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13 years ago
Wow okay I keep deleting and restarting this because I have no idea how to say it. When I realized I was genderqueer, I never really 'came out', I just kind of changed my gender to other, made a note in my ID about neutral pronouns, made a neutrally gendered fursona, but I never really sat down and made a journal saying hey, I'm a gender-neutral individual, I'm not male or female, I'm me. This isn't what this journal is, but it seems good to start it off by mentioning that.
So, as most of you probably know (or do know upon having read that first paragraph), I identify as genderqueer. I prefer the pronouns they/them/their. I do not identify as female, I do not identify as male. I wear androgynous clothing and have a fairly ambiguous hairstyle, and I regularly confuse strangers and customers at work (despite having a nametag with my birth name, which is fairly obviously one gender).
For quite some time now, the issue of my name has bothered me. I doubt I'll ever change it, because a part of me feels like it would be kind of spitting in my parents' face to do so, because I understand the thought that went into it. Regardless, I wanted to have a name to call my own which would be neutral and ambiguous, and which would not immediately tip people off as to what my genitals are shaped like (because really, it's not necessary). Many of you on the Internet have my added on Facebook, which means you know my birth name, whether or not you call me that. I'd rather you didn't, for the record.
So this journal is really about names, and the fact that I believe I have finally found one that I wish to go by, for now just on the Internet and perhaps in the future maybe in real life. I do not want to be called by my birth name, it's highly unnecessary and on some days can even be a tad hurtful. I would like to be known as Jaime (JAY-mee), this is the name I have chosen for myself, and this is what I would like to be called. I now have it listed as my name on most sites I'm active on (aside from Facebook, as my parents are on there and I'm not out to them and shit). NOT THAT Y'ALL CAN'T STILL CALL ME AZZY lol that's cool, but if you could refrain from calling me my birth name and call me Jaime instead, that would actually make my life. : D However, if you have me on Facebook, please don't call me Jaime on like public posts on my wall lmfao that will make for very awkward conversation with people who don't know about my gender.
tl;dr if you get tired of calling me Azzy you can consider Jaime to be my real name :I
So, as most of you probably know (or do know upon having read that first paragraph), I identify as genderqueer. I prefer the pronouns they/them/their. I do not identify as female, I do not identify as male. I wear androgynous clothing and have a fairly ambiguous hairstyle, and I regularly confuse strangers and customers at work (despite having a nametag with my birth name, which is fairly obviously one gender).
For quite some time now, the issue of my name has bothered me. I doubt I'll ever change it, because a part of me feels like it would be kind of spitting in my parents' face to do so, because I understand the thought that went into it. Regardless, I wanted to have a name to call my own which would be neutral and ambiguous, and which would not immediately tip people off as to what my genitals are shaped like (because really, it's not necessary). Many of you on the Internet have my added on Facebook, which means you know my birth name, whether or not you call me that. I'd rather you didn't, for the record.
So this journal is really about names, and the fact that I believe I have finally found one that I wish to go by, for now just on the Internet and perhaps in the future maybe in real life. I do not want to be called by my birth name, it's highly unnecessary and on some days can even be a tad hurtful. I would like to be known as Jaime (JAY-mee), this is the name I have chosen for myself, and this is what I would like to be called. I now have it listed as my name on most sites I'm active on (aside from Facebook, as my parents are on there and I'm not out to them and shit). NOT THAT Y'ALL CAN'T STILL CALL ME AZZY lol that's cool, but if you could refrain from calling me my birth name and call me Jaime instead, that would actually make my life. : D However, if you have me on Facebook, please don't call me Jaime on like public posts on my wall lmfao that will make for very awkward conversation with people who don't know about my gender.
tl;dr if you get tired of calling me Azzy you can consider Jaime to be my real name :I
This reply is pointless but yeah I may or may not call you this but I never called you by your birthname anyways. An Azzy is an Azzy is an Azzy.
Honestly I figure most people will continue to call me Azzy anyway and I don't really care lol. I'm mostly making this journal so that people know WHY I've changed my name to Jaime on the websites I'm most active on. x)
I've yet to figure out any sort of point of this for myself... sisisigghhhh.
It's hard, man. Took me quite awhile to come up with Jaime, let alone to solidify it has being MY name. I've gone through a few others (though none that I went by on dA/FA, mostly just on other sites on which I'm not as active), but none really suited. Especially hard considering my birth name is NOT androgynous at all, so I didn't even have anything to go off of at all really haha.