Time to go on one of my little rants again! I get really frustrated when people address an issue by claiming "Come back and talk to me when you've gotten laid!" The social expectations regarding getting laid in order to be validated as an "adult" is complete and utter bullshit. The idea that virginity in adulthood is inadequacy just goes to show how the whole "Human beings are more advanced and nuanced mentally than animals" argument carries no weight when our people have very basic priorities like this that cannot be overridden by higher mental processes.

I haven't lost my virginity not because I haven't had the opportunity to do so but because the opportunities that have been afforded to me have never felt quite right. I've been out of the closet for a year now like I've said a million time before. Non-hetero guys have a tendency to be very blunt in their sexual advances towards other men, so these opportunities have been very, very apparent to me. The reason why I never agree to anything on the basis of being friends is that impulsive sex with friends is really awkward from what I have gathered. I really don't have to experience something firsthand when pretty much just about everyone who I can respect who I have heard talk about it has stated that it's really just awkward when you get peer-pressured to have sex with someone and you're really just not into it. It's like being peer-pressured into your first kiss, one of the things I personally have experienced.

In this particular case, don't let people tell you who to be. Do what you want, but peer pressure is literally the shittiest and I'd personally avoid it because avoiding it makes life easier in the long term.