I'm functionally heterosexual. Women are beautiful and sexy and if they got a brain to go with it I just want to love them to bits. The important part here is I keep it to myself. It's really none of your business nor do you care if I like fudge or not, but I find there's this perception that most furries are gay almost to the point that something is wrong with you if you're furry and not gay; like we're going to stalk down and rape female straight furries in ravenning gangs or something.
Now admittedly many a fur might have some poor social skills, but that's from the total of all furs not just straight ones! Now could it be that the preponderance of gay furry lit and content is because it's a subject that makes us uncomfortable so we've dilluted its effect by exposure? Seems likely. But that's no reason to screw the pooch, as it were, and let it run rampantly out of control. Furries have sex. That's all that needs to be said. Now for a quality piece like Carpe Diem or Circles maybe homosexuality has a contextual signifigince, but does it really matter in my daily living and should people be putting a value on it for me? More importantly, if people think homosexuality is so desperately vital as an expression, what does that say about them? It's all well and good to point fingers and talk about balance, but if I'm the one being egaltarian in the situation, does that not by definition mean the opposing point is being unreasonable?
Ah well, time to get back to my gay old time here in RL.
It's amazing how many gay males in the fandom assume since I am female that I automatically think that they are something to chase after. Being as particular as I am in general about whom I wish to be with it's a bit insulting. Now granted this is based off of my perceptions and the local furs I have met and most certainly does not apply to all of them. It just has been of notice due to the large quantity that I have come across.
Also it's a bit sad to see the reactions of those male furs out there trying to look for a female fur mate. A good portion of them lack the basic idea that a female has rights to herself and is not open season for all. Also that they can (gasp!) use their brains and make their own decisions. Not to mention that many fail to realize that just because a fur may be a female does not mean that they would not enjoy the same things as male furs.
All in all I initially thought the fandom was about being yourself and instead have found that many find it to be fitting a stereotype. This is not something I wished to see but it seems to be rather obvious. I have run into furs who are playing at being gay to fit in with other furs. It saddens me to see this happen.
The beau and myself are doing great together. Far better than I could have imagined. Poor dear ended up meeting my family this past weekend. He did well with them and they like him and vice versa.