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13 years ago
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Internet conversations are not like real world conversations, they can stop, be interrupted or experience lulls/pauses/. This is not rude, this is simply the reality of multitasking where people can get called away from their keyboard or get involved in tasks that don't tolerate interruptions well.
When someone rebuffs your offer of assistance in a very direct manner, don't instantly assume or launch into the typical 'well I'm here..' thing (I'm guilty of this myself). It very easily turns into an awkward guilt orgy, take some time to see how the situation evolves. If something is bothering someone they will reach out to the people they are comfortable reaching out to.
Launching into that 'I'm here for you' trope is a kind gesture, but it can also easily convey the notion that adults are too oblivious/stupid/ignorant of their own health and have to be lead by the nose to solutions that are freely available.
And that's my rant after this clusterfuck of a week.
When someone rebuffs your offer of assistance in a very direct manner, don't instantly assume or launch into the typical 'well I'm here..' thing (I'm guilty of this myself). It very easily turns into an awkward guilt orgy, take some time to see how the situation evolves. If something is bothering someone they will reach out to the people they are comfortable reaching out to.
Launching into that 'I'm here for you' trope is a kind gesture, but it can also easily convey the notion that adults are too oblivious/stupid/ignorant of their own health and have to be lead by the nose to solutions that are freely available.
And that's my rant after this clusterfuck of a week.
This is where the term "brb" can easily solve a lot of issues. XD
Launching into that 'I'm here for you' trope is a kind gesture, but it can also easily convey the notion that adults are too oblivious/stupid/ignorant of their own health and have to be lead by the nose to solutions that are freely available.
...What kind of loon thinks "I'm here for you" means that? If they're that paranoid and defensive that they'd jump to that conclusion when you're merely trying to be supportive, they've got all sortsa problems.
Point 2: When person B persists in explaining their availability to help after person A has made clear that they are not interested in the offer to help for whatever reason. That's when it treads into insulting territory.
So no, an individual does not need to be paranoid/insecure to be insulted by someone's unrelenting desire to help.
Remember, assuming makes an ass out of you.
Just because you wouldn't be bothered by the aforementioned situation doesn't make anyone who is any less of a person. After all, there are things that make you uncomfortable that others find silly and trivial.