...Erm, I never said I am against Bondage or something. o.o

Its its in agreement by both sides, I dont mind powerplay, heck I was in a pet/master relationship/still am (dunno if my master still wants me as his pet, we kinda got out of contact).

All I dont understand is liking pain.

There's no real explanation that I can give. There could be quite a few different things that makes the trigger switch from person to person, but usually in the case of the submissive it's about just letting go. Not worrying about yourself, just letting someone take over and make you feel what they want you to feel. Of course, there's all sorts of different things. Is it a female doing it? Are you getting spanked? What do you feel about certain different things in this situation? A myriad of different little things can come together as enjoyment for giving or receiving the pain.

I wish I could explain it, that there was a way for me to say 'yeah, this is what it's like' but I'm honestly not sure where I'd even begin. I just chalk it up to people having different things that float their boat, so I leave the question alone where possible.

But you could just let go by being tied up, thats bondage.

What I dont understand is, how can somebody get kicked in the nuts and enjoy it? Or burnt with hot wax? Or hit with a riding crop until their skin reddens or even bleeds? Heck, some people even enjoy light cutting.

And I know it may be just me, but I just cant figure it out, even if I take in people being different. I never saw someone get a boner over hitting their foot against something or cutting themselves while doing cooking, or getting whapped up the head if they do a stupid comment. So why do they get off on it when they're in bed with someone, being tied up?

I know I may come up with a "1+1=2" logic here, but if no one can explain it really, then why shouldn't I?

I dunno I guess in their mind They think there is something stimulating about it ... and stimulating when someone they trust dishes it out to them

Okay, this question I get a LOT so I will try my best to explain it the best way possible :3 (Now what I am about to explain may not be for everyone, but I am going to explain two different aspects of Pain into Pleasure)

"BDSM is derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D or B/D), dominance and submission (D&S or D/s), and sadism and masochism (S&M or S/M). BDSM includes a wide spectrum of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures." - wiki (best literal definition of BDSM)

Pain and Pleasure are on a fine line. Im sure you have heard that before. Have you ever touched something that was so cold, it felt hot to your brain response? Its sort of like that in a way. Pain, just like pleasure, is a form of stimulation, for the body AND brain. When you experience a large amount of pain, your brain releases endorphins to relax the nerves of which are 'being harmed'. "The term 'endorphin rush' has been adopted in popular speech to refer to feelings of exhilaration brought on by pain, danger, or other forms of stress, supposedly due to the influence of endorphins." - wiki This quote I just posted best describes why people in BDSM seek this sort of attention, with masochism/sadism/sadomasochism you get these rushes either by experiencing the pain itself or inflicting it, or both. When you go through an emotional and physical endevour like this, your body becomes exhausted, your heart races and you feel high, which can bring an amazing stress release and you can feel rejuvenated for the next day and it lasts months. Some in the BDSM world describe that as being "freeing" or "set free". Its not just physical and emotional, its also VERY psychological...

Another reason why some seek out pain or desire to inflict it for sexual satisfaction is severe trauma. Not necessarily negative trauma, but rather experiencing too much or too deeply, the receptors become "numb" and one desires more intense sensations for pleasure. Or the person has a psychological addiction/attachment to pain and without it they cannot achieve orgasm or pleasure. <--- this reason is harder to understand unless you have experienced it. For those who do not enjoy pain whatsoever, its rather hard to comprehend why one would seek out pain infliction to sexual tendencies.

DISCLAIMER: Something I do want to clear up. Just because you are into BDSM, S&M, Bondage or otherwise DOES NOT mean that you are into pain! Pain is just a small part of the BDSM LifeStyle. So is bondage. These are ASPECTS of the BDSM realm, just like fursuiting is to the fandom. Not everyone who is a furry has a suit or enjoys suiting, but its a part of the community. With some of my clients and partners I have had, being a Mistress, I have had some that are completely not at all into receiving or giving pain whatsoever, and I respect that. Others are more into being dominated or being a living toy, more than wanting to be flogged or cut. I just wanted to add this cherry to the top of the definition sundae :3

I hope this clarifies things, but if you have any other questions I will do my best to answer <3

Okay, this is very helpful, but lemme get this straight. So, we all know our body produces serotonine and other endorphines (as I and you said above), but as I said, most people have only light amounts released, like me for example, when I hurt myself, I do like the moment when it stops because I am still on a high then. And as I said above, only very few people have that disorder where your body basically EXPLODES with feel-good hormones when you hurt yourself. HOWEVER, I would never hurt myself just to get that moment, the pay off is not worth the price if you catch my drift. So, the way you say it, most people into BDSM either have a big pain tolerance and don't really feel it or can ignore it so they feed of the endorphine high more? Did I get that right?

But yeah, thank you very much, I think you explained it the best so far. :3

Most ppl who endure large amounts of pain DO have high pain tolerance, or like I said, they NEED the pain because pleasure has in a way been exceeded in their bodies. So they depend on Pain to release those "good chemicals" to achieve an orgasm or feel release. And bodies are all different, even tho we have similarities. Some can achieve high amounts of endorphins with a broken leg, while others will feel so much pain they pass out. So its a relative response of our senses. But yes, I think you got it :3

Since you asked, this is how I understand it. Others may say different things, but this is what I know.

It's trust. A good, dominant partner can cause you (the sub) humiliation and physical pain, but will never take it past a point that you can no longer handle. The attraction to pain in this respect is that, despite the discomfort you are currently feeling, your partner has the power to bring you to the brink but not let you fall. S/he has your safety in his/her hands. That is a euphoric turn-on to some people. Conversely, the dominant partner, having been handed the keys to the kingdom as it were, is turned on not only by the aggression, but by the responsibility. What looks to us like an act of violence is actually an act of supreme trust.

That's why.

Okay, so in those cases, its not about the pain, because the partners dont like the pain itself, but its like a tool to find out the extremes one can go to in the relationship.

Hence the term "exquisite agony".

Kae and Necro gave the best answers thus far.

As I see it, its not only a display of trust, but a test of control. What commands would you give? What are you looking for in the relationship? A lover can always call a halt to the fun, and you have to be able to hit the breaks (so to speak).

And there are many shades of grey to the type of fun.