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13 years ago
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The amount of times I've been treated poorly for being in a closed, heterosexual relationship, especially since I'm with Carrot who is apparently sex on legs to most gay furs, is too many for me to bother recounting in one journal.
But tonight is the first time I've actually been snapped at for sharing my experiences about it on a public journal posted by another user, simply because they didn't want to hear about discrimination and poor treatment from someone who isn't a gay man.
This is such a hypocritical situation. The person in question posted a journal about how happy they were that FA was completely tolerant of everyone, regardless of sexual choice, and how great it was that 99% of the community is gay and expects that of everyone else and how much they wished it was like that IRL. I responded with a friendly, non-argumentative point of that actually, there's a lot of discrimination toward women and hetero couples. That discrimination can come from either straight up mocking, cruelty, or rude remarks, or from a disregard of the couple's status as a closed partnership. I cited a few examples, and that was the end of it.
Their response was to absolutely lose their shit at me for saying the whole community is anti-females (which I definitely never said or implied) and that this journal was about them, not me or my friends and if they wanted me to comment they'd have talked about me in the journal. :I
Make fun of me if you want, but my feelings are fucking hurt. Sorry for commenting on a public journal on a subject I'm actually pretty passionate about?
Fuck you too.
But tonight is the first time I've actually been snapped at for sharing my experiences about it on a public journal posted by another user, simply because they didn't want to hear about discrimination and poor treatment from someone who isn't a gay man.
This is such a hypocritical situation. The person in question posted a journal about how happy they were that FA was completely tolerant of everyone, regardless of sexual choice, and how great it was that 99% of the community is gay and expects that of everyone else and how much they wished it was like that IRL. I responded with a friendly, non-argumentative point of that actually, there's a lot of discrimination toward women and hetero couples. That discrimination can come from either straight up mocking, cruelty, or rude remarks, or from a disregard of the couple's status as a closed partnership. I cited a few examples, and that was the end of it.
Their response was to absolutely lose their shit at me for saying the whole community is anti-females (which I definitely never said or implied) and that this journal was about them, not me or my friends and if they wanted me to comment they'd have talked about me in the journal. :I
Make fun of me if you want, but my feelings are fucking hurt. Sorry for commenting on a public journal on a subject I'm actually pretty passionate about?
Fuck you too.
FOREVER.
Who cares, though, plenty of awesome people to talk to instead around here. c:
My response in a... well, it'd have to be a big nutshell if it were one, but yeah, it was there, so might as well use it. :3
Yes, we're full of hypocritical suicidal anger happy crybaby roid-rage 'yiffyaff' (I really do like that term) assholes with more weird trigger disorders then a bag full of Vietnam veterans.
But, conversely, think of what it's done for you. Would you have even met Carrot if it weren't for the fandom?
Sure a lot of us snap at people like a bunch of crack addicted homocidal terrorists because "my life fucking sucks and it's awful and I hate it and I didn't get cocoa pebbles this morning so die die die", but the roughly thirty to forty per-cent that aren't completely stupid make up for it.
Stick with us, please. It wouldn't do anyone any good to start seeing that thirty per-cent dwindling again.