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Advice Please From anyone and EVERYONE
13 years ago
~ My wolf family is amazing
First I'll explain a little something about my past.
My birth father had left me and my mother for another woman when I was 4 years old. She had always told me he loved me and loved being around me, but then she continued to tell me he was a schitzo (schizophrenic) and he didn't know what the feeling of love was since he was in an orphanage from the time he was 2 till he was 10 then he was adopted. But anyways, I had no memory of him being my father. I had frown up thinking my step dad was my real dad while my mother had been sending my biological father basicly hate mail for leaving her and not paying child support and all that jazz. One day when I was about 8 or 9 I found a picture of an older man holding me as a baby and I didn't know who he was. I asked my mom and she told me that was my biological father, obviously i was stunned but after she told me she yelled at me for digging in her stuff without her permission.
Well I had never felt close to my step dad even when I thought he was my dad. So for years it was always on my mind about where my real dad was and if he was still alive and if he's thought about me. Well over this last summer I told my mom about how I've been wanting to get to know him. Thats when she always brought up about how hes a schizo and he lies about his feelings and stuff and then he leaves you high and dry and she didn't want me looking for him because she basicly hates him for leaving her all those years ago.
Well me and my boyfriend have been talking about finding out our family history and i thought about it and I said there was really no way I could find my real dads side since I didn't know him or his parents. After my boyfriend left to go back to work I went on facebook. Cuz... who doesn't have facebook these days. lol
And after trying over and over to spell out his last name in different ways, I found a guy who fit who my birth father is. He's older. He's from Devils Lake ND, like my dad was. Had a son named Jeremy, like my dad has. And upon looking at his photos he looks like the man that was in the picture holding me as a baby just older.
I'm asking for some advice... Should I reach out to him. Just finding out he looked like him and was from this state but is now residing in Vegas I began getting shaking and my hearts been racing. I've been trying to write a message, but I just choke...
What would any of you guys do or think i should do? PLEASE help :/
My birth father had left me and my mother for another woman when I was 4 years old. She had always told me he loved me and loved being around me, but then she continued to tell me he was a schitzo (schizophrenic) and he didn't know what the feeling of love was since he was in an orphanage from the time he was 2 till he was 10 then he was adopted. But anyways, I had no memory of him being my father. I had frown up thinking my step dad was my real dad while my mother had been sending my biological father basicly hate mail for leaving her and not paying child support and all that jazz. One day when I was about 8 or 9 I found a picture of an older man holding me as a baby and I didn't know who he was. I asked my mom and she told me that was my biological father, obviously i was stunned but after she told me she yelled at me for digging in her stuff without her permission.
Well I had never felt close to my step dad even when I thought he was my dad. So for years it was always on my mind about where my real dad was and if he was still alive and if he's thought about me. Well over this last summer I told my mom about how I've been wanting to get to know him. Thats when she always brought up about how hes a schizo and he lies about his feelings and stuff and then he leaves you high and dry and she didn't want me looking for him because she basicly hates him for leaving her all those years ago.
Well me and my boyfriend have been talking about finding out our family history and i thought about it and I said there was really no way I could find my real dads side since I didn't know him or his parents. After my boyfriend left to go back to work I went on facebook. Cuz... who doesn't have facebook these days. lol
And after trying over and over to spell out his last name in different ways, I found a guy who fit who my birth father is. He's older. He's from Devils Lake ND, like my dad was. Had a son named Jeremy, like my dad has. And upon looking at his photos he looks like the man that was in the picture holding me as a baby just older.
I'm asking for some advice... Should I reach out to him. Just finding out he looked like him and was from this state but is now residing in Vegas I began getting shaking and my hearts been racing. I've been trying to write a message, but I just choke...
What would any of you guys do or think i should do? PLEASE help :/
But that is really good advice and I thank you so much. I'm so scared that he won't answer me or that he'll say he isn't or he doesn't want anything to do with me. *sigh* I just hope he'll respond at least so I'll know..
Again thank you!
But for you, send a simple message. Something that says you're there, you're alive, you want to hear him, but not dramatic or anything that might be perceived as desperate.