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Distancing myself but in a good way
13 years ago
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I think I'm finally, slowly, learning yet another basic life lesson people 10 years younger than me have known for a long time.
I don't have to be friends with everyone.
Friends have been rare for me. But I've slowly built more and more after so, so long being alone. As I met people I tended to cling to them even if I should not have. Things I noticed about them that were unhealthy character traits. Sometimes downright wrong and unquestionably bad. Bad people. I'd just ignore those elements as best I could.
But now that I've had some very close friends for over a year, I'm starting to realize that it's ok to dislike people. Of course, there's no reason to let anyone know that other than myself.
I'm starting to ramble but the point is, I feel I'm maturing a tiny little bit. Which is something that doesn't happen much with me.
How are YOU doing this past week?
I don't have to be friends with everyone.
Friends have been rare for me. But I've slowly built more and more after so, so long being alone. As I met people I tended to cling to them even if I should not have. Things I noticed about them that were unhealthy character traits. Sometimes downright wrong and unquestionably bad. Bad people. I'd just ignore those elements as best I could.
But now that I've had some very close friends for over a year, I'm starting to realize that it's ok to dislike people. Of course, there's no reason to let anyone know that other than myself.
I'm starting to ramble but the point is, I feel I'm maturing a tiny little bit. Which is something that doesn't happen much with me.
How are YOU doing this past week?
...sometimes people will like someone you don't, so you'll constantly be questioning yourself, but you have to pretend and make nice when the person is around so as not to offend anyone. :P
For example, downstairs in my apartment right now is someone hosting a D&D session. My roommates think he's pretty fun, despite knowing his fallacies. He has almost no money and takes it from others rather than stop spending it, financially and emotionally takes advantage of anyone he dates, made a complete mess of his apartment that he shares with others, has sexually taken advantage of others before, and immediately went to go bang my ex after we broke up.
However, I have to pretend to think he's really cool and awesome, despite knowing how he treats people, because my roommates think he's cool.
In short, you don't truly need any friends in life, but a few good ones can make your trip through life just a little bit less boring~ or that's what i think at least.
So yes, I relate to the trust issues.