I apparently like the worst kind of artists
13 years ago
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I'm really getting sick of the fact that every time I gain the courage to speak up to an artist I really admire, they end up leaving not much later. It has really discouraged me from ever talking to artists I really like. I still feel like some how it was my fault in some way, so now if I ever spot them on a different website or back on FA, I have to be sneaky and watch them from an alt account or just keep their page bookmarked. It makes me feel like a creepy stalker, but I know at this point that if I ever talk to them again, they are just going to leave. I'm getting sick of the fact that my favorite artists do this so often, but it's hard for me to just forget about the ones that have driven me to get better, and pretty much my reason for making an account here in the first place.
Sorry for the stupid personal shit. At this point it's pissing me off, and I really have a hard time getting over it.
Sorry for the stupid personal shit. At this point it's pissing me off, and I really have a hard time getting over it.
It seems to not be hard to get away with this so long as you draw kind of nice (or possess trace amounts of a comparable skill in other social networks) and maintain a quantity of followers who you make a specific point of not alienating. Being an unapproachable misanthrope can even get you more followers than you deliberately hurt, in fact.
Regarding your own situation, with what little I know, it comes across as preposterous that one person positively promoting this artist's work in one place was the sole factor in the environment becoming unbearable. It likewise is irrational to absolutely despise somebody for being merely curious as to why the despiser did an abrupt, extreme thing.
I know it's a little silly for me to assume I have some part in my old favorite artist leaving. I did leave a whole lot out but even then it's a little silly, I just have this personal fear of being way too intrusive and probably becoming a nuisance. A little later after he left I tried to stay in contact with him which was probably a bad idea, even worse idea was posting most of what I had left of his gallery to that forum upon request, I didn't really feel like it would hurt since only 5 people were even aware of the forums existence.
Hate to ask for advice about things like this but, do you think I should try contacting that other artist from years back? I stumbled upon his new DA, he makes it clear what his old account name was, though after 2 or 3 years, it might come off as stalkerish, which probably already does being that I still really give a damn, though to be honest I wouldn't have if I didn't stumble upon his work again (one of those easy to spot art styles). I make a big deal out of a lot of stupid things sorry haha.
There seem to be plenty more that I wasn't invested enough in to make a judgment on the sanity of. There are valid reasons for leaving this website, naturally, even for cleaning out a gallery, I reckon. My grievance is with people who do it repeatedly, and out of pettiness, self-pity or unjustified paranoia. It seems like a bit of work, too, since there is no automated system for removing everything and everybody.
I imagine there is no risk in making yourself known to the years back person, unless you occasionally re-enjoy his old work, and think that having a bad experience with the person would interfere with it. I had a problem with an internet-based composer that I had liked, and afterward was disgusted at the thought of, and have not listened to a thing by since then. As it happens, this person had also cleared out an archive and changed names more than once. I think most reasonable people don't assume they are being "stalked" except in very extreme circumstances, however. If the person acknowledges having old accounts, that is likely to assist folk such as you in locating the new one.
But yeah, the people that go through all that trouble to completely wipe their whole gallery really have to go out of their way to do so. The one that I've recently found again on DA had told me that he wiped it out because he didn't want any "drama", dunno how that is supposed to work, I also knew he had a history of leaving FA for long periods of time and wiping his gallery but never as extreme.
I guess I'll say hi or something, I want to get back in contact since he's actually a pretty nice person to talk with, though I just don't want to deal with that mess again. I still don't know how someone can just stop talking to bunch of their friends out of nowhere with not a single explanation. Online/Offline, I couldn't even make myself do that.
There is certainly nothing immoral about saying hello (whether you're talking about more than one person or aren't). If you need to plot out your conversation in advance for fear of making some nigh unguessable gaffe, then it's probably not worth the trouble.
About the other guy, I'd like to say a little more than hi is the thing, I kind of want to be friends again, well, as much as we were before. I don't think I have to plot a conversation out in advance, but I would hate to be the cause of him going back into his shell and hiding from everyone again. I'll just go ahead with it eventually.
i think i know at least one artist your referring to, he must really not like being found since he left the whole furry thing behind.....
I'm wondering at this point if he really has left the whole furry thing though. I mean, he has a new character, it's anthro, and he still draws plenty of it. I don't even know why he left anymore, but I guess it would be too much of a hassle to try to figure it all out, hardly worth it at this point.