I remember reading a study several years ago comparing the age at which young adults reached certain milestones (bought a car, graduated college, got married, bought a house) between the 70s and the 2000s and they found that today things happen 5 years later.

I'll say I am older than you are and all my friends are married with houses and kids, and I fell that my life is only just beginning.

You're not even 30 yet. Live your life at your own pace. Don't fret about it :)

1.) i do not think there is such thing as being late in life
2.) i think you where just, getting your schooling and a job before moving out. so you will be more set up instead of going to early and adding to much stress on your self at once.
3.) personally i don't think there is much of a social meter like that, how ever thous that think there are kind of push it on others.

besides there alot of us that think you grate the way you are zets ^_^ *hugs*



*p.s. its child :P (hugs coony) *

1. I don't think you can be late in life. Really to me its more about living your life and growing through experiences.

2. You seem like you want to make sure you get what needs to be done done. I'm sure you have plenty experiences and memory's of your life so far and you should be happy with that. I don't think you can be late in life. Really to me its more about living your life and growing through experiences.

3. I think there is a bit of a social meter that defines some people. I know lots of people that are older then me that were more successful then me at my age. I know plenty of others that are older then me and yet they are deadbeats that sit around and smoke pot all day doing nothing with their lives. Didn't go to school or anything. I think as long as someone is trying for their happiness they aren't late in life. Like me I'm 21 still going to school. Probably still going to be going for another few years. I still live with my parents but I want to be in a place of my own weather that be by myself, with a roommate, or if I find that certain someone my mate. I dont think I'm late in life because I'm working towards it.

Don't know if this help's or not!

1) late in life would be, bieng 60, wanting kids but not having any, bieng gay but in a straight marriage, that sort of thing. But I was always told, and kinda agree with, your teens to your mid 20's is for fun. Mid 20's to 30 your getting your stuff togethor, from 30 and so on, you know pretty much what ya want and working on from there. I myself would love kids with my mate as well. And hey I may not be male in body but I am also in the area off gay parent. So I understand your points on that issue. And really, ya got the good idea in waiting to be stabe first. Its best to get the fun out now then later.

2)naaaaah. I dont think your late in life. Infact your way better off then the most of us at this age. granted I'm only 23 (will done college (second college graduate from the first moved on to something more specific) at the age of 25 with a big nice debt. so pretty much you but at the other side of the finance and still relly on my mother. Its not something I particualy like or want but to save myself from further debt she is helping me out). So your pretty well placed. You're only in your 20's no point in freaking out just quiet yet. Just do what ya gotta do, get a place and what not and go from there :).

3) yes theres is this idea of bieng late in our world. But it is changing like others here have said. But this idea of bieng late, really, is it bieng late? I've seen and know too many who got pregnant at the ages of 15-18. and really, they never lived. Never voyaged, never even whent to college. Their kids aren't always raised in the best of enviornments. (no abuse but not bringing your kids out to a park when ya smoke alot isn't the best ether sort of thing) They may have a place, a car even, but is bieng in debt or even well fair a better subtitute? (I'm not saying if your stuck not to go on wellfare. But I've seen too many abuse the system as well. is that better?) In the end its what YOU want out of life that sets your plans. I'll tell you what my mother told me at the age of 18 :

''Mom: do you want kids? me: not right now. Mom: then go to college and have fun if thats what you trully want. If you wanted kids, get busy now! If its not in your heart you might as well wait and make something out of yourself.''

In a nut shell: enjoy life. put little markers if it helps you orginize your life like, age 30 have home and car. But don't worry. We only live once. We might as well enjoy as much as we can. :)

P.S. Can't wait to see you in 2 days :) You're such a nice fellow and its ncie to see more French Frogs in town XD. And Hey I can hold the front flag for ya this year :) Take care my coony friend!

Anytime you manage to get what you desire in life, is when you should get what you want..

Even though there's a chance you're not talking about me, Jokull actually bought his house 3 years ago and now I'm helping him out with the mortgage since I moved in with him. (I'm saying it cause I'm 23 x3)

1-Do you bealeve that there is such a thing as (Being late) in life?

No.

2-Do you think that by reading my situation that i am late in life?

No.

3-Do you think that there is any social meter that says that at age (x) you must have a car at age (x) you must have a house and before age (x) you must have a shild?

No.

Now, as all your questions were yes/no questions, let me develop.

For being late at getting a house, some people have facilitating social, financial, familial situations permitting them to get a house as 23. These are exceptions. You managed to get thru University with no debt. In this economy, having no debt make you a rich man.

For being late at graduating, you already have your highschool diploma, you already have a solid college diploma and are close to get your University diploma, in addition of having good, varied experience in the field as well as contacts. Now, dig statistics, tell me if you're late, average, or advanced in life, academic/profession wise.

For being late at being a dad, you are just turned 25 and single. Let yourself heal from your past relationship, then find someone compatible then get to family planning with him.

