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You Have Something They Want
13 years ago
Generally speaking, people are interested in you because you have something they want. The same, of course, can be said of oneself and the interest you have in others. I am not immune to this, either.
Common things that others want would be sex, money, popularity or fame, skill, and companionship. Of course there's more things than that.
Take some time to look at your friends and try to evaluate why you are friends with them. Don't bother thinking about the other way around, because you and nobody else can accurately read another person's mind. Even asking them don't expect the answer, because surprisingly people tend to not really know why they are friends with others.
Next, think about the people you have lost as friends, and why they no longer are your friends.
It's good to reflect on yourself once in awhile. It helps to bring things into perspective.
Common things that others want would be sex, money, popularity or fame, skill, and companionship. Of course there's more things than that.
Take some time to look at your friends and try to evaluate why you are friends with them. Don't bother thinking about the other way around, because you and nobody else can accurately read another person's mind. Even asking them don't expect the answer, because surprisingly people tend to not really know why they are friends with others.
Next, think about the people you have lost as friends, and why they no longer are your friends.
It's good to reflect on yourself once in awhile. It helps to bring things into perspective.
Perspective is always going to be clouded by stress, among other elements.
In a similar self-examination, many years ago at an AnthroCon I wanted to get into submitting some of my artworks. So, with pen and notebook in hand, I decided to check the art gallery at the con for which pictures were receiving the most bids and what they had in common with one another. From an artist’s standpoint, it was a very revealing hour.
However, since I am not a commercial artist, and do my art pretty much for my own pleasure, I went back to the gallery the next day and examined every piece there and questioned why I liked an artwork or did not like it. What was it that “flipped my switch” or turned me off to or from a picture? I do this now here with the daily submissions. Questioning myself as to why I like or dislike every picture? The results often times tell me a lot more about myself than they do about the art.
The same can be done with most of our choices in life -- the friends we hold close to us, or the pleasures we pursue. The good part of this self-analysis is that afterwards we can consciously seek out more of the people and things we now know we like and want. The bad part is that we will come to know who we are as a person, without any self-delusion or lying. How many people want to meet themselves as they are, rather than as they pretend to be?