That's exactly how I am. But I haven't been diagnosed.

Yes you can. Google something called DBT. It's a cognitive method that is used for those with personality disorders and while it is a lot of work it has been known to have a good success rate.

im sorry but i have to disagree with that
when you are in such a rut with your mind that its affecting your ability to get trough the day without going crazy, you have to


srsly what is it that people think psychs are involved in a conspiracy theory

Agreed. Mental illness is a VERY REAL and VERY SERIOUS thing. It's not about "being yourself" it's about bettering yourself and living a better life.

Yay i said a good thing for a change ^^

That worked for dealing with anxiety, but probs not this. :(

I don't know how many people truly just don't respond to treatment vs people who don't want to try to work through it with therapy, or psychologically can't though.

Does this mean you get upset when you get close to Canada or Mexico??

at least you know whats wrong with you, well theres always therapy, and if that doesnt work theres meds yes, but nobody is making you take them but you

My mate has BPD.

I was diagnosed with Bipolar 1 - but my moods cycle so rapidly that sometimes I wonder if I actually have BPD or potentially even both. Treatment is basically the same, so not much more an extra diagnosis would do...

While I have BPD, I take no medicine for it. I do not see any therapy people for it.

Why? Because I believe that there is one thing stronger than therapy, or medicine. Friends. If you have the friends who care about you enough to help you through it, you can remain stable enough to be a person. That's how I do it, and so far, it works just fine for me.

When i was 14 i was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder, but a few years ago a psychologist told me i had bpd. I'm not even sure if i do have it or not.. my main problem is i fear rejection the most. Where the bpd comes in, i will do almost anything so that everyone will "like" me. I will change my personality, what i like, what i hate, or my actions, to conform to a certain person so that they will not "hate" me. I have anger/depression issues, attention-seeking and obsessive behavior. I wish i knew how to stop this, but i have been this way all my life. You cant make everyone happy, and that is my ultimate downfall.

Have an appointment with a therapist. They'll give you a much better answer than we could.

I don't have BPD (I don't fit enough criteria) but I do have anxiety issues, the whole frantic rejection-avoidance thing, and the sudden flips in my relationships. It was pretty ugly in my teens and early twenties; I'm a ton better now, but it's been a long, slow improvement.

This isn't something that you can medicate away. Effective treatment is through introspection: finding the reasons you overreact (ie, the things your anxiety is trying to avoid, whether they make sense or not); identifying the reasons you developed those behaviors; learning how to identify when it's happening so you can pause and think about how you're reacting; and so on. Talk therapy is by far the most effective thing - it's what provides you the insights that you couldn't spot yourself, and that's the thing that really cures you.

The meds are just a tool. They won't cure you, but they might be necessary to BE cured. If your flash-anger, anxiety and impulsiveness are causing big problems (eg: repeatedly relapsing into drug abuse; emotional abuse of people who you need to support you, or behaviors inducing them to abuse you; suicide attempts landing you in the hospital, or just the concern that you might try; conflicts putting your job at risk), then you might need the meds, at least temporarily. When things are going terribly wrong you'll have trouble making progress; every step forward is countered by two back. The idea is to stabilize you so that those things won't be a constant mental and emotional distraction; you need to focus on what's going on in your mind, and you can't do that when your life feels like it's about to fall apart.

So yes, possibly you can get better without them. I don't know how stable your situation is and if you have the time and family support hold you together while you get better. If you do need the meds, don't feel bad about it. They kind of suck, but look at it as a tool to help you get through this thing.

BPD is a tricky one and will require commitment on your part. The hardest part is when you're oversensitive to people trying to help you, which may feel like criticism and rejection. Your shrink, your friends, and I want to help, and you KNOW that, but you'll still feel angry, defensive and resistant. It's a bitch, but try to listen and not reject them when they're trying to help.

Feel free to ask me anything, or PM me if you'd rather be discreet.

i have BPD, and i find it very hard to cope without meds personally.
I've never felt its gotten better without them, but things are different for everyone!
See what works best for you.

in saying that, though,
i think its more a "placebo" effect for me, in hoping or just imagining...

if you REALLY want to fix yourself a little, i suggest Behavioural Therapy =]

i have bi polar, take medication for it. what has happened is that the meds suppress my emotions so its good at suppressing the bad but at the same time, the good. so its always a trade off. the medication does help a bit and helps you understand what is causing these issues in the first place. of course, seeing a therapist always helps along with meds.

I have manic depression, and I take medication. But I definitely know what angst is, and it sucks. Don't be afraid to get a prescription for something, in the end it's all just chemicals

Borderline personality disorder is caused by a chemical imbalance. "Meds" can help regulate things so that they are working properly. There's no shame in that. No different than medication taken for any other condition--this one just happens to be in your brain. Listen to your doctor.