Being late a having a car, cars are horrible investments and very costly. If you don't have an absolute need, postpone that. It is not a social obligation.

Being late at having savings. In this economy, you're one of the few who have savings at all. Combined with your debtlessness, it's awesome.

You know all what I just said. You have your own answers, you know what's best for yourself. Trust yourself, enjoy now while you plan tomorrow, you'll get there soon enough. You want to be a dad, it puts pressure on you, but this is something you cannot force. Step one, heal from your past relation. Step two, meet and build a relationship with someone compatible. It will fall into place.

1. no
2. no
3. yes, cause the world says that. But everyone grows at different speeds. Every one has different lives.. It is foolish to judge other by that.
You have money in the bank. You have 0 debt. That is quite rare and you are a wise person.
Keep moving forward and don't let the world hold you back.
I have been watching you and reading your posts Zet. You have a sound mind. Best of luck to you kind fur.

I wouldn't say you're late in life. You're only 25 and you've accomplished so much, and have so far to go in life, so I'd say you're doing pretty well. You have no debt, you're building a good savings, you're saving money by living with your mom, you have a good job and you're building a career. Those are all very good steps.

Consider the alternative: you could be up to your eyeballs in debt with student loans and other things, living on your own in a house or apartment that eats up all of your income, have no savings, and for good measure we could even throw in a kid or two. Many people (far too many) have a life like that where they never started with a good footing and will never get it because their situation just consumes them.

The fact your friends are getting a house together is commendable, provided they are able to cover the expenses together. Their path in life has advanced in a different way than yours and is no better or worse than your path.

There is such a thing as being too late in life. I've heard of people in their late 30s and into their 40s who are still living with their parents, pretty much mooching off the parents while they are either unemployed and do nothing to find a job or have a poorly paying job and blow all their money on frivolous things. People like that are late in life, and all too often it's their parents who have let them be like that.

There is no valid social "meter" to determine whether a person is late in life because every person's life has so many variable factors. You've been working hard for many years to improve yourself and your future prospects through your education and saving money. At your age and with your circumstances you're not late in life. If someone got out of high school and got a minimum wage job, never tried to get anything better, and never advanced with their schooling while living with their parents and getting everything provided to them for free, when that person got to your age then I'd say he/she was late in life because of his/her circumstances.

From what you describe of yourself, I would not say you're late in life. You're just starting your life and you're off to a very good start. You're absolutely right that a family made up of two mothers or two fathers can be a very successful loving family. There's no reason you and a future mate can't be parents, and be good ones at that. (Considering how much you care about children and will encourage your kids to follow their own hearts in life, I'd expect you'll be a great dad.) But a successful family starts with a strong relationship between the two parents. When you find the right person who you feel ready to share the rest of your life with, you'll be able to build that strong relationship. You may have to wait a while before meeting the right person, which will lead to quite a wait before you're able to have kids, but you're doing the smart thing by not rushing into an unstable relationship just for the sake of having kids.

For me personally, I lived with my parents until I was 27 because I was going through college and couldn't yet find a job that paid enough for me to live on my own. I first moved in with roommates, which went badly so I had to move back with my parents because I still couldn't afford to get a place entirely on my own. 2 years later I moved out to live with my best friend  chubbsdahorse and have lived here ever since. Now I'm going on 37, have a good paying job, and I'm really feeling the drive to get my own house. I'm still single, which sucks, but true love is harder to find than anything. My point is, we all go at our own pace in life.

You're doing just fine with your life. Be happy with what you have and look forward to what your future will be. *huggles*

1) You're ready when you're ready. Just don't wait until you're old.

2) No. You're fine.

3) Yes, but it's completely artificial, never mind it.

1-There is no such thing as being late in life you are rigth on the path you need to be at your age.

2-As i said above you are never to late to start anything. I did not meet my wife until i was 30 and I have no kids of my own but two great Step kids. You are never to late to start things in life and as for owning a house or anythign like that you are still young at your age. I am 36 and I don;t even own a house but have a great and wonderful Family life and I am happy

3-There is no social age in life when you have to start everything you can go at your own pace and some people want to do everything right away and enjoy life at a later age and some enjoy young age and then do everything later. As for having kids you can have them at any time you want to, You are 25 years old and you have allot of years still in your life to have kids. I have know people not to have a kids,buy a house till they around 30 years old and this was because they wanted to get career of first.

Also as for being Gay and having a child my view is that you can have kids no matter what your sexual orientation is. A child being raised by a mother and a father is just as good as being raised by two fathers. As long as a child has the love and support of that person raising them there is no issues who the parents are or their orientation and you sound like you got allot of Love in your heart to give and thats what is the most important thing.

I know you will find that right person in life to spend the rest of it with because of the love you have in your heart and you and that person will be great at raising a child with the Love you both will have in your hearts.