i'll send a prayer big guy

You don't have to be present to grieve for someone. Times are difficault for everyone from everywhere. I will not rant to religion. But I feel that sometimes God gives all a specific time, place, and task for us to do the best we can. There are challenges, peaks and valleys in all walks of life.

What hurts more is to see the things we dont want to admit to. .. like suffering, loosing a loved one, facing a fear or even testing uncharted waters. You have to make decisions that will impact all you do in life. All you can do is do what you can for where you are at in life for that second.

Love breathe cry laugh hold and dream are a few stretches I can hand to you. Say goodbye to your family member/friend/ relation, etc. She/he loves you and knows that you love them.

Remember, you cannot change time, only what you do with time. remember the time you spent and the time thats left...

((HUGS))

Rabbit

I dont want to be present to grieve.. I want to be present to take care of my living family who are going to be very very depressed. I feel like I have an obligation to be with them during this time if for nothing else a shoulder to cry on and possibly babysit while people can get things taken care of. If it was only about grieving I would probably not want to go because death scares me.

Thank you very much for your kind words

You should not fear death.. or be afraid. Death is a cycle of all living things, spiritual and physical. I too used to be afraid of death but I discovered when I lost my grand parents within five years of each other that its just a page in life, True its the end of spirit for the body. But memories are always alive,.. When I enlisted in the service and faced all I went through, I found religion and understood what death is. I am not afraid no more.

Being helpful and wanting to be there is undrestandable. I would send you there myself but I am here and you are there, trust me I would if you were close I'd take you there, without question. ((be strong))

:( I'm sorry Char.

Oh my god Charidian...

This is a horrible plight.
To lose one's family is a tragedy.
To be deprived of your chance to mourn, is even worse...

I feel heartbroken just reading this...
Truly I will be wishing the best, as much as I can.
I've been in this station before, an I'll hope it goes better for you... Sorry I can't do more.

May she rest in peace.