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Want and Need
13 years ago
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Two words, small as they are, have never had as much merit as "want" and "need". Their place in our society have never been further apart. And yet, in our language, exist almost simultaneously in use, often to be mis-used. The linear difference from want and need is importance, commonly regarded to survival. We want something up until the point that our way of life is in danger without it, thus then we need it.
But who's right is it to place such a linear viewpoint? How can we distinguish the inner workings of our minds and the psychological variables that define our actions and reactions. I want spiders to not be near me because they are tiny creatures that can bite. But I personally know one (outside the furry fandom) Texas girl who would needs spiders to not be near, for a deep phobia has engulfed her. In neither case do we concern ourselves of the type of spider, if it is wild or pet, safe or poisonous. In fact let's clarify that neither case has a spider that is life threatening what so ever. It does nothing to the placement of want and need.
In my own thinking, and use of want and need, I place the word need when I have exhausted all other avenues. Or when I see a desired series of events that require outside influences in order to be successful. While yes the desired events in of themselves are a want, the objectives for their success are the need being spoken of. But I look outward and see others in times of crisis, I want to support anyone with a good cause. How should one voice to them? "Call me if you want me?" or "Call me if you need me?". They both are honest, with nothing but the best intentions, but how would the other individual perceive it?
In a "negative" light:
To call upon, if NEED, indicates that the individual may feel that calling represents a sign of failure.
To call upon, if WANT, indicates that the individual may feel that calling represents a sign of weakness.
In a "positive" light:
To call upon, if NEED, indicates that the individual may feel that they have a trump card available only to be played, seldom.
To call upon, if WANT, indicates that the individual may feel that trust and aid is available unquestionably.
That is nothing but a highlight on the thought process, scratching the surface. In the case of those I talk with, in example my spider friend, I fear they look at things in a negative light. That they are feeling weak and fail at where others see self reliance. Or do they not even read into the conversation and merely see the gesture of faith and support?
But who's right is it to place such a linear viewpoint? How can we distinguish the inner workings of our minds and the psychological variables that define our actions and reactions. I want spiders to not be near me because they are tiny creatures that can bite. But I personally know one (outside the furry fandom) Texas girl who would needs spiders to not be near, for a deep phobia has engulfed her. In neither case do we concern ourselves of the type of spider, if it is wild or pet, safe or poisonous. In fact let's clarify that neither case has a spider that is life threatening what so ever. It does nothing to the placement of want and need.
In my own thinking, and use of want and need, I place the word need when I have exhausted all other avenues. Or when I see a desired series of events that require outside influences in order to be successful. While yes the desired events in of themselves are a want, the objectives for their success are the need being spoken of. But I look outward and see others in times of crisis, I want to support anyone with a good cause. How should one voice to them? "Call me if you want me?" or "Call me if you need me?". They both are honest, with nothing but the best intentions, but how would the other individual perceive it?
In a "negative" light:
To call upon, if NEED, indicates that the individual may feel that calling represents a sign of failure.
To call upon, if WANT, indicates that the individual may feel that calling represents a sign of weakness.
In a "positive" light:
To call upon, if NEED, indicates that the individual may feel that they have a trump card available only to be played, seldom.
To call upon, if WANT, indicates that the individual may feel that trust and aid is available unquestionably.
That is nothing but a highlight on the thought process, scratching the surface. In the case of those I talk with, in example my spider friend, I fear they look at things in a negative light. That they are feeling weak and fail at where others see self reliance. Or do they not even read into the conversation and merely see the gesture of faith and support?
