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13 years ago
I got a speeding ticket 29 days ago at 8 in the morning on my way through the hour-long drive to class at my college. I finally worked up the courage to confess it to my parents and get it dealt with (I have applied at at least a dozen places including ones that were supposed to be currently hiring since spring break and I have yet to get one job offer. Why does everyone else looking for a starting job at a grocery store of fast food place in my area have to have previous experience?). I got the same important lecture I got 2 weeks ago. But the last my dad said bothers me to the core: "you took the easy way out." He meant as in telling him about the ticket, but I find his declaration wrong.
Is it really that easy to have something like that in the back of your mind for a couple of weeks? Always looking for the moment you feel best to get it off you chest, knowing you shouldn't wait and you'll just make your parents more angry? That was not easy. I felt guilty even as my mom praised me for being there to help her put new mulch down outside and finally sort through that room in the basement full of toys and stuff from days long past as well as spiders and the leftovers of their prey. I was so frustrated when I vowed to confess the next day only to have it got entirely differently than planned. I was NOT the easy way out. The easy way out would be using the credit card to go ahead and pay it and then telling them when they finally saw the charge. Or even telling them immediately. I never imagined for a second that postponing telling them would make it go away. It was virtually always floating at the back of my mind; an ominous cloud to add to the rest of the storm.
And do you know why I post stuff like this here instead of telling my parents off. I'm not sure they'd listen. They ask rhetorical questions of me and somehow expect answers. The declare that I have no discipline even when I display it clearly by courteously obeying most of their demands. And the video games are evil? They beat around the bush saying basically that in more roundabout ways, but they don't know anything about how much discipline, planning, logic, and so on is involved in getting through Skyrim in a way that maximizes enjoyment and minimizes frustration while contributing what little I can to my favorite wiki on the game. I could be lounging in a chair upstairs snacking and reading or watching tv. I almost never snack when playing games. Who needs food besides mealtimes when you have a good game that engages both the mind and the fingers to occupy your time while you wait to hear from the places you applied at? What am I supposed to do? Sit there and sulk instead of enjoying life?
Is it really that easy to have something like that in the back of your mind for a couple of weeks? Always looking for the moment you feel best to get it off you chest, knowing you shouldn't wait and you'll just make your parents more angry? That was not easy. I felt guilty even as my mom praised me for being there to help her put new mulch down outside and finally sort through that room in the basement full of toys and stuff from days long past as well as spiders and the leftovers of their prey. I was so frustrated when I vowed to confess the next day only to have it got entirely differently than planned. I was NOT the easy way out. The easy way out would be using the credit card to go ahead and pay it and then telling them when they finally saw the charge. Or even telling them immediately. I never imagined for a second that postponing telling them would make it go away. It was virtually always floating at the back of my mind; an ominous cloud to add to the rest of the storm.
And do you know why I post stuff like this here instead of telling my parents off. I'm not sure they'd listen. They ask rhetorical questions of me and somehow expect answers. The declare that I have no discipline even when I display it clearly by courteously obeying most of their demands. And the video games are evil? They beat around the bush saying basically that in more roundabout ways, but they don't know anything about how much discipline, planning, logic, and so on is involved in getting through Skyrim in a way that maximizes enjoyment and minimizes frustration while contributing what little I can to my favorite wiki on the game. I could be lounging in a chair upstairs snacking and reading or watching tv. I almost never snack when playing games. Who needs food besides mealtimes when you have a good game that engages both the mind and the fingers to occupy your time while you wait to hear from the places you applied at? What am I supposed to do? Sit there and sulk instead of enjoying life?
