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Stress. How do I deal with it?
13 years ago
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You know.... I wish I knew how to answer that question at the point I'm at now.
I have a long history of bad decisions, and every single one puts an extra layer of stress onto me. Even years after the decision was made, it pops into my mind. When it does, I get an ugly feeling inside me that I just absolutely loathe. THAT causes stress, because when I get that ugly feeling, I think "Oh how I wish I could change the past". That's another thing I hate about myself. When I start feeling bad about what I did in the past, it makes me afraid for the future. This is why I'm glad I don't get that feeling often.
Relationships are one thing that stresses me out the most. I don't like to let my friends down, or get/make them angry, but it happens sometimes. In fact, about a month ago, a relationship I had started to turn sour, but I decided to stick with it, because I had a feeling that it just might be a bad month, or perhaps that it would improve. It didn't, and continued to stress me out. Then when I finally decided to end it just recently, I get left wondering if it was the right choice. I wonder if maybe it was a bad idea that I left, and that maybe being a little more patient would have blossomed a bit of fruit. But that's another stress point. When I reflect on the past, I think if maybe things could've gone differently. Unfortunately, what's done is done, and I merely have to wait and see what the outcomes of my decisions are.
SO. How I deal with stress is probably not fullproof. When I feel stressed, I try to forget about it, and go off doing something else. It works, actually, because my mind is focused on my activity. Sometimes, I've forgotten the issue and decided it wasn't important when I'm done, and sometimes it just returns and makes me feel depressed again. This is why just plain old forgetting is- at many times- only a temporary remedy.
Perhaps I need to work on how I deal with stress, because when I have it, my day goes by agonizingly slow. And maybe I should confront my stress causers head on. Maybe I should just walk away and not worry about it anymore. All I know is that stress is a horrible thing to have, and it is a true burden.
I have a long history of bad decisions, and every single one puts an extra layer of stress onto me. Even years after the decision was made, it pops into my mind. When it does, I get an ugly feeling inside me that I just absolutely loathe. THAT causes stress, because when I get that ugly feeling, I think "Oh how I wish I could change the past". That's another thing I hate about myself. When I start feeling bad about what I did in the past, it makes me afraid for the future. This is why I'm glad I don't get that feeling often.
Relationships are one thing that stresses me out the most. I don't like to let my friends down, or get/make them angry, but it happens sometimes. In fact, about a month ago, a relationship I had started to turn sour, but I decided to stick with it, because I had a feeling that it just might be a bad month, or perhaps that it would improve. It didn't, and continued to stress me out. Then when I finally decided to end it just recently, I get left wondering if it was the right choice. I wonder if maybe it was a bad idea that I left, and that maybe being a little more patient would have blossomed a bit of fruit. But that's another stress point. When I reflect on the past, I think if maybe things could've gone differently. Unfortunately, what's done is done, and I merely have to wait and see what the outcomes of my decisions are.
SO. How I deal with stress is probably not fullproof. When I feel stressed, I try to forget about it, and go off doing something else. It works, actually, because my mind is focused on my activity. Sometimes, I've forgotten the issue and decided it wasn't important when I'm done, and sometimes it just returns and makes me feel depressed again. This is why just plain old forgetting is- at many times- only a temporary remedy.
Perhaps I need to work on how I deal with stress, because when I have it, my day goes by agonizingly slow. And maybe I should confront my stress causers head on. Maybe I should just walk away and not worry about it anymore. All I know is that stress is a horrible thing to have, and it is a true burden.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Defenc.....nce_mechanisms
Although I wish to know how it would have been if things remained there.... but whats the point in going through pain and even MORE stress when you wanted to avoid it and just relax/have fun, with the ones you thought was your friends...?
P.S. I thinks gabe's link is very helpful