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13 years ago
I've been pondering what to do with my name, or nickname, rather.
As I have mentioned previously, when I first signed up to FA, I had no intention of being active here, and I did not think I would make new friends through FA. How wrong one can be!
So, I signed up on FA, using the name Silkyfur, a nickname that previously only were the name of a roleplayed character, not a name that I identified myself with in any way.
I've never liked the name I was given at birth, so I've always chosen nicknames for myself, and most people I socialise with IRL knows me as Furtail, the initial name I chose for myself, when I first got on the net. Furtail is probably the name I identify myself with the most. Much more than any other name or nickname I have ever had.
However, I am not about to switch to a new account now, so I guess I'll just keep calling myself Silkyfur, as far as the name of the account goes. I also suppose that the visual representation of myself as an anthro bull could be called Silkyfur, since that's the name I was using when I commissioned the various pieces of artwork of myself as anthro bull.
One of the reasons I am pondering this now, is that I am thinking of maybe sooner or later commission a badge or two for myself, and I can't really decide on which name to put on the badge; my initial name (Furtail), or the name that by mistake has gotten associated with my character (Silkyfur).
Most of my old friends obviously think of me as Furtail, and all of my new friends here obviously think of me as Silkyfur.
I don't mind the name Silkyfur, I do like the name, and I am getting used to it. However, should I in the future be on a con, and someone shouts for me over a distance, I am sure I would react more easily to the name Furtail being shouted, and I might not even react if someone would shout for Silkyfur.
I was pretty sure that I was going to change my name all-together, from Silkyfur to Furtail, until quite recently, I had more than one person spontaneously tell me that they think Silkyfur is a really nice name. And well, yeah, I do like both names.
One slight confusion that the name Silkyfur seems to bring forth though, is that several people have thought that I am female, as the name Silkyfur seems to be a bit of a feminine name.
I don't mind people thinking I am female. I consider myself gender neutral, and while my body is male, I don't feel particular masculine. Nor do I feel particular feminine, and I am more or less asexual, and not leaning more towards one gender than the other. I am just as happy being considered female or male, but I just don't like making people feel embarrassed.
And people usually do get embarrassed when having thought of me as female, when I tell them that my body is male.
So one point of not calling myself Silkyfur, would be to keep people from being embarrassed about my gender.
I have already gotten some thoughts from people about this, but I am curious to hear any advice and thoughts that my watchers might have, in regards to the name-thing. I can't quite decide, myself.
Did you first believe I was female?
Do you think I should have the name Silkyfur or Furtail on a badge?
Do you have any personal preferences on the names in question?
As I have mentioned previously, when I first signed up to FA, I had no intention of being active here, and I did not think I would make new friends through FA. How wrong one can be!
So, I signed up on FA, using the name Silkyfur, a nickname that previously only were the name of a roleplayed character, not a name that I identified myself with in any way.
I've never liked the name I was given at birth, so I've always chosen nicknames for myself, and most people I socialise with IRL knows me as Furtail, the initial name I chose for myself, when I first got on the net. Furtail is probably the name I identify myself with the most. Much more than any other name or nickname I have ever had.
However, I am not about to switch to a new account now, so I guess I'll just keep calling myself Silkyfur, as far as the name of the account goes. I also suppose that the visual representation of myself as an anthro bull could be called Silkyfur, since that's the name I was using when I commissioned the various pieces of artwork of myself as anthro bull.
One of the reasons I am pondering this now, is that I am thinking of maybe sooner or later commission a badge or two for myself, and I can't really decide on which name to put on the badge; my initial name (Furtail), or the name that by mistake has gotten associated with my character (Silkyfur).
Most of my old friends obviously think of me as Furtail, and all of my new friends here obviously think of me as Silkyfur.
I don't mind the name Silkyfur, I do like the name, and I am getting used to it. However, should I in the future be on a con, and someone shouts for me over a distance, I am sure I would react more easily to the name Furtail being shouted, and I might not even react if someone would shout for Silkyfur.
I was pretty sure that I was going to change my name all-together, from Silkyfur to Furtail, until quite recently, I had more than one person spontaneously tell me that they think Silkyfur is a really nice name. And well, yeah, I do like both names.
One slight confusion that the name Silkyfur seems to bring forth though, is that several people have thought that I am female, as the name Silkyfur seems to be a bit of a feminine name.
I don't mind people thinking I am female. I consider myself gender neutral, and while my body is male, I don't feel particular masculine. Nor do I feel particular feminine, and I am more or less asexual, and not leaning more towards one gender than the other. I am just as happy being considered female or male, but I just don't like making people feel embarrassed.
And people usually do get embarrassed when having thought of me as female, when I tell them that my body is male.
So one point of not calling myself Silkyfur, would be to keep people from being embarrassed about my gender.
I have already gotten some thoughts from people about this, but I am curious to hear any advice and thoughts that my watchers might have, in regards to the name-thing. I can't quite decide, myself.
Did you first believe I was female?
