Not. What straight guy wakes up one day and says "Hey, I'm going to try dicks."?

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I choose to act upon my thoughts that are inherent to my being.

Meaning? I'm just looking for straight yes or no answers really XD

Meaning yes. I choose to go with what I feel. I'm just doing what my body tells me to do.

Eh? So are you saying it is a choice?
Cause to me if you're body is telling you you're a attracted to someone of the same gender that would make you gay :P

Even if you choose not to act on those feelings it doesn't make you not gay

I'd say not... its not like I chose to like both guys and girls but have a preference towards guys... =P

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i feel being gay is a choise cus if you think about it we have the choise to be gay or not

I respect your opinion but simply saying its a choice then havin your reason being "cause it's a choice" doesn't help.

That's like saying red is red because it is.
Rather than saying we only perceive things as the colour red because of the frequencies of light absorbed and reflected by an object.

I have to argue with that. Even though I think being gay comes naturally you can choose to be gay. I mean think of the people who started straight and went gay. Possible abusive relationship and 100% know that they are straight but say let's try this out and end up liking it and become gay or also gays becoming straight. People can choose sexual orientation but for a fact it comes naturally.

As much as I agree with yure kar ican agree with some of your point too. For example: I most certainly wasn't born gay. Ive had long, stable, happy relationships with women. Then slowly over the course of time as I moved through puberty, my feeling vastly changed. I felt like I was lying to myself and that I had done for a long time..

The point is I didn't choose to be gay, it just happened over time. I let my feelings direct me and I havnt been happier since.

Eh it really depends on a person's view on the matter. There is no scientific study showing it. Religion says its choice, Psychology says it depends on the environment around you and how you were raised, most people say it just happens. So many ways to be gay but there is no one absolute answer.

Yure, your views are the same a mine.

And in accordance with the story I know people has the exact same problem. People go through being physically sick wanting to be straight, wanting to have a relationship with the opposite sex and feel chained down due to their homosexuality. Sexuality isn't a choice, no person could go through so much emotional trauma if they could just wake up one day and decide to become straight.

I'm lucky, I'm not one of those people. I embraced my sexuality a part of myself and who I was. I let it help define myself as a person. But like I said, to some it's nothing but anger and torture, nothing but shame and misfortune. No one would chose that. No one.

I believe being gay is not a choice. I was brought up in a religious heavy family, and much to my regret, I told myself that it was a horrinle thing for me to be the way I was. I hid my true feelings for years, following one bad relationship after another with women. When I finally decided to give in to my interests, everything felt...right. there were many nights afterwards I had wished it was a matter of choice, because beforw I came to terms with myself I was horrified everyone would hate me. Years later, now, I am quite happy with who I am and wouldnt want it any different

I went down a similar path so I understand where you're coming from. Fortunately I didn't have a faith to combat at the time. However the principle and the raw feeling is the same. If you're lying to yourself you havnt chose to do that.

What you can choose is whether or not to act and stop lying to yourself. To be honest with yourself or to live in a lie. Regardless of what you are.

It's as much a choice as every other subconscious personaility trait; that is to say, it is not a choice.

Thank you Andy, :)

Subconscious is not and never will be a choice. If it's there, it's there.

according to scientists some people have an extra chromosome, according to therapists it is about how the person was raised, according to about 50 percent of americans it's your choice. I have honestly come to believe that you are or you aren't, some people can hide it better than others and some are able to keep themselves thinking that it's not who they are. *shrugs* i do feel more comfortable being around guys than girls and i do lke guys, but the first part came way before the second one.

I have to argue with the first sentence. Somebody with an extra chromosome would suffer from downs syndrome.

It may have something to do with a chromosome but it's definitely not an extra one.
For the rest of it, I'm believer in its how I wa raised. Like ivesaid to some other people in this conversation I certainly know I didn't start off gay. But I'm certainly not straight now. And I didn't chose for that to happen

as for the first sentence it was a culmination of my mom showing me the news on yahoo and then Ellen proving it as well with a different news story, plus i know those who have mental disorders as well as my mom working with those who had down syndrome but it was more from their parents havign a bad gene pool combination. The 'environment in which kids are raised' theory has the most chance of being true from the evidence at hand right now

My psychology class taught me that at the age of 5 your subconscious already knows everything you're going to like and dislike in life, so in that sense it's not really a choice. It makes me think about everything else I like, or how people are attracted to things. I'm 50-50 with myself because my logical mind says that it's not a choice, but on the other hand I don't like the concept of not being able to make choices, which I feel like I do as well..

So I'm just going to go with: It's not a choice, but you can probably change it given enough will power and such.

there are some it is a choice usaly bisexuals but also some times its no ta choice due to chemical balance. the fun way to go agisnt people is "if Gay is achoice. Then so is being straight and sense they were straight with out a choice, it means Gay is not a choice as well] there is no biblical backing of any anti gay logic as most claim As most those laws came from the pharasees which wGOd or Jesus said were wrong and toss them out of the church. thus means God is not aginst it. if want to play the religion aspect. but Science has proven its genetic or least natural, Sure no Single Gene but still biological. But if read up on biblical aspect each time it alks of homosexual there is more to the picture. and of the roman gaurd that talked to jesus wishing for him to heal his male lover or servant. Jesus said he woudl be healed i think and said the gaurd Faith was greater then all of isreal.

