how do you know if you truly love someone? they say love is blind and thoughtless that insted of useing your mind your heart becomes your mind it lets your emotions over flow for that one special person that you have a strong connection to. Even when you lose that person weather it be from a break up or a death you will still love that person weather you would like to admit it r not.Every relationship that we are in teaches us not just about the person we love but it teaches us alot about ourselves.we learn what we like to do with our significant other what we like to do on our own but if the relationship ends in a break up its not easy,weather we like to admit it or not with break ups both parties involved are hurt and it can take alot of time for them to recover before they are ready to move on but they need to take everything bad that happened in that relationship and learn from it so they dont make mistakes again. so they don't hurt they one they are with.. sometime it takes a few tries but we all end up learning eventually.my question is what is a furr to do when alot of their relationships end with their mates cheating on them. they can learn from it but what if it happenes again and again.. with the number of time that their heart has been broken they tend to get jealious and paranoid very easly and they start making their lives hell by over thinking things but it dosn't stop there they tend to do stalker like things like constantly cheaking their mate's facebook or status msg of their mates msger and if it seems like flirting or like they are talkinng about someone else they jump to conclusions and start throwing blame at their partner. but.. what happens to the pets that have pushed their boundries and fallen for their master that's mated..they love them to the point they try and break their master from their mate or they try to claim their life in an attempt to have the master all to them self.. i know how it feels to be like that i'm not claiming to be perfect or to know what some people go through on a daily basis.. but i'm not innocent.. i have blood on my hands.. i was mated once and i had a pet that went to the extent of threatening suicide.. i told him flat out i was mated and its not going to happen but that i did love him very much.. later that night his sister called me on the phone screaming at me in teas cause her brother had taken his life.. sadly i thought it was just another trick but when i went to school they had a memorial service for him.. it hurt and i was shocked of what some people will do for the love of another.. that they would go that far .... its sucks and i know the world is full of kids and young adults like that.. i have even been into the world of cutting and i know how it is.. i know what cutting dose and how it effects you psycologicly.. to alot its a way to escape pain.. to others is to punish themselves for what ever reason they thing they need to do it for, weather its failing school or dissapointing a family member. or to escape the ridicule of other students.. they think it helps but in the long run it dosn't you either stop and hate yourself and feel disgusted for it later or it ends in suicide..and honestly i hate myself for it..and balimiah is bad if not worse.. i mean again i have nbeen down this road myself and it dosnt help.. you throw up cause your to fat.. the kids or people pick on you for your weight.. or you diet and nothing works so you resort to it.. it sucks .. yeah you lose the weight but you end up rotting your teeth out and destroying your throat.. i know the world is rough but resorting to these things for love,reliefe, or approvle of others.. its just not worth it.. no one said life was easy and i know people have gone through worse then me im not claiming to have the most terrible life.. i just thought i would share my life experiances and hopefully somone that reads this and is going through the same will seek help or stop.. i just don't want others to suffer the way that i have...