Do you think I should have the name Silkyfur or Furtail on a badge?
Do you have any personal preferences on the names in question?
Silkyfur =/= Furtail. Almost the same thing really.
I do like both names equally much, as far as names go. I am just as happy being called Silky/Silkyfur, as being called Furtail, so I won't ask people to change the way they address me. :)
I just have to figure out which name to put on badges.
Thank you for helping me with your thoughts on the matter. :)
My pleasure. I am happy you are happy with both names it is what will make you you as a whole! :)
Since it's the internet, you can go by whatever you want and I'm sure no onewould have any trouble learning a new name for you if you did want to change. I say keep the account and the name Silkyfur, but name your sona Furtail. A lot of people have separate names for thier accounts and their characters. Like me, RattleCan is a character of mine, but not my sona. However, since my sona's name is merely Dragon, it would be impossible toget it as a username. So, I've grow n used to responding to both names. Friends IRL call me Dragon, Dragon is my sona, people on here call me RattleCan, and RattleCan is my username. It doesn't hurt to have two names, or to have different people know you by different names. Just choose whatever name you like for your bull, and people will learn to work with it :) And sorry my phone isn't letting me backspace or correct grammar errors >_<
This is all helpful info for me in deciding. :) I'll probably let people call me whatever they wish to call me. Now, I just have to decide what name to use on the badges... all input is helpful in my decision. ...and no worries about any grammar errors! :)
I'm used to your username Silkyfur, but it's all up to you. You have to feel comfortable about it!
Btw, I feel kinda gender neutral too sometimes. I often see myself as..well, just a human being..
I am a heterosexual, and I am aware of my body, but most of the time I prefer loose clothes and often were baggy jeans from my brother :P (I do like to dress like a girl sometimes though, but not because it's feminine, but I just think it's pretty)
Apart from having a boyfriend (which is a very good friend aswell, so maybe that's the reason I have one xD I don't feel very lonely anymore) I have no interest in other guys or girls anymore..I'm very monogamous, but also, people don't really attract me anymore..not sure why, maybe there's something wrong with my hormones.. :|
Sorry for my rambling! *hug*
I like both names equally, and I am equally happy being called either, so I won't ask anyone to change which name they wish to call me by. I just have to figure out which name to have on a badge, once I commission someone to do a badge for me. Thanks for your input, it is helpful to get the input from different people. :)
No worries about your rambling! *hugs back* It does not necessarily have to be anything wrong with your hormones, it could just be that since you feel monogamous, that you are subconsciously or consciously focusing your attraction on your boyfriend, so that other people does not attract you anymore. I don't think that is very uncommon, but of course, this is just a guess.
I also feel monogamous, and I would have liked to have a non-sexual, monogamous, emotional relationship with someone. I have had non-sexual relationships with friends, but they have not been asexual, and they've had sex with other people, and it did not work out in the long run. So I have settled with being on my own. I have several friends I love dearly and closely, and that is great, because the love is returned.
With me, I am pretty sure that I have just very low levels of either of the gender-defining hormones. I do grow a beard, however, but I think that's the only sign that I have any testosterone in me at all. *smiles*
my own username for example is no accident it has its beginning from when I was 4 years old and I have used it everywhere since. but to go into details about it is no point
And I really like both Furtail and Silkyfur as names... if I liked one less than the other, it would have been easier to choose.
Wow, it's cool that your username originated from so long ago! ...and I am glad because it means you are not likely to change your name. You know how much I love your username!
As already started from others I'd go with the name you feel is "right": you have to be comfortable with it, no one else. :>
I will go with whatever you choose there.
Thanks for the input!
Thank you for the input! It's really helpful!
So about names? Either way really.
Thanks for your input!
If they only know your "avatar" then their black magic is deflected upon a projected manifestation of yourself and not upon your physical self.
It's one of those superstitions that I believe may have some truth to it based upon TP, TK, Neurological Electromagnetism, etc.
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As to the questions :
I never assumed you weren't male but maybe I'm just weird.
Go with Furtail if that's what you feel comfortable with. It's not about us, it's about you. You need to be at ease with yourself before others can be comfortable around you. Put simply...It would make me happy to address you in a way that makes you feel good about yourself.
If someone puts positive energy into you by their intent then you need to direct that energy towards an identity manifestation of your own that you truly feel comfortable with... otherwise you won't feel the benefit of the "vibes" they're beaming at you.
For instance...If I referred to myself as "patri0t_Ta1iban_Ki11az" on the internet then I would not feel the positive (or negative) energy of anyone else who might respond to that identity manifestation because it would be wholly incompatible with anything approaching my real self.
...and well, I am personally equally happy with both names, and I do feel like I can just as happily go with either. If I had been leaning more towards one or the other, I wouldn't have needed help with other people's opinion on the matter. :)
Thanks for your input!
Thanks for your input!
I like randomly arting stuff for people, causing happy emotions makes me feel happy.
And you certainly succeed in making me happy! :)