I'm not totally sure

For me, I suppose it's not a choice because I've always had a feeling towards guys, even when I was young.

But then again my relationship with my dad is non-existent so I think I'm just searching for that father figure.

And being Christian doesn't help either. I know my dad doesn't like them, but not so sure about my mom.

A long time ago I head my mom say and I quote "I don't mind gays, I just don't like what they do". What the heck is that supposed to mean?

The way I see it, its is based on the social environment in which one is raised. I was raised around my mom and her mother who both had strong feminist values and had a general disliking of men. My thinking back in the 1980's was that strait relationships were really the only option. I considered seeking a girlfriend, but the person I befriended, she saw me through a gold-digger's eyes and treated me like crap. Soon after I put up an emotional wall toward women. As I was growing up I had a few friends that were guys, but I really didn't spend much time around them. I suppose that and a complete absence of a father figure in my life made me consider other options. For several years I secretly went thru a questioning phase.
I don't see it entirely as an attraction to to the male anatomy, (not that I find anything wrong about it) rather that I've distanced myself from the unpleasantness that I've encountered in most of the women that I knew when I was much younger.

If you are 100 percent sexually attracted to the same gender, I can't see how that can be a choice. We have control over the actions we take, but not over our most basic attractions. So normally, I'd have to say that being gay is not a choice. There are exceptions to this though. Some people who claim to be gay are actually bi, but have chosen to only entertain their gay attractions. Likewise, some you claim to be straight are actually bi, and they make a choice to ignore any same sex attractions that they have. In other words, not everyone who calls themselves gay is actually truly gay.

Whatever orientation someone is at their deepest level is not a choice, but not everyone is choosing to live a life that exactly matches their true orientation. Depending on how strongly they are oriented toward gay or straight, it can impact their happiness. Some people can only be straight or only be gay. Their orientation is so strong that there simply is no choice in the matter. Others are more able to place themselves in whatever lifestyle is most convenient for them. Someone like me could probably play the role of gay or straight and remain fairly happy and satisfied. In my case, my true orientation is best described as pansexual. Gender, race and even species really isn't taken into consideration, outside a of few limiting factors. Some things aren't legal, and some things aren't physically possible.

Though I might feel as attracted to a ferret as I do to a human of any gender, the reality of incompatible sized anatomy sort of puts the brakes on many things that would otherwise work with my pansexual orientation. Sure, I could go out and painfully rape critters that are too small for me, simply because I'm sexually attracted to them, but I don't. I have control over my actions, just as everyone does. Someone who is 100 percent exclusively gay also has control of their actions, and could simply not act on their attractions. They'd still be gay though. They can't control what they are, just what they do. Because my orientation pretty much covers anyone and many things, I can easily elect to do some things while not doing others, and still be very happy and satisfied. A 100 percent gay person wouldn't have that same freedom. If they can't act on the only thing that works for them, there may be no other outlets that would provide satisfaction.

I personally know a lot of people in the gay community who have attractions for the opposite sex, but who choose to not take action on them. I know even more who simply don't have the luxury of choice, because they really are gay. Another way of saying it is that not everyone who identifies with being gay is at the extreme end of the Kinsey scale. Those that are more toward the middle have a greater range of choices that can allow them to be happy and satisfied. I true pansexual isn't limited to a two-dimensional scale from straight to gay. It's more like a point in infinite space that may not exist on the gender attraction scale at all. That would be closer to describing me. I've have same and opposite sex relationships, as well as some that were gender neutral, not bi. I'd say that the non-gender relationships and experiences where the most fulfilling for me, but unlike many people I have so many choices that I'd be pretty satisfied with.

So, a gay lifestyle can be a choice. Actually having a gay orientation is not a choice though. No two people are the same. That's why you get so many conflicting opinions to questions like this.

Hmm... let me think. For some it's a choice and some it's a feeling. I can't describe things like feelings. But it's just how u are around someone I guess. People grow up and choose their sexuality and change depending on what will happen when they meet someone. Even if your straight, gay, bisexual. Things will change. But sometimes it's a choice I guess. Because most people are afraid to explore some peoples bodies in genders. I think for some. It's attraction. I mean a gay guy could fall in love with girl and not have any sexual attractions to her. We can't help who we fall in love with at first. This gay guy could be her long time friend from childhood and they make each other really happy like a couple. But he gays and she straight. What I am trying to say. If u find love. Take it. You could be really happy. Even if their is no sexuality involved. Also never be afraid to make friends with the opposite gender. Because u could make wonderful friends.

Lets say sexuality is troubling for some. You could be alone for the rest of your life. You just need to find someone who makes u happy. That's what I believe.

Well, you can be born gay, or straight. However, it is possible to choose to be gay or straight. Just like you can choose to be a man or a woman, but you start out being born as one or the other.

Personally I belive that being gay is typically influenced by hormones, but sometimes it's just prefence. Just like I have never liked sweet pickles (not a sexual reference), I don't have a gene that says I don't like sweet pickles, I just have never liked them. I PREFER not to eat them. I PREFER dill over sweet pickles. Just like I PREFER males over females (yet I would never go out with a woman, under any circumstances).

honestly for me it was my choice to be gay. when i did i was honestly at a point where i did not like girls, didnt like how they act, or how they are when you date them. when i date males, they understand me, their more compasionate, and they can give you just as good "fun" time. honestly that may be the same for most gay people, not all, but some. because some guys just cant stand dating a girl so they date another guy.